allikowski Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 I met a guy through mutual friends and I ended up really liking him. We went on a couple of dates and they went really well. We ended up talking everyday and were suppose to go on a trip together. Three days before our trip he started being really distant and canceled the day of. I asked him what was going on and he told me he thought I was really sweet but he's not in any position to start a relationship. He also said it wouldn't be fair to me and doesn't want to start anything serious. In the time we were talking we never did anything but cuddle we didn't even kiss. He had told his friends he really liked me a lot and told me as well. He had even asked me to match Halloween costumes with him. We haven't talked since he sent me that which was a week ago. He told me he has plans to go into the army but I guess recently he moved it up sooner, which I understand where he's coming from. The part I'm confused about is that I saw that him and his last fling seem to be talking again. Did it really seem like he wasn't ready for a relationship? I feel like I had done something wrong.
pcs13 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Don't blame yourself. Just take what he said as it is! There is nothing you can do anymore. You just have to know that he doesn't want a relationship with you and that's enough reason to move on
avintagegirl Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Dang, that is rough. I know how that is, being told you're great but not what they are looking for and seemingly with someone else. It is only natural to wonder what you did, or what went wrong. I am not sure anything did. Maybe his own level of interest scared him off, maybe it is an old flame. Either way, he has moved or is moving on and it is best to try and let it go and not wonder if it was you. I had this happen to me too and at the end of the day i finally realized no matter how much I was left stumped, the fact never changed that he wasn't there and I had to keep moving forward. Best of luck to you!
Author allikowski Posted October 30, 2015 Author Posted October 30, 2015 So he messaged me how I was doing around 12. I was at work and could t respond for 3 hours. I said I was good and asked how he was doing. Well he read it and didn't respond and I see that he's online. What's his deal?
Witeee Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Sounds like he's either seeing someone, someones came back into his life or its complicated. If he hasn't kissed you so far then I'd imagine he has someone else on his mind. For your own sanity I imagine you should tell him "hey I like you but I don't want to be friends. If you change your mind get in touch"
kismetkismet Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 There's no way to really know for sure. I'd guess that he's met someone else, or is hoping that things will work out with this other girl, but doesn't want to let go of you completely in case things don't work out - hence the 'wrong time' sort of explanations. Do you know how/why he split with the fling that he's recently reconnected with? I guess it doesn't really matter either way as the best thing is really to just move on at this point. Don't keep messaging him because it might let him think that he can just keep you on the back burner until he makes up his mind.
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