ASG Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Us guys wish it was all this simple with women..Many women wont text back right away if they like the guy.. Also, some women are just loopy.. If he went out with her 5 times, it seems odd she would give her body to him and THEN no longer want to talk to him.. Yes, sometimes we might hold off on replying, so as to not seem too eager.. but we DO reply. She didn't. She completely ignored his text about having a great time. She then replied, curtly, to some unrelated soccer text. It does not bode well. Yep! And after both saying we like each other. I'll see how it goes and post an update possibly. Well, I can only hope I'm wrong... But it has happened to me many times that I went off someone after sex... What's odd about it? Both sexes will often lose interest if the sex was bad ....for them. Guys do this all the time, just read some of these threads from the ladies.. So why can't women? Right??? It happens a LOT. Granted I don't usually wait 5 dates to have sex, but if I do and it's underwhelming... I tend to disappear. For me to overlook bad sex, I need to be REALLY head over heels (it has happened once or twice and once I come out of my daze my only question is WHY?!?!).
oregon0011 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 What's odd about it? Both sexes will often lose interest if the sex was bad ....for them. Guys do this all the time, just read some of these threads from the ladies.. So why can't women? I figured this was a sort of male vs female answer. Guys don't do that all the time. If you really like a girl she won't be "bad at sex". The guy doesn't call again because he just wanted to use her once Often times girls I have known that done this are not over an ex, multi dating, etc. No matter how he performed it would have been the same outcome. The odd part is risking disease, pregnancy, then giving your body away but to end the entire relationship because of a bad first time sexual encounter. I could see after a one night stand, but it seems this girl needed some feelings involved first.
jam.over.jelly Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 I have been dating a girl for about a month now. We've had about five dates and this past weekend I spent the night at hers. We had sex (twice) and this was first time we slept with each other. It was a fun day and night and we seemed to both enjoy it. Is it weird that I haven't really heard from her since I said goodbye on Sunday morning? She's not a great texter in general so maybe I'm overreacting. I sent her a text after drive home letting her know I got home (as she requested) and I said I had a great time. No response so I messaged her that evening about a soccer match that was on that day. She replied, but only once and there's been nothing since. I dunno why but I have a 'feeling' something may be off. We've made loose plans to see each other this week but should I just wait for her to message me now? I like this girl and she told me she likes me too. Any thoughts? Seems like she has a life other than you and that she's dating other guys at the same time. I'm just speaking from my experience. But there is a chance I could be right.
oregon0011 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 She might be sleeping with many guys. This happened to me earlier in the year. Had a couple great dates, and what I thought was great sex I texted. No reply. Emailed. No reply. Called and she answered and said "I'll call you right back". No call back. So I composed an email just telling her I was really interested in her, and want to see her again. I was confident she did like me. She called me her next free night and asked to see me. When with her she told me she was extremely into me, but thought I was on the rebound, just wanted her for sex, she didn't want to get hurt etc. The truth is women are emotional and change constantly. Don't look at their actions as though they are logical and similar to yors.
jam.over.jelly Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 She might be sleeping with many guys. This happened to me earlier in the year. Had a couple great dates, and what I thought was great sex I texted. No reply. Emailed. No reply. Called and she answered and said "I'll call you right back". No call back. So I composed an email just telling her I was really interested in her, and want to see her again. I was confident she did like me. She called me her next free night and asked to see me. When with her she told me she was extremely into me, but thought I was on the rebound, just wanted her for sex, she didn't want to get hurt etc. The truth is women are emotional and change constantly. Don't look at their actions as though they are logical and similar to yors. Yep. OP, If you're not the #1 guy on her list, don't expect her to be responsive to you. She might be out on a date with another guy, therefore she can't answer right away. However, since you're not exclusive, whatever she does when she's not with you is strictly her business. If she chooses you in the end, then you're meant to be with her. Meanwhile, just do YOU.
GemmaUK Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Is her texting less than usual? If you text her saying you had a great time does she usually respond that she did as well?
oregon0011 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 What's odd about it? Both sexes will often lose interest if the sex was bad ....for them. Guys do this all the time, just read some of these threads from the ladies.. So why can't women? Think about it. If I am a mature and balanced male, and I take out a woman 5 times, (know what she looks like, smells like,feel attraction) I would be a total jerk of I bedded her then never talked to her again. Or some sort of narcissist.
siriusp Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 I figured this was a sort of male vs female answer. Guys don't do that all the time. If you really like a girl she won't be "bad at sex". The guy doesn't call again because he just wanted to use her once Often times girls I have known that done this are not over an ex, multi dating, etc. No matter how he performed it would have been the same outcome. The odd part is risking disease, pregnancy, then giving your body away but to end the entire relationship because of a bad first time sexual encounter. I could see after a one night stand, but it seems this girl needed some feelings involved first. Why are you assuming they didn't use a condom? I have definitely ended 'relationships' after a bad sexual encounter. If it is bad - it's bad. I might try to be polite to the guy after but underneath - I can't wait to get away and I hope I never see them again. I will never look at them the same way and there's nothing I can do about these feelings. The older I get the more inclined to think that sex is actually more important to women than men. When a woman is truly satisfied sexually - I believe the relationship is very healthy. For that to happen several things must be right - how she is treated etc affects the sex but also the physical....
siriusp Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Think about it. If I am a mature and balanced male, and I take out a woman 5 times, (know what she looks like, smells like,feel attraction) I would be a total jerk of I bedded her then never talked to her again. Or some sort of narcissist. Never talked again - yes. I agree there is no need to be impolite but it's worse to lead someone on when you really don't want to have anything more to do with them. It is not nice but it is reality.
Nikki Sahagin Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 I think the likely explanation is that you slept together and the intrigue/mystery/excitement is gone. It's possible she was interested/infatuated but that this has dissipated now. It happens for both sexes, it's just really unfortunate when one person likes the other more. All part of the fun love dance hey?
oregon0011 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Why are you assuming they didn't use a condom? I have definitely ended 'relationships' after a bad sexual encounter. If it is bad - it's bad. I might try to be polite to the guy after but underneath - I can't wait to get away and I hope I never see them again. I will never look at them the same way and there's nothing I can do about these feelings. The older I get the more inclined to think that sex is actually more important to women than men. When a woman is truly satisfied sexually - I believe the relationship is very healthy. For that to happen several things must be right - how she is treated etc affects the sex but also the physical.... I dont believe this.. I think for most people sex is largely mental... I can't believe I would be 100% into a girl, start having sex, then be like "OMG, the way she wiggles her vagina.. I cantr do this" And the same for women.. You might be saying you sleep with guys you aren't into at all.. But it is hard to believe you sleep with a guy you are head over heels for then become totally repulsed.. And ideally, we would be sleeping with people we are head over heels for..
katiegrl Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 (edited) I dont believe this.. I think for most people sex is largely mental... I can't believe I would be 100% into a girl, start having sex, then be like "OMG, the way she wiggles her vagina.. I cantr do this" And the same for women.. You might be saying you sleep with guys you aren't into at all.. But it is hard to believe you sleep with a guy you are head over heels for then become totally repulsed.. And ideally, we would be sleeping with people we are head over heels for.. This is not related to you...but if the guy had a four-inch pecker, I might be (totally repulsed). Or at least turn an attraction into a turn off. Unless one has fallen in love and emotionally bonded with their partner prior to having sex the first time, feelings are fleeting and can change on a dime. True for BOTH genders. Bad sex or a small pecker can certainly turn an initial attraction to repulsion in some cases. Unless as I said, one has "fallen in love" with their partner, and in that case, they might be inclined to try and work it out. But in the beginning stages after only five dates? I don't think so. No it might not seem "nice" to the guy... but it's the reality for many women who value sexual compatibility and mutual pleasure. And what's with this "if a woman gives away her body" crap? Do men give away their bodies as well? lol That mentality went out a lonnnngggg time ago. Women are enjoying sex just as much as men now, and for the same reasons. Women have FWBs, FBs and everything in between. Sex (or our bodies) is not something we "give away" as some sort of prize or reward (for good behavior...lol). It is something we enjoy....SAME AS MEN. Edited October 27, 2015 by katiegrl 1
oregon0011 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 And what's with this "if a woman gives away her body" crap. Do men give away their bodies as well? lol That mentality went out a lonnnngggg time ago. Women are enjoying sex just as much as men now, and for the same reasons. Women have FWBs, FBs and everything in between. Sex(or our bodies) is not something we "give away" as some sort of prize. It is something we enjoy....SAME AS MEN. Well, last time I checked men cannot get pregnant, and the pay for sex trade is a 99.9% one way street.. This is where it gets tricky.. There is a large % of women that are bipolar/borderline/love addicts/unbalanced that DO just give sex away to anyone.. Are they happy, healthy, and well adjusted?
joseb Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 If the guy had a four-inch pecker, I might be (totally repulsed). Or at least turn an attraction into a turn off. Unless one has fallen in love and emotionally bonded with their partner prior to having sex the first time, feelings are fleeting and can change on a dime. True for BOTH genders. Bad sex or a small pecker can certainly turn an initial attraction to repulsion in some cases. Yeah I was about to say this too. And I disagree with the posts saying this doesn't happen to guys. You might encounter a 'wizzards sleve' or something else offputting:) And it's not just size, or even technique that's the only thing. Sometimes two people just don't gel in bed for whatever reason. Usually if I really fancy someone, the chemistry in bed is very good, but on occasions I am really surprised/disappointed. And yes, there is the possibility that once the sexual tension has been released, then the interest isn't there. I had this happen fairly recently, girl was really eager to hook up (I was so-so) we ended up having sex (it was good) she liked it, but that was it - we never met up again.
oregon0011 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I mean sex is a part of a relationship, of course... BUT, if all the other signs are there that someone is a keeper, and assuming you actually WANT a relationship, wouldn't you see them again knowing that obviously, most times, first time sex isn't the best?
joseb Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I mean sex is a part of a relationship, of course... BUT, if all the other signs are there that someone is a keeper, and assuming you actually WANT a relationship, wouldn't you see them again knowing that obviously, most times, first time sex isn't the best? If the sex was bad, I wouldn't.
oregon0011 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 If the sex was bad, I wouldn't. As a guy, you went out with a girl several times, liked her, had sex, then felt it was "bad", and didnt want her again?
joseb Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 As a guy, you went out with a girl several times, liked her, had sex, then felt it was "bad", and didnt want her again? Yes. Not sure why this is so hard to believe?!
oregon0011 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Yes. Not sure why this is so hard to believe?! I guess it never happened to me.. What did she do that made her bad in bed? That couldnt be improved?
joseb Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I guess it never happened to me.. What did she do that made her bad in bed? That couldnt be improved? I'm thinking of the most recent time - it wasn't anything she did or didn't do - just did not feel .... good. Tried a few times, several positions, etc.
kilgore Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 This is not related to you...but if the guy had a four-inch pecker, I might be (totally repulsed). Or at least turn an attraction into a turn off. Unless one has fallen in love and emotionally bonded with their partner prior to having sex the first time, feelings are fleeting and can change on a dime. True for BOTH genders. Bad sex or a small pecker can certainly turn an initial attraction to repulsion in some cases. Unless as I said, one has "fallen in love" with their partner, and in that case, they might be inclined to try and work it out. But in the beginning stages after only five dates? I don't think so. No it might not seem "nice" to the guy... but it's the reality for many women who value sexual compatibility and mutual pleasure. And what's with this "if a woman gives away her body" crap? Do men give away their bodies as well? lol That mentality went out a lonnnngggg time ago. Women are enjoying sex just as much as men now, and for the same reasons. Women have FWBs, FBs and everything in between. Sex (or our bodies) is not something we "give away" as some sort of prize or reward (for good behavior...lol). It is something we enjoy....SAME AS MEN. Where did the 4 inch pecker thing come from?
Versacehottie Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 If it was that bad, why did she want to do it for the second time (which was later on in the evening)? It was confirmation sex:o 1
oregon0011 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 At the end of the day, I would still bet she is seeing several guys, sleeping with a few, and the sex was just no big deal to her.. Possible personality disorder.. It would be like if you were seeing and sleeping with 5 or 10 girls.. Would you even be texting each one back? Most likely no. With online dating just about any woman can accomplish this. I seriously doubt you were the only guy she was seeing, she was really into you, but you wiggled your weiner not good enough.. No idea why some girls here are so insistent that is the case.
oregon0011 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 No it might not seem "nice" to the guy... but it's the reality for many women who value sexual compatibility and mutual pleasure. I understand.. However making love is far better than just having sex.. Many women are unable to "make love" because they have either had so many partners, are not mentally in the right spot, have become emotionally unavailable etc. So sure, in a way, when a woman has sex without feelings it is never that great. i doubt this guy could have had sex any differently, and then she would have been texting him non stop the next day.. Seriously doubt it..
kilgore Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I understand.. However making love is far better than just having sex.. Many women are unable to "make love" because they have either had so many partners, are not mentally in the right spot, have become emotionally unavailable etc. So sure, in a way, when a woman has sex without feelings it is never that great. i doubt this guy could have had sex any differently, and then she would have been texting him non stop the next day.. Seriously doubt it.. Why does she have to be to blame? Maybe it just didn't work out 1
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