About day 50 i think

[thunder777]

Its been about 7 weeks no contact

 

I walked out on her, returned to her for a couple weeks but her difficult ways were not worthy of my ways. So ive gone no contact ever since. We blocked each other on fb and ive been going great

 

But last week it became clear she had unblocked me and her profile randomly showed up without me even searching for it wtf!!

 

Anyways her public posts have highlighted the passing of her mother and now this weekend her best mate seems to hav passed away. We're still in no contact but these events hav me a little sorry for what she is going thru because losing her mum and best mate she has also lost me in the past 2 months

 

No contact means no contact but should i touch base with her or wait for her to contact me. I guess if i was important enough shell eventuality reach or maybe she has someone else comforting her and this is something i dont wish to know, prefer no contact if this is the case

 

I can tell she is channeling me thru her fb posts, i guess however i will just stay away until a significant effort is made by her?

 

Ive always thought that if a woman wants you, you will soon find out about it. But in this instance would the woman be her stubborn self just hoping for my return and wont ever make the reach no matter how much she needs me, because im the one who departed her in the first place

 

I guess 10 years ago the days without fb, no of this new information would hav been known and id be further drifting away oblivious to such details

 

I miss her deeply sometimes but i dont miss where we were incompatible, any thoughts? I kinda hav no one to talk to about this

[KO123]

I don't know, I would contact her. I lost my father a few years ago and I appreciated it whenever people reached out, even those I had issues with. I know it could be difficult for you because she might use you for comfort, but I think an innocent message from you will make her feel a bit better, she must be going through hell right now. But if you can't set boundaries afterwards then maybe you shouldn't contact her.

[Realitycol]

NC is NC. If she wanted to talk to you about it, she's a grown woman and can pick up her phone and make some dials and open her mouth and talk to you about it.

 

Besides, you don't think she's fit for you, so what's the point of rekindling if it'll go back to square one? If YOU feel she's not worth the effort or time don't break this girl's heart by settling for someone that doesn't meet your needs.

 

She'll be alright without your condolence. I know it sounds a little harsh, but if you care, do what's best for both of you two.

 

In life, we are always losing things/people we once cared/loved. It's nothing new or won't go away. She'll be fine with or without your call.

 

People should stop letting people lean all over them, when they get better you'll just get re-tossed out like outdated milk in the fridge. It's in our DNA to cope with loss and it's best that they deal it out with their own strength. There are facilities for those who can't.

Edited October 26, 2015 by Realitycol

[mightycpa]

this is something i dont wish to know, prefer no contact if this is the case

hey, look, you answered your own question.

[Hope87]

Its been about 7 weeks no contact

 

I walked out on her, returned to her for a couple weeks but her difficult ways were not worthy of my ways. So ive gone no contact ever since. We blocked each other on fb and ive been going great

 

But last week it became clear she had unblocked me and her profile randomly showed up without me even searching for it wtf!!

 

Anyways her public posts have highlighted the passing of her mother and now this weekend her best mate seems to hav passed away. We're still in no contact but these events hav me a little sorry for what she is going thru because losing her mum and best mate she has also lost me in the past 2 months

 

No contact means no contact but should i touch base with her or wait for her to contact me. I guess if i was important enough shell eventuality reach or maybe she has someone else comforting her and this is something i dont wish to know, prefer no contact if this is the case

 

I can tell she is channeling me thru her fb posts, i guess however i will just stay away until a significant effort is made by her?

 

Ive always thought that if a woman wants you, you will soon find out about it. But in this instance would the woman be her stubborn self just hoping for my return and wont ever make the reach no matter how much she needs me, because im the one who departed her in the first place

 

I guess 10 years ago the days without fb, no of this new information would hav been known and id be further drifting away oblivious to such details

 

I miss her deeply sometimes but i dont miss where we were incompatible, any thoughts? I kinda hav no one to talk to about this

 

I'm going to go against the grain here and say, personally I would send a brief message expressing my condolences. She's lost her mother and best mate in a span of 2 months? She must be in a lot of pain. Now I know, she's no longer your responsibility and you're no longer obliged to comfort or support her emotionally but surely you have a duty as a human being with a heart and a conscience to at least send a condolence message? Sending a sympathetic message doesn't automatically translate to you wanting her back. It simply indicates that you're not consumed by hatred and bitterness. Personally, I'd suspend my pride and hurt feelings and do what I consider to be the humane thing.

 

NC is great but there are some rare exceptions to the rule.

Edited October 26, 2015 by Hope87

[thunder777]

Yep contacted.