Gaeta Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Well think about it this way. When you fall in love for the first time, there is an explosion of feeling. It is overwhelming. You remember romanticising marrying that person. That person is your everything. It is intense and rich in emotion. You cant tell me you don't know what I am talking about. It makes it so sweet and memorable. You don't quite love the same way afterwards, especially with such intensity. And the more and more people you let into your life it just becomes more routine. Completely wrong. I am 50 years old and I have fell in love more than once in my life. Each time I loved these men deeply and would have given my life in a heart beat for them. Was my first love deep and intense? Yes, but was it the most intense and deepest of my life? NO. Because as I grow older I love deeper and better and more intensely. Each love I have experience was DIFFERENT because I experienced it with different men. What is your experience with love to make such statements? 1
Hopeful30 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Don't listen to what they say. My first "love" was really f*cked up, and thankfully I learned from that and have only healthier and healthier relationships as I go. Your order in her loves means absolutely nothing. We all love every boyfriend differently anyways. If you think of all your exes, you don't feel the exact same about all of them, even though you loved all of them. It's about connecting with a person on a level they haven't connected with anyone else. All of this "firsts" and "lasts" is semantics. When someones loves YOU, it's the first time they love the way they love YOU. And they will never love anyone else like how they loved you, be it their first or 100th lover.
GorillaTheater Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Has another tread about wanting to have sex with his underage cousin.. And she wasn't his First Love? 1
losangelena Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Well think about it this way. When you fall in love for the first time, there is an explosion of feeling. It is overwhelming. You remember romanticising marrying that person. That person is your everything. It is intense and rich in emotion. You cant tell me you don't know what I am talking about. It makes it so sweet and memorable. You don't quite love the same way afterwards, especially with such intensity. And the more and more people you let into your life it just becomes more routine. I think you're assuming that the first person you crush on/date/have sex with is also always the first person you fall in love with. I'm 35, have dated plenty, even had a one-year relationship, yet have never had that explosion of feeling, nor have I romanticize the notion of marriage. What you're describing sounds like infatuation/limerence, not love. Stop fetishizing the idea of first love, dude. It's not the end-all, be-all.
Author loverage21 Posted October 30, 2015 Author Posted October 30, 2015 I think you're assuming that the first person you crush on/date/have sex with is also always the first person you fall in love with. I'm 35, have dated plenty, even had a one-year relationship, yet have never had that explosion of feeling, nor have I romanticize the notion of marriage. What you're describing sounds like infatuation/limerence, not love. Stop fetishizing the idea of first love, dude. It's not the end-all, be-all. No I am not assuming that. The first person you date doesn't necessarily mean you fall in love with that person. I am talking about first LOVE. As in a first serious relationship.
Author loverage21 Posted October 30, 2015 Author Posted October 30, 2015 And she wasn't his First Love? Love and sex are two different things. You can have sex with someone without an emotional attachment
basil67 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 You don't think the first love creates a benchmark of what we want in future relationships? I guess it depends on what you think of as a 'benchmark'. My first love taught me that I never again want to date a man who has a temper and that I need someone who's not so prudish. So, I guess he left a benchmark of what not to accept.
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I live on the east coast. don't know what state she lives in though, she wasn't comfortable revealing that, ya oh well, it's always more shocking to hear of a woman like that compared to a guy
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