ave Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 My ex girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago, by text. We had only been together for 4 months but I did see it as something potentially long term. We got close fast (we are both in our mid 20s and she'd spent the night at my place almost every night). She gave no explanations other than the usual "I am not ready to be in a relationship now, I'm going through lot of stress" (Stress I never once saw during the months we spent together almost every day!) I said nothing, I accepted it and to this date I have not asked her to reconsider or to get back together, we met once, one month after the break up because we were going to be at the same place at the same time and there was no way to avoid it, we made small talk for a while but it got to a point where I couldn't take it anymore and I had to ask: What happened? She refused to give a straight answer and stuck to her story, there was nothing wrong with me or the relationship, she just wasn't ready for a relationship... complete b.s. but again, I let it go, I told her it was better if we didn't speak and went no contact. It's been more than 2 months since that day now, and NC is still not working for me. Sure, now I don't miss her as much and I know I dodged a bullet, since she would have probably done the same thing later on once I were more invested... But I still often wake up wondering what on earth happened, yes, I am working on myself, lost weight (something we said we'd do together), made new friends, even been with one or two other girls already But that does nothing, it's like an annoying pebble in my shoe that either I do something to get it out, or who knows how long it'll stay there. I want to talk to her and ask her to communicate with me as adults, if she does, great... If she doesn't then at least I know I tried to talk to her in a civil way (the previous talk lasted less than 10 minutes, I got too frustrated too quickly and said let's drop it) I know everyone here will tell me not to do it, I'd give myself that same advice, but I'd like to hear it from you guys, why is it such a bad idea? and hopefully it'll stop me. Might be useful information that I know for a fact she is not with anyone else (at least not in a relationship or hanging out with just one person frequently).. My guess is that she does like someone else and lost attraction for me for one or several reasons, which is fine!! I just want her to stop being such a coward and admit it. I keep rationalizing it and telling myself that if she hasn't done any effort to reach out by know it might have to do with it being me who told her not to contact me, doubtful I know, but weirder things have happened... Should I endure this for who knows how many more months, or do I try to end it? Best regards,
Heatemyheart89 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Hiya I don't really think you will get the answers you are looking for as she has already given her reasons, they just aren't satisfactory. If you do break n/a again it might end up being hostile. Time is a good healer. Carry on as you are and soon enough you will meet someone else I went through trying to get answers from my ex I even tried to put words in his mouth just so I could feel rejected enough to move on. But he was just like ' I do want you' . Thing is she doesn't want you and he doesn't want me enough. Screw them anyway, here's to a better future.
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