One_Made_of_Silver Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 (edited) I'm on this dating site and I decided to take a look at the men's profiles, just to size up the "competition." One thing I noticed is that there are a ton of dudes on the sites. Men seeking women far outnumber the women seeking men. Most guys just seemed to be baseline in terms of physical attractiveness, with no one looking horrendous (well, a few), but no one with supermodel looks either. From a female's perspective, OLD must be like looking for a needle in a stack of needles. No wonder most guys don't get replies to their messages. So, honest question: How does a guy possibly stand out and find himself a relationship with all this competition? Just luck? Edited October 25, 2015 by One_Made_of_Silver Spelling
Guyouthere Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 (edited) I'm on this dating site and I decided to take a look at the men's profiles, just to size up the "competition." One thing I noticed is that there are a ton of dudes on the sites. Men seeking women far outnumber the women seeking men. Most guys just seemed to be baseline in terms of physical attractiveness, with no one looking horrendous (well, a few), but no one with supermodel looks either. From a female's perspective, OLD must be like looking for a needle in a stack of needles. No wonder most guys don't get replies to their messages. So, honest question: How does a guy possibly stand out and find himself a relationship with all this competition? Just luck? I don't think you can fight the odds. If a woman even sees someone "different", they most often will assume that it is a ploy, fake, and "desperate". I personally feel those dating sites are all a big joke. Match has been mentioned on here,, the agencies out there responsible for regulating such things have already received countless complaints re: money not being returned, recurrent billing, fake profiles, etc. If you have what you know a woman wants, just get out and keep your eyes open in a normal manner. The chances of finding a good one online now are rather small. I still keep that option open, but very careful about who I will invest my time with (goes for real life as well). Edited October 25, 2015 by Guyouthere 1
Karine26 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Well for me what stands out is what they say when they send a message. Unless the guy is my type in picture and profile I don't respond to "Hey, how's your day going?" That is the standard message I have been getting. I respond to guys who make it obvious that they read my profile and guys who took the time to share a similar experience about interests based on my profile. Although I understand why guys send copy and pasted emails to girls it is painfully obvious and I never respond to those (unless I just want to call him out on it just for fun lol) To me, someone that sends copy and pasted emails probably doesn't read profiles meaning he's not very serious because he's not filtering what he's looking for. So don't do that lol
Karine26 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I personally feel those dating sites are all a big joke. Match has been mentioned on here,, the agencies out there responsible for regulating such things have already received countless complaints re: money not being returned, recurrent billing, fake profiles, etc. If you have what you know a woman wants, just get out and keep your eyes open in a normal manner. The chances of finding a good one online now are rather small. I still keep that option open, but very careful about who I will invest my time with (goes for real life as well). Yea I'm 2 weeks in and already over it. I haven't logged on in a few days. I did meet 2 nice guys though! I'm so glad I got a free month! I don't see why anyone would pay for that, especially over $30 per month. No way! I'm in a big city and get the same 50 matches every day lol So lame.
Guyouthere Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Yea I'm 2 weeks in and already over it. I haven't logged on in a few days. I did meet 2 nice guys though! I'm so glad I got a free month! I don't see why anyone would pay for that, especially over $30 per month. No way! I'm in a big city and get the same 50 matches every day lol So lame. I tried a site for a very short time before I met girl number one after my divorce. In fact, it is how I met girl number one, but indirectly. lol I had gone to the beach to meet the date I had (first meeting) with her who I found on the site, and actually ended up meeting the one who I later became associated with (the one who was a after materialism). That incident still makes me chuckle, because the 2 of them actually met each other and I introduced them to each other as well (mind you this in the dark on the beach at night too). lol Anyways, yes, if you had a good experience with Match, I think you are one of the fortunate ones. When I made a profile for the site I tried, I just made mine honest. I don't believe in lying, upstaging, or in any way deceiving someone into believing something I know they would find out later anyway. I had only 1. I met through it, then I closed the account. I am as I look in my photo on here, even more tone now as that pic was taken over a week ago, and I continue to cycle excessively (going out again in a few). Back then I looked "heavier", although I have never been fat in my life. I have just firmed up a lot over recent months (actually began when I was with that last girl, because I knew I could lose some, and have). If you live in a large city with a lot of exposure, I would say it is likely you can find someone by simply going out on the town. It also seems to me that there would be more clubs for hobbies and such where you can meet interesting guys. I currently work in a large retail store and have a lot of exposure to people. It wasn't like that in the past. I am a marine biologist by trade, and the work I did for 25 + years was basically as a "loner" because I worked from home and ran the project 100 miles away from where my boss was. So for a very long time, I really had little exposure to people. Of course I was married for a lot of that time too, so wasn't looking. 1
Ami1uwant Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Make your profile unique or different and not be saying the same things 90% of other profiles say.
Guyouthere Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Make your profile unique or different and not be saying the same things 90% of other profiles say. When I made my profile, I posted my hobbies, one of which is treasure hunting. I think some people thought it was some ploy or joke, when in reality it is what I do. It is a rather unusual and little known hobby (only a small group of us do it in the ocean). I like to keep it that way too (so I don't give out specifics of it). I added it because it is my reality, and have a long established Youtube channel with the videos I made to back it all up. I know the right lady would enjoy the excitement of it too, at least want the stuff I find. lol I wouldn't include her in it all of the time, for her own safety. So yea, that would be something that is unique. What do you like to do? What is unique about you?
J21 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Your picture is how you stand out; so have a decent one that shows your face as your main. No hats, no sunglasses, or far away pics, it comes off as if you're hiding something. With that being said, don't post shirtless selfies either. Don't care how jacked you think you are, it's stupid and I have no idea why guys even do that. You can have the best written profile in the world, but no pic or bad pic = no response. 2
Guyouthere Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Your picture is how you stand out; so have a decent one that shows your face as your main. No hats, no sunglasses, or far away pics, it comes off as if you're hiding something. With that being said, don't post shirtless selfies either. Don't care how jacked you think you are, it's stupid and I have no idea why guys even do that. You can have the best written profile in the world, but no pic or bad pic = no response. I have a selfie of me kissing a shark on his snout (he is alive too)
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