LOLITA85 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I've been researching about rebounds since I'm pretty sure my ex is in one. Though he left me for someone else, all signs are there: Moving too fast in the relationship, not caring about anything around him except for the new woman, FB official with that woman 1 month after I gave birth to his baby (!!!) ... Thing is he seems CONVINCED he is in love and met the woman of his dreams, so much so he choose her over his newborn baby. Question is, do they even realize that the wonderful beginning phase of a rebound relationship is actully infatuation ? Are they convinced it's love ? Also how long before that infatuation wears off ? I know some rebounds work out, but there's so much luggage here that I can not believe it could ever work out.
Blanco Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 There's no one-size-fits-all answer. I would say just try to move on and not give it any attention, but unfortunately, you are tied to this person because of your child. I will say, though, that you have to do all you can not to drive yourself nutty with thoughts about when/how/why this will fail. Maybe it will. Maybe it won't. But don't lose months of your life over this. One of the biggest mistakes I've made in my post-breakup recovery is spending way too much time thinking about my ex's rebound relationship and why it can't/won't work. There's lots of baggage on both sides and all logical signs point to it not being a sustainable situation. But you know what? That doesn't really matter. Focusing too much on their situation has taken away precious time and energy that could've been devoted to MY healing. And for all the worrying or thinking I've done about this apparent rebound relationship, what's it done? They are still together nearly eight months later. I am no longer part of her life, nor do I really wish to be. So what's to be gained from waiting it out? Nothing, except maybe the knowledge that I was "right." What I'm trying to say is that you can only prime yourself for more disappointment if you spend too much time and energy piecing together an argument about why this new relationship will fail. Right now, your own healing and the well-being of your child are what's important.
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