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Please help!! breakup - potential kids safety (short)

Confusioncreepsin

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Confusioncreepsin Established Member

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Very quick read....

 

Ex gf (mother of 2 small kids) and I broke up some time ago. During the stage of breaking, she was seeing someone else that was spending night, etc. Basically cheating on me with this dude, but it is over with us now. Back during the breaking, I was inclined to find out more about this guy since I was mad, hurt etc. Turns out he is a recent 2013 felon that served for homicide/murder and attempted burglary. I loved the kids (3 & 5) to death, but I am really concerned about this guy being there at night with them. I know the ex dad informally. Should I tell him what I know ONLY for the safety of the kids, or butt out and stay out. I don't want anything to do with her, but she obviously has a bad picker and truly scared for the kids..

 

Please advise....I am really torn. I have been NC for about a month 100%. The information I have was acquired during the breaking part from her....

 

Please help. Need your opinion.

Thank you

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Confusioncreepsin Established Member

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Bump for assistance, just wanted a neutral opinion.

d0nnivain Established Member

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I take it they are not your kids?

 

If you otherwise have an independent relationship with their Bio dad, fine, tell him but if you are reaching out to him out of the blue, don't bother.

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Confusioncreepsin Established Member

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They are not my kids at all, but I was dating the mom for 2 years. She had them with the ex husband, which I have an informal relationship. I am not trying to get involved again in any way, but the mom's selection of new boyfriend just concerns me in regards to the kids safety. I don't know what to do...walk away since I have been NC and let my brain understand that the kids will be ok, or tell the ex husband so he has a choice in the matter.......

d0nnivain Established Member

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I'd be loathe to get involved but I understand why you are concerned. If the info was so easy to come by, don't you think the bio dad will figure it out on his own?

mightycpa Established Member

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I'm a dad, and if I was in that situation, I'd appreciate a heads up. Bring some evidence with you, and offer to leave it with him.

 

Then your moral obligation is over.

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I'd tell him. I assume you got a criminal history on the guy from a court or law enforcement agency? Just hearsay doesn't really cut it.

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