noun123 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I haven't been here in a while. Perhaps that's a good sign. I'm not even sure how long it has been post-BU, hopefully another good sign. Im guessing we are around 5 months now. Things have gotten significantly better. I was what I consider a really terrible breakup victim. It completely destroyed me but things have changed a lot since then and I've definitely learnt a lot. I can completely function outside of the breakup now. I have fun again, I can concentrate on work and I'm hopeful for the future. Looking back I can't believe the state of the depression that I put myself in by assuming the worst of every situation, (he didn't care, never loved me, there was another girl). I really fed into every scrap of info I could find and was always wrong. SO don't, you won't learn anything from scraps of information. Now the challenge, we didn't see each other for many months. Just check in conversations to make sure the other was fine. But we slowly started talking again everyday and seeing each other. We are taking it slow and not jumping into anything. I couldn't, not after the most horrible months of my life. But Im wondering what are the steps you can take to ensure you don't end up in the same situation. We had no big defining issues. Just a lot of resentment built up over smaller issues which was compounded by the fact we didn't communicate properly. I think we definitely need to speak to a councillor but any other suggestions how to go about this in the most responsible way possible. We are both very committed to each other but know that we need to make big changes before stepping into this again.
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