Miss Peach Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I am dating an old-fashioned guy who insists on paying for all our dates and generally just treats me very well. We've been dating almost 6 months now so it's way past the point where I need him to do half the things he is doing but I do appreciate it. I want to do nice things for him to reciprocate beyond just thanking him. So far I have been doing things like if he is cooking dinner I'll bring a side or dessert. Or I'll bring treats he likes. I've baked him cookies. I listen to him vent about his problems. I have cooked him dinner. Things like that. I was hoping to get some more ideas about little things I could do that would be easy to incorporate our dates since I feel a lot of the things I've been doing are getting stale. Most of our dates are dinner dates (either at a restaurant or at home) but every once in a while there is an activity instead.
d0nnivain Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Since you are already doing the baked goods things, I'd just start ambushing the waiter staff so you can pay the checks when you go out. Basically, when dinner is ending, you excuse yourself to the ladies' room but detour to find the server on your way. Slip that person your credit card with an explanation that if the dinner check hits the table there will be a power struggle for it. Powder your nose, return to the table & handle the bill when it's delivered. When your guy protests, explain that you are endeared by his chivalry but your sneaky methods to pay won't be necessary in the future if he will be more equitable going forward. 2
alphamale Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I was hoping to get some more ideas about little things I could do that would be easy to incorporate our dates since I feel a lot of the things I've been doing are getting stale. Most of our dates are dinner dates (either at a restaurant or at home) but every once in a while there is an activity instead. you could take him out to the nudie bar no, just kidding, buy two tickets to an event he may like, sports, concert, a Trump rally 1
Author Miss Peach Posted October 27, 2015 Author Posted October 27, 2015 Since you are already doing the baked goods things, I'd just start ambushing the waiter staff so you can pay the checks when you go out. Basically, when dinner is ending, you excuse yourself to the ladies' room but detour to find the server on your way. Slip that person your credit card with an explanation that if the dinner check hits the table there will be a power struggle for it. Powder your nose, return to the table & handle the bill when it's delivered. When your guy protests, explain that you are endeared by his chivalry but your sneaky methods to pay won't be necessary in the future if he will be more equitable going forward. I feel he's just trying to be good to me so I don't want to undermine him. It's touchy because I don't want him to feel he has to but I want him to know I appreciate it when he does. you could take him out to the nudie bar no, just kidding, buy two tickets to an event he may like, sports, concert, a Trump rally That's a good idea... I wouldn't mind the nudie bar but he dislikes them. I tried to suggest going to a film showing but he bought my ticket more than a month in advance before I had the chance to buy them. There are a few things on groupon where I can get tickets for two. Maybe I'll try that.
kilgore Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I feel he's just trying to be good to me so I don't want to undermine him. It's touchy because I don't want him to feel he has to but I want him to know I appreciate it when he does. That's a good idea... I wouldn't mind the nudie bar but he dislikes them. I tried to suggest going to a film showing but he bought my ticket more than a month in advance before I had the chance to buy them. There are a few things on groupon where I can get tickets for two. Maybe I'll try that. buy him a mankini
Author Miss Peach Posted October 28, 2015 Author Posted October 28, 2015 buy him a mankini Haha. I'm sure he'll love one of those!
avintagegirl Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 What about purchasing nice seats at the symphony as a surprise? If it turns out he can't make it, they are usually really good about working with you to find another concert to attend.
StBreton Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 I often find myself in the same situation Here are a few things I've done -comedy club tickets -romantic picnic -make a music CD of his favorites -go to a restaurant that has byob and you bring a really nice bottle of wine -get him something monogrammed ..a robe, wallet, money clip -get tickets to a charity golf tournament -nicely framed pic of the 2 of you for his house -candle in a nice vase Sounds like you've got a keeper ...and so does he:) 1
crederer Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Paraphrasing here but "He's old school, what gift can I get to show appreciation" Tools. If a woman I was dating bought me a new set of chisels I'd be pretty impressed.
xcupid Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Does he want or need "things" from you or does he want or need the qualities you bring to the relationship? Maybe what you already do for him is enough - just keep doing those things.
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