nais Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I was the OW to a MM for 15 years. I ended it. I never did that during the entire time we were together, he ended it and returned several times. Everything was going just fine but something slapped me back into reality. I am happy to have had the eye opener, because I needed it. No matter how many I love yous we said to one another, he was not going to be with me the way I wanted him to be with me. It felt awesome, it was what I felt was inspiring- it lasted 15 years. The final break up was during a time when everything was going just fine. I finally grew up. I decided that what I want was as important as what he wanted and I told him one day in May "we're breaking up". He asked for a breakup sex - I knew then it was the right thing. I have more Id like to say but I feel it was necessary to come somewhere and delve into my feelings. Next week will be a year that we last saw one another, July was the last time I spoke to him, but in anger by telling him to LEAVE ME ALONE. He got the picture after that. How do I feel- I feel 60 lbs lighter from weight loss. I have more confidence, I go out now and take vacations - going to Florida for a weekend get away next weekend. I have a new car, I have a new wardrobe because frankly nothing fits me anymore. I have interest in men who are available. I am smiling more. I know there is another side and I want to say I am glad I chose me for once. 2
sandylee1 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Well done for getting out of it. I can't imagine the things you've missed out on during the 15 years you spent with him. It's such a waste of time, but it is good to see that you are much happier.
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