I'm Dreading Trying Online Dating

[SwordofFlame]

OP I really think you'd have a better chance of finding your ideal women on Tinder. Just post a ton of shirtless selfies once you've lost the weight. Either that or start competing in bodybuilding competitions. I'm serious.

[CosmicGate7]

So only overweight and older woman show interest in RL ... Same online or no one at all ... OP ... You are handsome ...very ethnic looking but nonetheless handsome/nice features ...your cheeks are very full and you've mentioned you want a chiseled look ... But ...When you're older you'll be thankful for the extra fat because you'll keep a youthful look longer as you have extra fat to lose ...no sunken cheeks for you

 

It is true that your look will only appeal to a certain percentage of woman. So that's part of the issue. However ...it's interesting you only post a face pic here ... You know what they say about people who post only face pics right? Maybe you are overweight ... if you are and you want a really in shape beautiful girl ... You have to change you. You've mentioned that you want to get in better shape ....even with your 56" shoulders ... I just don't see how bulking up like the guys whose pix you posted is going to overcome the issue of parts of your personality ... You truly do feel entitled to have a girl who looks like the ones in the pix you posted ... But your dating market value isn't pulling these types so you must adjust your expectations or adjust you ... You say you just want a loving relationship but I think you want it all and think you're deserving of it all ... adjust expectations ... You are who you are. I think a large dose of humility is the best medicine for what ails you.

 

 

I don't have puffy cheeks, my face is actually pretty lean/defined in real life. This is what I'm talking about when I say I look much better in real life than pictures.

 

 

You can see it here - http://s22.postimg.org/4exoahe81/20150303_144132.jpg

 

 

and no, I'm very muscular in real life. I can post a full body shot if you like but too lazy to take one now, I have very wide upper body with a good midsection

 

 

As far as adjusting expectations, I feel like I am already. If I looked at dating the same way I look at everything else in life, I would expect a top 1-2% hot girl with everything going for her. In reality, I'm attracted to maybe 20% of women I see my age. I think that's plenty reasonable

[CosmicGate7]

Jesus, come to L.A. You will fit right in.

 

 

I lived in LA while ago. It's nice but it is crazy expensive. If I'm making 180K, I want to feel like I'm really balling. If you're making that in LA, yea you're getting by but you're not stuffing 4K a month into a savings account or living on a 5000 square foot property.

 

 

Plus all my friends and family are out here. I absolutely adore the people in my circle, I don't want to move away from them. I have the best mom and dad in the world.

[CosmicGate7]

OP I really think you'd have a better chance of finding your ideal women on Tinder. Just post a ton of shirtless selfies once you've lost the weight. Either that or start competing in bodybuilding competitions. I'm serious.

 

 

I'm in a weird boat. I love women who workout but I don't know if I'm into the hardest competition crowd. I love food, I enjoy my drinks and I love a pretty loose and carefree lifestyle. Don't get me wrong - I still kill myself at the gym and make sure I eat the correct range of calories to get big or get ripped but my approach is probably a lot more loose than the hardcore competition crowd

 

 

I would probably be better off with women who workout just as a hobby.

[lino]

If the Op wants to use tinder, then it's hardly a huge deal to spend 10 minutes creating an empty Facebook account is it. How much time has he spent on this thread?

 

And as to hostility, it's because no matter what anyone suggests on this and all his other threads using this name or another, he always has the answer. It gets pretty old afterwards when you realise he isn't really looking for help

 

If he doesn't want Facebook, that's his right. Not everyone wants to be a lemming and conform.

Tinder is garbage and definitely not a solution to his problems.

 

Not answering this guys posts costs nothing and is less stressful than being unnecessarily hostile

 

Some on here love sh*tting on others though so I guess it's fun for them.

[lino]

I can learn a lot from a guy who is my exact mirror in personality and hobbies?

 

He's on right, I'm on left

 

http://s27.postimg.org/v143c26j7/IMG_0948.png

 

If you believe so, then do learn from him. It'll serve you a lot better than coming on here and being trashed by bored people.

 

Well to be fair, I think most guys would rather have that problem vs being ignored by most women online.

 

Of course they would. It isn't a 'problem' at all.

[CosmicGate7]

 

 

Of course they would. It isn't a 'problem' at all.

 

 

It's embarrassing anybody would call that a problem

 

It's about as much of a problem as billionaires having too much money

[joseb]

If he doesn't want Facebook, that's his right. Not everyone wants to be a lemming and conform.

Tinder is garbage and definitely not a solution to his problems.

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Yeah I agree Facebook shytes me too, I hate sitting in a coffee shop watching people checking it like addicts.

 

But it's required for a lot of social media networking apps like tinder, happn, etc. And like it or not, this is how a lot of younger people especially are meeting these days.

As a single person you can either ignore it or try to embrace it.

 

People are quick to rubbish it, but i actually think tinder is ok, definitely a lot better than old school online dating sites.

[CosmicGate7]

Yeah I agree Facebook shytes me too, I hate sitting in a coffee shop watching people checking it like addicts.

 

But it's required for a lot of social media networking apps like tinder, happn, etc. And like it or not, this is how a lot of younger people especially are meeting these days.

As a single person you can either ignore it or try to embrace it.

 

People are quick to rubbish it, but i actually think tinder is ok, definitely a lot better than old school online dating sites.

 

 

 

I never did the Facebook thing because I hate writing about myself, I hate taking pictures, etc...

[S_A]

I'm technically Armenian which is like half Arab half European.

 

Well... Armenians are technically Caucasian. As are the Greeks you cited. You don't look Caucasian though, and that's likely because you're an Armenian that comes from an Arab country or Iran.