Tressugar Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Coming out of a long term marriage. I think I'm ready for real love from an available loving man. I have many offers, however most of these men want a no strings sexual relationship with me. As tempting as this situation sounds good. But I'm afraid of one the parties including myself will catch feelings. Downside: I've been stalked too many times. So I'm leary of any unhealthy developing attachments. Even though I've outlined my boundaries. I'm leaning towards the men who want a stable committed, healthy relationship with me. But not too sure if I'm ready for a full fledge relationship. I'm interested in reading anyone who's had successful NSA loving relationships.
menyou Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Coming out of a long term marriage. I think I'm ready for real love from an available loving man. I have many offers, however most of these men want a no strings sexual relationship with me. As tempting as this situation sounds good. But I'm afraid of one the parties including myself will catch feelings. Downside: I've been stalked too many times. So I'm leary of any unhealthy developing attachments. Even though I've outlined my boundaries. I'm leaning towards the men who want a stable committed, healthy relationship with me. But not too sure if I'm ready for a full fledge relationship. I'm interested in reading anyone who's had successful NSA loving relationships. In your post you say you want a stable committed healthy relationship. NSA relationships are definitely not that. How long were you married and how long divorced? Slippery slope.
mystikmind2005 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 So what you are looking for is a passionate guy but who is also commitment phobic so you won't end up in any sticky situation?
Author Tressugar Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 Not too sure what I want. I was in a five year marriage. I've known him for six years. Divorce not official as of yet. He's dragging it out. I need companionship; the holidays are coming up and this will be my first time celebrating alone. My self confidence is making a come back after being told by my husband and his ex fling that I'm pathetic and I should off myself to make the world a better place. This year has been ****ty and full sorrow/grief. I can't wait to wave good bye to this year. The cherry on the top would be sipping champagne w/ someone who enjoys my company as much I do with him as we watch the sunrise on the beach together.
Author Tressugar Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 Not too sure what I want. I was in a five year marriage. I've known him for six years. Divorce not official as of yet. He's dragging it out. I need companionship; the holidays are coming up and this will be my first time celebrating alone. My self confidence is making a come back after being told by my husband and his ex fling that I'm pathetic and I should off myself to make the world a better place. This year has been ****ty and full sorrow/grief. I can't wait to wave good bye to this year. The cherry on the top would be sipping champagne w/ someone who enjoys my company as much I do with him as we watch the sunrise on the beach together bringing the new year in each other's arms.
LoveRefreshed Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Sorry your ex is so spiteful, hopefully you don't deserve that. Being alone is hard, but it's not too bad to manage. Be with family or friends instead of diving into a relationship if you're not ready. Don't lead men on. If you aren't ready for a relationship, find a man that you are attracted to and **** him a few times. For me, sex- good sex- is a catalyst for emotions. NSA never stays NSA... I think. 1
Author Tressugar Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 Thank you for your sympathies. I'm ready...to the possibilities. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words.
Author Tressugar Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 I've got an old luver, (before I've met my husband) who will be returning on the 2nd of next month. We've known each other for 10 years. He would like to see me. 1
phineas Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Not too sure what I want. I was in a five year marriage. I've known him for six years. Divorce not official as of yet. He's dragging it out. I need companionship; the holidays are coming up and this will be my first time celebrating alone. My self confidence is making a come back after being told by my husband and his ex fling that I'm pathetic and I should off myself to make the world a better place. This year has been ****ty and full sorrow/grief. I can't wait to wave good bye to this year. The cherry on the top would be sipping champagne w/ someone who enjoys my company as much I do with him as we watch the sunrise on the beach together bringing the new year in each other's arms. And this lonely men of LS is why you need to get back on the dating sites and update your profiles on black friday after work. Because once shopping is done all those single women are going home, opening a bottle of wine and going to start trolling POF & OKcupid. The iron will be hot. Strike! Strike hard and strike so many times you brush up against the websites spam detectors. 1
menyou Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 And this lonely men of LS is why you need to get back on the dating sites and update your profiles on black friday after work. Because once shopping is done all those single women are going home, opening a bottle of wine and going to start trolling POF & OKcupid. The iron will be hot. Strike! Strike hard and strike so many times you brush up against the websites spam detectors. Lo we know where you'll be!
chapter44 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Coming out of a long term marriage. I think I'm ready for real love from an available loving man. I have many offers, however most of these men want a no strings sexual relationship with me. As tempting as this situation sounds good. But I'm afraid of one the parties including myself will catch feelings. Downside: I've been stalked too many times. So I'm leary of any unhealthy developing attachments. Even though I've outlined my boundaries. I'm leaning towards the men who want a stable committed, healthy relationship with me. But not too sure if I'm ready for a full fledge relationship. I'm interested in reading anyone who's had successful NSA loving relationships. My advice to you would be to take some time to yourself and heal before beginning a new relationship. Having dated someone who was newly divorced I can tell you that you the way you feel now isn't how you will feel in a year or so down the road. Take this time and rediscover yourself. If you want a meaningful relationship you need to be in a healthy happy place and after what you've been through it may take some time.
Redhead14 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Not too sure what I want. I was in a five year marriage. I've known him for six years. Divorce not official as of yet. He's dragging it out. I need companionship; the holidays are coming up and this will be my first time celebrating alone. My self confidence is making a come back after being told by my husband and his ex fling that I'm pathetic and I should off myself to make the world a better place. This year has been ****ty and full sorrow/grief. I can't wait to wave good bye to this year. The cherry on the top would be sipping champagne w/ someone who enjoys my company as much I do with him as we watch the sunrise on the beach together. You need to focus on YOU first for a while. A year of grieving and the divorce is not final, is not enough time for you to be able to be a good partner for anyone yet. Trust me, when the divorce becomes finalized, you will be triggered and kind of starting over with grieving it. You can and should only date casually right now and manage your emotions and expectations while casually dating. In other words, don't allow yourself to get too invested with dating partners. Whether or not you are intimate with them, of course, is up to you. You are vulnerable and lonely now. It wouldn't be difficult for you to jump into something because the attention feels good and boosts your confidence, but you will likely be a little "blinded" by it. Give yourself some space. 1
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