What's wrong with me?

[JohnDoe93]

Hello everyone. In the beginning I'd like to point out English is only my second languague I am learning right now so sorry for mistakes.

 

I really have no idea what's wrong with me. Or if it's me. I am desperately looking for a girlfriend. I'm just this kind of a person who can't just live alone. Everything loses meaning for me when I am single. Everything gets worse and worse in my everyday life.

 

Everytime I find some girl attractive she has a boyfriend. Attractive in all ways I mean. I do not have problems with girls like ... well I am confident, not so bad looking, right now at university so I think I'm not that stupid either and actually ... I have sex with these girls. I know I am a terrible guy, they are in a relationship. Dunno how I'm doing it, really. But I want love ... not sex.

 

I've met this girl two months earlier. She is sooooooo beautiful, she is exactly my type, really small, like 160 cm max, superb body, really funny, a bit weird, clever and the sex .... god the best one I've ever had. She's been in a relationship for some time, over two years I think, but they were arguing from the very beginning. They broke up and we started seeing each other. God ... finally I felt happy. She was sooooo nice to me. Cudling, taking care of me when I got sick, looking after me. Holding my hand everytime she could, telling me how strong I am, how funny I am, how goodlooking I am, screaming "this is the best sex I've ever had" during sex. Telling all her friends and family that I am the reason of her happiness. God I was so happy tho she was talking a lot about her ex, but only in a bad way. Well then he texted her he loves her and wants back etc. and she slept with him ... she was crying, apologizing etc., but since then ... she started talking about him more and more and slowly started ignoring me. Now she doesn't text at all. She is not jumping two meters high when I text her back as she used to. She is seeing him but only crying and being sad etc. What should I do? I can't get her out of my mind ... I was used to stones .. now I found myself a diamond. And *poof* it's gone. I didn't change my attitude, I treat her as good as I could, surprised her with red roses, carried her around the town in my arms because her leg hurt ... What did I do wrong?

 

And it's not just her ... all of them. They are all almost always in a bad relationship or they broke up recently. They all tell me how amazing I am, they cudle, they do all this relationship stuff etc. and then they get back to their exs or just dump me. In a matter of days. Why? Just why? Am I destined to be without love for the rest of my life?

 

I admit .. I am picky ... I got this type of mine ... basically every my sex mate or in the past girlfriend look the same. I do not find other girls/women attractive at all ... no idea why.

 

I am 23 btw and it's been a year since I broke up with my love after 3 years of relationship. Since then ... everything gets worse and worse.

 

It might look like I am "man whore" but I assure you .. I am not. I never slept with more than one girl at one time. I wouldn't even dare to "cheat on" my sex mates ... well because .. I always expect more, they even tell me how badly they fell for me and they even plan future with me and then suddenly ignore me and find sb else or in most of the cases get back to their exs.

 

I do not get it ... I just want sb to make her feel like a princess. I want to wake my girlfriend with a breakfest and a kiss on her lips, take her sighseeing, go to a theatre, cinema, teach her how to drive a car. Be there for her whenever she needs, always support her. I just ... I just want to have somebody to share my love and life with.

 

Sorry for TLDR.

Edited October 27, 2015 by JohnDoe93

[JohnDoe93]

nobody here can tell me what am I doing wrong? why every girl dump me after saying they'd like to be with me. everytime they do I am so pleased I buy a flower or something to surprise them and say: me too. Then they flee back to their exs ... do women really love bad guys only? coz everytime i start being the good one or show any interest in dating they flee.

[pteromom]

Everytime I find some girl attractive she has a boyfriend.I have sex with these girls. I know I am a terrible guy, they are in a relationship. Dunno how I'm doing it, really. But I want love ... not sex.

 

I've met this girl...She's been in a relationship for some time, over two years I think, but they were arguing from the very beginning. They broke up and we started seeing each other. ..

 

Well then he texted her he loves her and wants back etc. and she slept with him ... she was crying, apologizing etc., but since then ... she started talking about him more and more and slowly started ignoring me. Now she doesn't text at all. She is not jumping two meters high when I text her back as she used to. She is seeing him but only crying and being sad etc.

 

... I was used to stones .. now I found myself a diamond. And *poof* it's gone.

 

... What did I do wrong?

 

What I am getting from your story is that you pursued women with boyfriends, you finally succeeded in stealing one away from her boyfriend, and now are shocked that you chose a girl who was easily stolen away from you.

 

And it's not just her ... all of them. They are all almost always in a bad relationship or they broke up recently. They all tell me how amazing I am, they cudle, they do all this relationship stuff etc. and then they get back to their exs or just dump me. In a matter of days. Why? Just why? Am I destined to be without love for the rest of my life?

 

It's your picker.

 

I admit .. I am picky ... I got this type of mine ... basically every my sex mate or in the past girlfriend look the same. I do not find other girls/women attractive at all ... no idea why.

 

That's fine. You just have to add circumstances, behavior, and character to your checklist. If she is in a relationship or not healed from a recent relationship, she is a no.

[warshaw]

Date single girls.