keyanasmommy Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Hey everyone I'm going to try and make this as short as possible. I started talking to this guy a few months ago he was always sending me cute messages because I was in an a depressed stage. He would randomly message me and tell me I was cute,beautiful or pretty. He kept trying to get me to hangout with him but I always said no. Well in September he asked me out and I went. As we was hanging out we talked and hugged for like 10 minutes it wasn't a hug we was holding each other. He was telling me about his friends and family. Well then a day later we met up at the park because I was there with my daughter. We kept talking but not every day well he asked me to come to his house because he had a movie that i really wanted to see in the beginning of this month and I did. Well after the movie we just talked. And then he kissed me and we made out. Then we went to his room and cuddled and made out he asked me if I wanted to have sex and I said no and he was fine with it so we just cuddled and talked he said that he sees my posts all the time on Facebook about not having friends or people to talk to and he was like " when I see those I'm just thinking hello I'm right here, but you want talk to me" he also said that me messaging him first would brighten his day. Well after that night we kept messaging back and forth and one day he told me that i was amazing and that he thinks about me all the time. then I shared a post on Facebook that said " I'll be thinking about one person all day" he messaged me and asked if he was that person I'm thinking about, and I said "haha idk maybe" and he said "that laugh is most definitely a no thats okay, and I told him that I do think about him all day and he told me that I didn't have to lie I told him I wasnt lying and he didn't say nothing. That was on October 14. He didn't talk me after that until last Tuesday he messaged me and told me I was beautiful and I said aww well thank you. I haven't heard from since then. I wanna talk to hi. But I'm to scared and idk what to say, he doesn't seem like a player because he had a son and he's been single since September of last year. So my question is did he give up on me or is he not interested in me anymore. He told me before that he really liked me and I figured if he really liked me wouldn't he talk to me?.
Candle037 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 I wouldn't say give up but it sounds like he wants more from you. You however need to find out if this is sex or more. Maybe ask him to chat and when in person tell him what you want and how you feel and see if your on the same page.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Hm. He may have felt you were a bit closed-off; your description sounds like you are too afraid to let him know you actually like him and he may have felt you weren't ready for anything more. It sounds like when he tries to talk to you, you don't have much to say. Why are you so scared? If you want to see him, contact him and ask if he'd like to meet on a particular day/time to do XYZ activity. You will know fairly quickly if all he's looking for is sex. If he is, you simply walk away.
phineas Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 He doesn't think you are interested and tired of expending the energy pursuing you because he isn't getting anything back from you. He told you straight out to message him first as a way to show interest. You aren't. He asked you a direct question and you played coy. He told you that you were beautiful and you said "awww thank-you." That's what people tell other people they have friendzoned when their complemented or told to feel better when sick or when something nice is done for them. I personally wouldn't of asked questions to find out if a woman is into me or texted unsolicited compliments and instead just asked her out again and tried to escalate but every guy is different . However, if he is a player he's an awkward one and going against the player handbook 1
PegNosePete Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Seems like he has low self-confidence and for some strange reason you're playing hard to get. That is not a combination that will work out! One or both of you will have to change their strategy otherwise it's going nowhere.
kendahke Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 next time when a guy asks you a direct question about your feelings for him DON'T LIE.
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