Jadey Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 Grrr, i feel abit guilty. At thse same time as feeling good Ok i have been soo sad about my ex dumping me, and fought to get him back. This lasted about 6 weeks but nothing i done wos sowrking and hes apparently seeing someone else now (doesnt seem very serious/happy tho! ) But i kept telling him how i lovehim and want another chance etc etc. Now bear in mind i done NOTHING wrong and didnt understand wy he dumped me. Then Saturday monring i woke up htining "**** him" i cant even be botherd anymore, im gonna ignore him best i can. Im not going to try and win his sorry ass back nomore. Which is a brill thing. Then that evenng i went round to my olders sisters and she had afew friends round one being a very very good looking boy, whos nearly 18. We hit off and swapped phone numbers. Now im not ready to be in a relationshiop yet but he seems a great guy and were becomming friends. This lunchtime at school he called me infront of my ex. I probably sounded very excited and happy cos i am sexually attracted to him, he is very gorgeous. And i asked him to text me tonight. (Im not wanting anything more then friendship for now) Now my ex looked very hurt and angry at me. And later on i had his friedn comming up to me saying he isnt happy about me having a new bf. I didnt bother to explain i dotn ahve a bf, so just said "thats not my problem" smiled and walked off. Did i handle him right?? I feel so guilty because he feels bad And i didnt deny having a new BF. And it probably did sound like i wos talking to a BF. But why should I feel so guilty and bad for when i done all i could to try and get him back?? Plus he has a GF! Isnt it funny how when i appear to be happy and like i like someone else, he suddenly looks upset and cant keep his eyes off me and is smiling at me with that "ouch" look in his eyes, the one that i had before today. Why is it when i wos texting him saying i love him, cried on the phone to him begging for him back, or just simply texting goodnight he didnt want to know? And now it appears that he might. Why wosnt he hurt thta I wos hurt?? Does this come back to the wanting wot you cant have and the chase thing again? I do love him but i want to get over him and to be honest part of me want to hurt him like he hurt me. Did i do anyhing wrong? SHould i just carry on aacting like i am happy and luved up with this guy? Maybe itll get him back. I just do not understand why now it LOOKS like he may be slightly interested in me again, why hes not hurt, and wot he bloody exspects from me?? Please give some support Cheers guys! Jade..
chancecookie Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 I do love him but i want to get over him and to be honest part of me want to hurt him like he hurt me. Did i do anyhing wrong? SHould i just carry on aacting like i am happy and luved up with this guy? Maybe itll get him back. Ego is a B****. Yeah. It hurts but getting him back isn't the answer. Die trying if you want but obviously his feelings aren't there so you'll never be successful. You love him and want him so bad -you want to cause him pain? It's not about love. See my statement one. (I might have done a better job by replacing ego with rejection.) How much do you really want to get over him(it?) if you're so exited by his reaction to your imaginary boyfriend? The again the interested boy isn't imaginary and will probably be ecstatic about being used by you to get your ex back. If you don't want him don't lead him on. You might be generating another revenge party (and they really aren't that fun). "thats not my problem" Great job on this. Too bad it may not be entirely true. Then Saturday monring i woke up htining "**** him" i cant even be botherd anymore, im gonna ignore him best i can. Im not going to try and win his sorry ass back nomore. Which is a brill thing. Keep this in mind. It is brilliant! Everyone flip flops after a break up. It's normal. All the crazy "get him" ideas are normal. Just think it through. Get as far out of it as you can. You'll come up with the right answer.
Angeleyez2583 Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 Ahhh.. the classic.. I don't want him/her but I don't want anyone else to have that person either. Anyway, I'm very proud of you. You can't beg your ex back, you just have to have them realize they miss ya. Anyway, GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!:-) So yeha, when I told my ex I've been hanging around with these boys he goes F*CK THAT.....hahaha.. I'm in such a cynical mood right now and I love myself :-)
Author Jadey Posted May 23, 2005 Author Posted May 23, 2005 Ahhh.. the classic.. I don't want him/her but I don't want anyone else to have that person either. Yeah i know!, It ****s me off tho. Its like what the hell do he want me to do?? Be single forever just because he hurt me and i love him. When HE dumped ME. I dont even feel guilty anymore at the moment, I actually feel pretty darn proud and good. Maybe hes hurting an ounce of what i am If he dont have feelings for me anymore why does he give a ****? Im quite happy smiling, ignoring, and acting like im over him. And do you know what? I think its actually working somewhat. If he wants me back now im gonna bd MAD (well, as well as over the moon If you know how i mean!) Do you think i should carry on what im doing, acting like i am fine and not bothering with him, having a "new boyfriend" Bear in mid i never actually said myself i do, So technocly im not lying Hehe. Do you think this might have shocked him in realising that im not gonna be there forever? What should i do if he carries on showing more interest? You love him and want him so bad -you want to cause him pain? It's not about love. See my statement one. (I might have done a better job by replacing ego with rejection.) I dont get it, How am I causing HIM pain? Apart from being very chatty and excited to a guy on the phone when he was close by. I didnt say hes my boyfriend, People assumed. I love him and i wouldnt want him to hurt in the long run. But abit of pain might be what it takes. And the pain he has caused me. This isnt nothing. I havent purpoesly set out to hurt him. He made his own pain out of this! *shrugs* Hes probably finally seen that my whole world wont always revolve around him and as much as i dont want it, Theres gonna be other guys unless he moves his ass. Im doing nothing wrong! Ive tried and tried over and ovr again to be nice and get him back, Atleast as friends. He didnt wanna know. Now hes acting differently. How much do you really want to get over him(it?) if you're so exited by his reaction to your imaginary boyfriend? The again the interested boy isn't imaginary and will probably be ecstatic about being used by you to get your ex back. If you don't want him don't lead him on. You might be generating another revenge party (and they really aren't that fun). I want him back, Its not lie. But i am not going to keep beggin him and taking his ****. If he wants me back he will have to do it himself. For now i am done chasing him, so to speak. He obv doesnt like it easy. I want him back but hed have to fight for it, Like i tried to ****ing do, And failed miserably. I told the other guy that im still love my ex, We had a 2 hour long convo about it. He knows what its like as he was the same over his ex for afew years. He knows that im not ready for a proper relationship yet, maybe just fun. So i am not leading him on.. Great job on this. Too bad it may not be entirely true. What is my fault?? Or problem? Nothing...All his doing. We'll see what happens tomorrow i guess....
Angeleyez2583 Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 sometimes acting like you have a new boyfriend can push them away too.. so don't tell him u have someone new.. just get those phonecalls and texts when he's around... exes are BASTARDS.. plain and simple.. mine's a dumbass i wanna push him over my balcony when he comes and gives me the grad. gift his mom /dad got me I think i may just ask him if we can hang out as friends and that i don't think words are proving to him I am a better person.. (my situation is a tad dif then urs...) that's all I am gonna say if he says no I'm pushing him.. (jokin) i just want him to get a concusion so he forgets that night.. lol
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