Winesar21 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Ex bf and I of two years have had our ups and downs for the past 5 months. he refuses to set up boundaries with his mom which caused problems. I stuck up for him when he felt it was a dig at his personality. He was an introvert and had a hard time hanging out. We both have had or faults and it seemed like no common ground could be found. I wanted more of a commitment and he it seemed like he couldn't do that. He wasn't willing to make compromises. He had to live in a certain area because it was close to his family, he believes dogs should be outside, thought summer camps were horrible and told me he would never be a sport watching parent. I probably should have ran earlier. I have been suffering from back problems and job problems for the past yet so I became needy on him. He was always there for me and I guess that's why I hate myself. He tried breaking up with me two days before he was going on a trip. He called me and we were talking about hanging out in a it and then he switched it to we were breaking up and I should go grab my things. Maybe we could be friends in a month. I begged him to at least meet me in person. Eventually he said we could give it more time to work on things. We saw a therapist who acknowledged he needed to set boundaries with his mom. We went out to eat the day before his trip and everything was making! He followed me home because I was tired. He went on his trip and was nice the entire time. He talked about future trips and things we would do that weekend. Even said he loved me. A few hours before I was supposed to see him he sends me an email saying he was breaking up with me and that we are both good people but different. He said we shouldn't talk and that we would meet in a few weeks. He blocked my number immediately and changed his locks. I admit I wasn't happy for awhile but he never even spoke to me!!!!! He still has some of my things. The more I wrote the more pathetic I feel. The first time he broke up with me he said it was because we were both unhappy. I can't live without closure. He said we would always be friends and that is why I am dissapoined.
Miko Yan Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I am learning that closure comes from within, because no matter how much you insist the other person to give it to you, you will never receive the answer you're looking for, it will only create more questions and pain. Acceptance is the hardest step to achieve but thankfully it is the last one
Author Winesar21 Posted October 26, 2015 Author Posted October 26, 2015 Thanks, I am really struggling with that. I don't know how to get closure. I am beating myself up thinking how could someone two days prior say the love me and then they can't even speak to me! They send me an email with no chance of response. I feel pathetic and I keep beating myself up. It's not the breakup, it's how could someone treat someone they love like this.
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