LoveRefreshed Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Just curious- Let's say you've been in a new relationship with a person, and their ex was a long time friend (10+ years) who they thought they would try a relationship with (lasted 3 months, before breaking up) but didn't work out. Let's say they had made a commitment to go to a friends wedding together before breaking up. Would you be upset if they were to still go? Would you be okay with it? I am trying not to come off jealous or insecure, but a part of my mind is concerned. I voiced those concerns, which were taken seriously. She did inform the guy that any romantic relationship was indeed over and they are going as just friends. Just curious. I am taking the whole "Just be open and honest with me if anything happens" attitude, but it seems a bit complacent and passive. However, I'm afraid that being assertive in this will just make me look overly jealous. Two months compared to ten years is nothing.
PegNosePete Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 So they were together for 3 months after being friends for 10 years? How long ago did they split up? It is a bit weird. Do the bride and groom know they are no longer together? Do they have a his 'n' hers invitation? Why are they going together, not as 2 singles, both of whom would normally have a +1? I'm not saying she should be taking you instead - 2 months is very soon to be going to a wedding together! But them having a "couple" invitation after breaking up is pretty weird.
Author LoveRefreshed Posted October 27, 2015 Author Posted October 27, 2015 They broke up less than two months ago. Essentially she said it was a rebound after he divorce, and they have been friends for most her marriage. She's also told me embarrassing things about him (that he has a penis smaller than my thumb poor guy). It is a Halloween wedding and they committed to going together while they were still together a few months back. She basically broke up with him the first week we met. There are many posts about this girl in terms of her sexuality, but in general, I am growing to trust her a lot and she is very open and honest with me about everything. I'm more worried that this is a recipe for disaster, not that she's going to cheat and lie, but sleep with him and then tell me. Anyway, yes, I prefer honesty, but I prefer monogamy. Oh, and yesterday when we were in bed, she mentioned that she is falling in love with me, or that it's already too late for the falling part. So I am feeling more and more trust. Just worried moreover about the situation. Wedding. Booze. Long time friend.
PegNosePete Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I'm more worried that this is a recipe for disaster, not that she's going to cheat and lie, but sleep with him and then tell me. Well if she does then you just move on. With less than 2 months under your belts you barely know each other so if that happens you just dump and move on. 1
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