Aquaman83 Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 I met this amazing woman through Match.com. We agreed to meet up up on Friday last week. Originally was for drinks, but she doesn't drink. We talked a bit, and i ended up going for dinner. I asked for her number, and she said due to past she doesn't give it out until after the first date. So we became friends on FB and chatted on there She suggested something ethnic, and we went to some place new for the both of us. From the moment we sat down, we laughed and joked around. I hate to say this, no one was ever able to do this before. We had dinner and walked her to her train. She asked if I wanted her number, and I forgot that I did not have it. I said yes and gave her a call so she has mine. We said good night kiss on the cheek and I disappeared into the night. Following day, we text'd briefly. she was doing a couple things with friends and I had family things. So we ended the convo and I reached out to her on monday. I said I had a great time friday, when can I see you again. And she said saturday. I did a little texting last night for about 15 minutes, and she was going to bed. I told her the plans for saturday - dinner and some thing that the doors open at 7:30 and starts at 8pm (comedy show - I didn't tell her what we were doing) she mentioned she has a class on Friday. I like this girl, and in the past I was quick to respond;endless chats and this time I decided to give time apart. let there some mystery still be there until if it gets serious with bf/gf stuff. I feel like I am getting prime dating night. -First impression she looks like she can have a good time anywhere with anyone. We have a few things in common (tv shows), and I love her height.. she is a sexy goddess... Wondering what you guys thought. I know 1 date so far, but its only wednesday and really looking forward to saturday. 1
Vintage79 Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 It's great that you had a first date, but don't read too much into it, it was a first date with someone you didn't know prior. It could end up being awesome, but just don't get too excited too early. As is, you claim to have things in common, but seriously, the only thing you can think of is TV shows? Next, you claim she can have fun anywhere, but she doesn't drink...try having a good time with her at a crowded bar. Regardless - you like her, which is awesome, and she seems interested in you, which is also awesome. Just realize that things take time to develop. As for texting - you're probably doing the right thing this time - don't over do it - a text every day or two is fine...you don't want to be in constant contact already. Last note - be a bit cautious with someone who needs to meet prior to providing a telephone number - she probably has non-trivial baggage, so just be sure you can deal with that...
jam.over.jelly Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 It's great u met someone who you're really excited about. But in the mean time, just enjoy her company and take it one date at a time. Have fun and keep us posted! 1
fitnessfan365 Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 Cool story and glad that it went well. It's always nice to see some genuine enthusiasm on the boards. BTW - Playing it cool and not latching on too tight is a smart move. It's good that you kept your head. My only question - why not kiss her? When you really like a woman's company and it seems mutual, a kiss is way more romantic than a cheek peck. But overall sounds like it went well and keep us updated on the progress.
Vintage79 Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 Cool story and glad that it went well. It's always nice to see some genuine enthusiasm on the boards. BTW - Playing it cool and not latching on too tight is a smart move. It's good that you kept your head. My only question - why not kiss her? When you really like a woman's company and it seems mutual, a kiss is way more romantic than a cheek peck. But overall sounds like it went well and keep us updated on the progress. Maybe he's secretly hoping to be friendzoned...
Author Aquaman83 Posted October 21, 2015 Author Posted October 21, 2015 Well I wanted to and would have made a move if she didn't do the cheek kiss. But we were in times square. I just got the vibe that it might be date 2+ before she is open to that. I will make a move saturday night. I rather not do it at the end of the date (seems weak) as far as friendzone is a nogozone for me. I don't waste my time on romantic date with a friend - im not one of her gay\girl friends. my only concern i have with her is that she is a kickboxer - and well.... I have a runner's body. But she knew that before the date. But also its not much of a concern, a turn on. --- terms of what we like --- well right off the bat, I like her for being not uptight. She has an awesome, outgoing, personality. Makes funny/dorky jokes. -She is into nerdy things; and I am a preppy nerd; i guess you can say. I dig a woman that is intelligent, independent. Looks only gets the first date with me, but if she fits the other two and not good looking there is a better chance. I love smart women and she seems that way. She doesn't drink. - usually a deal breaker if they are vegetarians. She told me about the past guys and her reasoning why she didn't give out the number. (inappropriate pictures/comments). Last guy was a major gym guy and he sent her a video\picture of him flexing and she was turned off. I think she had a great time, otherwise she would not have brought up giving her number to me - i clearly didn't ask and forgot about it. Slightly flirty convos here and there since then. From what she told me, I think she will respect more of a guy giving her space... rather than be a clingy needy guy from online. In the past, I met a couple people. They ended it right after the first date. you know the typical <ghost>, not cool with me smoking, and I think bottom line i was too available. This time, Time apart and 1 day cig free. If this girl works out, I don't want cigs to ever be an issue; especially early on. I wanted to quit and i know she doesn't smoke; so spend money on someone who makes me laugh and like or spend money on something that is destroying my body?
Author Aquaman83 Posted October 26, 2015 Author Posted October 26, 2015 See Previous Thread So we went out to dinner on Saturday night, the date was really good. We went to a nice restaurant, then she treated me for desserts at a place near by. Afterwards on our way to a comedy show, we stopped in at a Halloween store... goofed off.. Points of evening, I made her laugh to a point she said she almost was going to pee.. I hate to say this, 32 years old - and I felt like I never made anyone laugh like that/ and someone makes me laugh like this. We go to the comedy show, I put my arm around her and she is leaning in and getting all comfy. We laugh... and at some point asked her if she is having a good time... she said most def! I walked her to her subway, and she gave me a peck on the lips. Told me to be in touch.. After she went down into the subway, I was like WTF... Part of me just wanted to grab her and make out.... but peck on the lips. mehhhh Then I sat and thought, what hell did she mean keep in touch? I like the woman, why wouldn't I? Not sure if she wants me to reach out to her more.. or not.. So yesterday, I text'd her in the mid afternoon - I had a blast last night, i want to see you again. She replied she had fun, and she is friday. She is an amazing girl! I ask her out, she gives me a date... and we meet up. I guess this is what the beginning stages should be like. No fuss, straight up, and easy. This time around, I don't send 10000x messages to potential match. Go out, ask her out, and lightly touch base through out the week on both sides. For years, I felt like I needed to chase people... Felt I need to pursue more, need to be available. I realized, that we both of have a life. I don't want someone endlessly messaging me! I want someone where its not forced, or felt like its wayy to serious.. So we have our third date friday. =) Not sure what to do in NYC that night. I know she is not looking for hookups, and she is strictly monogamous. But at this stage - at one point does that seem to change for women? That they might want to inquire about where this is going? My experience, its best to let the lady to bring that topic up. I like this girl, i like to see something happen. But We only been out 2 in the past 2 weeks...
StBreton Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Well OP ...sounds like you two have a nice connection ...and you're taking a tempered approach. I'd text her a few times in a flirty way this week ... Have a few more dates ...and try to get a lunch in during the week after your Friday date ...so you don't let a week go by without seeing her again. That's one way to advance a relationship ...if you see each other 2 times a week for a few weeks ...and text several times during the week ...she'll understand you really like her ...at the end of those 2-3 weeks ...tell her you really like her and you'd like to see more of her smily face:) You might throw in the convo that you're just seeing her now.
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