menyou Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Menyou, I am well aware that if I continue the relationship will crash&burn. I'm trying to prevent that. Does it not concern you all if you were in my situation and knew people your SO has already slept with? Actually, no. The guy I've been seeing the last few months could say he was with two people. His ex wife and his rebound. I'd know none the better. He could tell me he went on a sex binge of 50 women after getting divorced. Who really knows. Your girl could have inflated or deflated her number because there is just no proof.
menyou Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 BLND, I did not react negatively when she told me everything. I merely shook my head and said 'okay.' Not judging her at all. "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her" (John 8:7). You've already cast that stone. Why do you care what OTHERS think of you?
Author MET90 Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 Menyou, so we're in completely different scenarios, thanks for trying. I do not care what others think of me or I wouldn't be confident enough to land a girl like Anne.
BLND Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 You might not have reacted negatively while with her, but just the thread title by itself, says it all. It bothers you, or else you wouldn't have posted about it on this forum. And it bothers you that you see those people around your city. Which might be ok,as long as you don't let it effect your relationship with her. 1
xcupid Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 You have to put this in perspective. Her "sex life" is all in the past and it's irrelevant to your relationship. She's with you now and you have an opportunity to either make something of the relationship (or not) based on your thinking. Number of partners aside, what if she had been married a couple of times and you knew her ex husbands?
J21 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 You have two choices buddy: 1) Accept her as who she is including her sexual past. or 2) Don't. Quit being a drama king. She slept with some guys you know before you were together. What obligation did she have to you back then? It was none of your business who she slept with. Your train of thought/logic is honestly quite ridiculous. 1
seekingluck Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 If this is an issue for you, you are not compatible.
katiegrl Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 MET90 ....I am trying to figure out exactly what's troubling you. Do you think less of her for having had sex with 14 guys before you? Less pure, or something? Or are you pissed at the guys for apparently using her, and you're afraid if you run into them, your alpha might kick in..and you might confront and want to kick their respective as*es? Or is your ego bothered by the fact you weren't her first? And the *image* of her you had ingrained in your psyche has burst into little bitty pieces? What is it? You seem fairly in touch with yourself and your emotions, do you know what it is that's troubling you exactly? Can you clarify cuz many of us, including me, are a bit confused as to why shyt that happened before you ever even met her would bother you to the point you needed to create a thread about it....
CalvinM Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 You're young, so it's easy to see this as a problem. The solution, both of you get an sti test. I just got my results back and I'm clean. It wipes the slate and quels those nagging doubts. And never ask a woman how many guys she's been with. That's so tacky.
MzLady Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Seriously?? She's amazing, loves you, and is the best thing ever and you're worried about this? Who cares that you know these guys. It's gonna happen. Get over it and be glad you have an awesome girlfriend.
Author MET90 Posted October 27, 2015 Author Posted October 27, 2015 Katiegirl, I think I'm afraid of my alpha kicking in. I don't want to go around holding a grudge against everyone she chose to sleep with before we met, ya know? I know I'm being ridiculous, too. I think it may be that I'm just not happy that I didn't get there sooner to save her from making those mistakes. I know it sounds stupid but when you know that your SO is an amazing person and that people took advantage of that, it just makes you lose hope in the world a little.
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