Do shy and introverted women exhibit the same signs of body language attraction?

[SwordofFlame]

I've dated two women lately that are on the shy and introverted side. They would always tell me that they had a good time and want to see me again but their body language during the dates showed that they weren't into me at all. I was patient but not surprisingly, it eventually didn't work out with either of them. Usually with extroverted women, I can definitely tell when they're into me because their body language makes it obvious.

[d0nnivain]

Shy introverted women usually exhibit self protective body language. They curl into themselves because they are scared. That fear is stronger than any attraction. The body language you recognize as mutual attraction is exhibited by confident women.

[Miss Peach]

I am not shy but I am introverted. I know with me I tend to be very reserved with new people at first. I have to actually conscientiously touch them to show interest. As I get to know them more and like them more it comes more naturally to me. If she seems to enjoy kissing you, smiling, etc. I wouldn't worry about it and just see how it goes.

 

The only body language signal I've noticed is I tend to point my feet towards the door and away from my date when I want a date to end.

[Jejangles]

I'm pretty shy and introverted, and it has caused me problems in dating! I find my body language does vary depending on my interest in the person, and also depending on how tactile they are. If they are expressive and tactile, I will usually start to respond more quickly. But I rarely make the first move, or if I'm going to, it has to be a conscious decision.

 

When I am lukewarm or unsure about someone is probably when I am least tactile and perhaps express negative body language... Because I find it really hard to express physical interest until I am really feeling it, and that takes time. I'm sure men find it confusing, especially because I will say I'm having fun (because I am!) and accept their date invites but be a little cool with my body language because I'm unsure. I'm trying to work on that, but it takes me time to warm up to someone new, it's just how I'm built.

[introverted1]

I think there is a lot of confusion about what it means to be introverted. Introversion vs extroversion have to do with where/how people get their energy. Introverts need time alone to recharge whereas extroverts are generally energized by interactions with others.

 

Shyness is a completely different trait, as is social awkwardness. Someone with negative body language has something else going on other than introversion, ime. And I say this as an introverted woman who definitely makes her attraction known to the men she dates (assuming I am actually attracted).

[jen1447]

IME, shy women mostly just avoid eye contact in flirting situations. They generally show the same positive body language tho, if maybe a bit restrained.

 

Example - a woman who folds her arms in front of you isn't necessarily shy, she's defensive. But a woman who averts her gaze might be into you and just too 'scared' to sustain much eye contact. And a woman who plays w/her hair regardless of what else she's doing (like looking away) is communicating availability/interest.

[Revan32]

IME, shy women mostly just avoid eye contact in flirting situations. They generally show the same positive body language tho, if maybe a bit restrained.

 

Example - a woman who folds her arms in front of you isn't necessarily shy, she's defensive. But a woman who averts her gaze might be into you and just too 'scared' to sustain much eye contact. And a woman who plays w/her hair regardless of what else she's doing (like looking away) is communicating availability/interest.

I came in to say the same thing. I generally use eye contact as a interest gauge. Doesn't work with shy girls though. I've had very successful dates with girls who from a passerby's perspective, was having a very engaging conversation with a rock on the ground.