bluefeather Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I don't wanna leave breadcrumbs but I wish she would get over this. I broke up with someone over a year ago because she took me for granted and was verbally abusive. I tried to salvage the relationship by bringing up the problems but she would not listen, so I ended it. And despite how angry and hurt I was by this person, the relationship was years long... I have already moved on, but she will occasionally send me an email. I could never find it in my heart to block that part of her communication, but I never reply. I know that anything I say will just further her pain and set her back in her healing process, but I feel like this isn't fair to me either. I hurt so much that she is still struggling. Yes, she hurt me a lot, but I don't wish for her to feel any more pain. I just want her to be ok. But I know I can't tell her anything about that. I've tried. All it did was bring her more pain.
makemineamac Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Sorry about this. Question, could you not send her one last email letting her know that you're sorry she is still in the state she is in and to seek help? And let her know that her email will be blocked going forward, and that you wish her peace. Then, block her email and be done with it. What was the reason for not blocking her email again? 1
Author bluefeather Posted October 28, 2015 Author Posted October 28, 2015 Sorry about this. Question, could you not send her one last email letting her know that you're sorry she is still in the state she is in and to seek help? And let her know that her email will be blocked going forward, and that you wish her peace. Then, block her email and be done with it. What was the reason for not blocking her email again? I don't know if I should do that. It sounds like a nice gesture, but I have already sent her more than one final email. Maybe I will consider it, but she told me once already that she did try seeing a therapist. Maybe I should tell her something one last time, like you said that I wish her peace and that I will block her email. But I just feel like... I shouldn't say anything at all to her. Like anything said, no matter the intention, will bring her distress. I just couldn't block her email because that was the last way that she would contact me, and even though we should not talk... what if there was an emergency..? :sigh: I guess that should not be any of my business. Maybe a part of me just wishes that she could be ok enough so that we could exchange an occasional email every once in a while, as adults who were able to move on... but I guess I am wrong to think that, at least right now. There needs to be more time of NC. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 You need to block. Retaining this lifeline is holding both of you back. She knows she has access to you, and it keeps you periodically in the muck. It's time to block. You can unblock later down the road, but there's no need to stubbornly keep this open. You aren't doing you or her favors right now. Block it. 3
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