stiffler0912 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 First off we hace been dating for a few months now and i have nevet felt closer to someone . Anyways a few weeks ago he mentioned he wasnt sure.he could date me because he wasnt sure he could handle me having a son. Which has happened before so i agreed we should stop seeibg eachother. But we continues to talk.everyday and see eachother and kiss and cuddle. A few days ago it was brought up again. We have slowed down on texting alot on the last week. But we work at the same mall so we sometimes run into each other. Anyways yesterday he texted me saying we have to stop talking , he said "I know I keep coming back cause I really like you but I will end up hurting you" I just responded "ok" he said it's sucks and it's going to be really hard not to talk to me . I responded with "yeah." He then asked me what I really think about this while situation* So I said this : I have wanted to sit you down in person for so long and tell you this but always chicken out cause I'm afraid to cry in front of you , I guess over text will have to do . When you're in a relationship it doesn't matter what's going on around you. You could have loved ben as your own and Ben would have loved you like a dad.. so you didn't make him but you would have raised him with your mentality , your beliefs. And as for kids of your own you still would have had them . Plus a boy that you would have been proud to say , his dad wasn't around so I stepped in . As for us having different lives , we could have grown together. I would have never asked you to give up ur beliefs or religion . Parenting styles are always different but also something you work on together I have already learned so much from you . It's also balance it's team work. Sure we would probably have disagreements but who doesn't . You work through them . I have been wanting to say this for a month now and I hate that I had to do it over text . And this is probably coming out all wrong but wtv* He then responded :* I know I kinda agree. I never said I didn't think I couldn't love him. U saw I was good with him. And it means a lot to me u said all that it's nice to know you were willing to do all that with me. It's just a lot for me. The religion thing, court, I hated the drinking, I live far, the step dad thing, dealing with his dad, it's a LOT to handle* And with my family. They wouldn't approve. They don't agree with the life style. Like there is so much I just never wanted to make it complicated. I didn't respond because I actually didn't even know what to say. And 30 min after he texted me again saying "you there ? "* I said yeah I just don't know what to respond.* Anyways I haven't texted him since but he keeps sending me pictured he knows I will think is funny or cute.* He said he wants to stop talking , but hasn't stopped texting me since he said it**. I like this guy alot and I agree we need to cut it off but why is he pushing so much for a response from me .
dumbass2 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 You know it and he knows it, you two are just not compatible because of the life differences. It is him and not you. You are who you are and he has convinced himself that the situation is not for him, but he does really like you. I don't see trying to talk someone into a relationship that brought up those types of issues. They are issues for him though. You will find someone that is not uncomfortable with them. I would text him back and let him know that your time together was great, but you two are just not a fit for the long term and it is best that you do not stay in contact. Please respect that and I wish you the best. It is for the best because you two need to find someone more compatible for each other. If you did try to work things out and get back right now, he's heart wouldn't be in it. These are not small issues that can easily be overcome. He doesn't sound like he wants to put his all into it. It would last very long if you got back together.
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