stillafool Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Random people both men and women come up to me and tell me I'm pretty. Most people just stare at me. I've had people say I'm intimidating so it has more to do with my demeanor. There are average looking people who get special treatment bc they have outgoing personalities and they are very likable. You should work on this quality (being likeable) since you already have the looks.
Author lostgirl5 Posted October 27, 2015 Author Posted October 27, 2015 Then why get mad because your boyfriends ex was prettier. Just be happy that you get attention too. Who said she was prettier? He didn't say she was prettier. I'm sure people only did things for her because of her personality. I pride myself on being intelligent, funny, and talented. I understand looks aren't everything. He stopped seeing her she wasn't even his gf bc her personality sucked.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Who said she was prettier? He didn't say she was prettier. I'm sure people only did things for her because of her personality. I pride myself on being intelligent, funny, and talented. I understand looks aren't everything. He stopped seeing her she wasn't even his gf bc her personality sucked. So what's the problem, then? If you know you are a better option for him and that you are apparently better-looking, there shouldn't be any issue. 1
losangelena Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 What do you want us to say, OP? Yes, your boyfriend is a big hairy a***ole. Better? You asked a question and we answered—we do think you're blowing things out of proportion. Don't get defensive because it's not what you want to hear. Taking constructive criticism in stride can reap a lot of benefits, so while it might not be easy to hear, maybe listen to what people are trying to tell you. Besides, YOU'RE the one who asked. 3
Buddhist Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 you haven't seen me so how would you know? Most of the time I am the most attractive girl in the room. With that said there have been times girls were equally pretty or almost as pretty. Things would prob be different if I lived in a different state but that is my reality. Silly, insecure and now I think we can also add narcissistic. 1
J21 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Princess syndrome. The world doesn't owe you anything just because you're pretty (or think you are). Stop feeling so entitled. 3
PegNosePete Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Those other people get free stuff because they are attractive and nice. They know how to use what they've got to get free stuff. You don't. 2
candie13 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I do believe it's annoying and frustrating when a man we really like holds a torch in a special way towards a woman in his past. Let me tell ya... there's nothing you can do about it. There will always be a prettier woman he dates. MAybe a more successful woman. Maybe a woman he had better sex with. But always remember that it didn't work with any of those women. That is your key learning. So don't look back. Focus on today and on having a good time. Getting to know him. That's about it. Sorry, no more valuable advice. oh... you could always do a bit of hot and cold to play with his mind and make sure you have his full attention. You need to keep them keen to keep them entertained, that's for sure 1
candie13 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Those other people get free stuff because they are attractive and nice. They know how to use what they've got to get free stuff. You don't. Not necessarily. Other people get free stuff because they ask - or know how to ask. Guts and charm. Or because they are manipulative. Or because they make other people feel better about themselves - which is again, manipulation. Plenty of reasons why other people get stuff. For sure, a smile opens loads more doors than a frown.
empresario Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Silly, insecure and now I think we can also add narcissistic. Some self-reassurance comes from narcissism. Some comes from insecurity. I believe hers is the latter. She doesn't actually believe the things she's saying. She just believes if she says them enough times maybe they will be true. That's the difference between narcissism and ignorance. 2
seekingluck Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 how do you use your looks to make money, OP ? It's not about looks, it's about attitude - some women simply know how to work their charm to get stuff. It's in their ADN. Do you also want to get other stuff easier ? Look flirty, dress more provocatively and smile wide at the bouncer when in line at a club. Works like a charm, everytime. Sure the eternal question is: you need that because.... why? Will that make you feel better about yourself? Will your bf like you/ appreciate you more ? Will you still be yourself? And where do you need that appreciation from? A person at a gym and some bouncers? Really? Is that it ?!? or you want them to be looking at you but you'd like it better if your bf was around to witness it? If you really want to get "free stuff" because of your looks learn to be more charming.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 you haven't seen me so how would you know? Most of the time I am the most attractive girl in the room. With that said there have been times girls were equally pretty or almost as pretty. The best thing you can do for yourself is to develop your mind. The attractive ones garner attention without doing anything, so they so often just let that attention entertain them and occupy their lives. If you really want to win friends and influence people then develop your mind to go with your beauty.
boltam Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 He stopped seeing her she wasn't even his gf bc her personality sucked. If that's the case then it's unlikely he's going to stay with you either. 2
stillafool Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Who said she was prettier? He didn't say she was prettier. I'm sure people only did things for her because of her personality. I pride myself on being intelligent, funny, and talented. I understand looks aren't everything. He stopped seeing her she wasn't even his gf bc her personality sucked. So other people would fall all over themselves to do things for her (now it's not because of her looks) because of her personality. Yet your bf broke up with her because her personality sucked. Uh huh, this doesn't make sense.
Httm Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 you haven't seen me so how would you know? Most of the time I am the most attractive girl in the room. With that said there have been times girls were equally pretty or almost as pretty. Things would prob be different if I lived in a different state but that is my reality. Wow. True colors alert! If anyone you ever dated saw this comment, they would run far, far away. Amazing.
seekingluck Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 you haven't seen me so how would you know? Most of the time I am the most attractive girl in the room. With that said there have been times girls were equally pretty or almost as pretty. Things would prob be different if I lived in a different state but that is my reality. I'm not that pretty. I get free stuff. I am super likable and friendly. It works amazingly well! But if you think just being "attractive" is your ticket to good treatment and the good life you've got a lot to learn. Although not always true, you get what you you put out in the universe. Expecting to get free stuff doesn't mean you deserve it. 1
deadelvis Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Wow, y'all must be real ugly to get this butt-hurt over a girl saying she's attractive. At least she's upfront about it. I don't get why there's so much misdirected hostility. I actually think OP sounds like a pretty level-headed person. She's hot, but she doesn't flaunt it or use it to seek attention. In my experience that's a sign of being genuinely attractive. It's always the 7.5's who seek attention. The 9.5's just want to be left alone. OP. Don't stress about the posters and feedback you're getting. Haters. All of em. As for the comment your BF made, I'd let it go. You are probably hotter than hell in july. I'm sure he and everyone else knows it. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Yeah it's silly, as you were talking about it. His experience that he brought to the discussion was relevant. He might be forgiven for thinking that you could handle it given that you were both talking about the topic. If he'd come outta nowhere and said 'hey, you know that my ex was way hotter, right?' then that's one thing... but he brought something up in context and you need to develop the maturity to let it go. 1
deadelvis Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 acrosstheuniverse always comes correct with advice. Listen to her. She knows what she's talking about.
introverted1 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Yes, it's silly to get upset. Your bf's comment was on topic. The fact that someone has favors done for him/her is not only related to physical appearance. Sometimes, people just want to help someone who seems friendly. Beyond this, the definition of attractiveness varies from person to person. What is silly is making statements like "Usually, I am the most attractive person in the room" because this implies some universal agreement on what comprises attractiveness. Even if we were to only debate physical appearance, this is tremendous variation is what is considered "most" attractive. I think a better question for you to ponder is: why does it bother you so much that your bf related an anecdote about another woman? 1
Author lostgirl5 Posted October 27, 2015 Author Posted October 27, 2015 So other people would fall all over themselves to do things for her (now it's not because of her looks) because of her personality. Yet your bf broke up with her because her personality sucked. Uh huh, this doesn't make sense. Apparently you are a fool he likes me bc I am standoffish and I have a dark dry sense of humor he said he hated her sense of humor. I am probably more friendly than he is so if she was outgoing and friendly I can see how that would bother him. Anyway I am over this thread apparently most of you can't handle honesty. It's ok for a butterface to say she has a nice body or a nerd to say she's smart but when a pretty girl knows she's pretty that is unacceptable.
boltam Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 when a pretty girl knows she's pretty that is unacceptable. How does a girl really know she's pretty? Obviously we've all got a good load of self bias. Some of us think we're really hot when we're really not, some of us think we're butt ugly but that's the self esteem rearing it's ugly head. How do you know you're a pretty girl? Because some guy told you that? Not good enough
deadelvis Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 How does a girl really know she's pretty? Obviously we've all got a good load of self bias. Some of us think we're really hot when we're really not, some of us think we're butt ugly but that's the self esteem rearing it's ugly head. How do you know you're a pretty girl? Because some guy told you that? Not good enough They know. My GF had a company flying her to LA once a month to model for them. They would also fly her to different cities to meet her fans and sign autographs. That's how you know you're hot.
boltam Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 They know. My GF had a company flying her to LA once a month to model for them. They would also fly her to different cities to meet her fans and sign autographs. That's how you know you're hot. Ok, sure in cases like that. But in the case of the girl that started this thread? How would SHE know? She did say something about using her looks for money but even ugly hookers can turn a trick. 2
deadelvis Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 They know. It's pretty obvious by the way every guy in the world tries to get in their pants.
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