xpaperxcutx Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 This will be the first year I'm celebrating my birthday without my ex. Initially, I had wanted to just spend it alone, but I didn't want to have any regrets in not celebrating it. My ex has been gone for more than 10 months, and I'm slowly picking up the pieces. It's a really slow progress, but I feel like I'm being a lot more responsible than I had been before. I don't really have a social life anymore, save for those few days where I meet a friend for dinner after work. Everything revolves around my work and school; with my rest time being mostly at home and watching television. I don't know what happened to me. Even though Im kind of complacent, I feel like I should be doing more. Yes, I am depressed, but overall I just feel indifferent. I am waiting for better things to happen to me. I don't wish for my ex back anymore. I just want my own happiness. I hope I'll be okay.
itsallamystery Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 How long were you guys together? I recently got out of a very long relationship and though I've been out of it for 5 months, holiday's get me extremely sad. I was, and very much still am like you in the sense that i'm waiting for something to happen. And thats the problem. We should be DOING things to make us happier. I would go out more...be more social...but also make sure to be working on self identity as well. I know I developed a large part of who I am ( or rather was) based on being in a relationship. Therefore, when it ended I had no clue who the hell I really was. Make plans with your friends and celebrate. Its okay for it to be different than spending it with your ex. The hard part is coming to the realization that different is not always bad.
alphamale Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I just want my own happiness. there is nothing wrong with putting yourself first for a while. I wish you the best XPAPERXCUTX
Author xpaperxcutx Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 How long were you guys together? I recently got out of a very long relationship and though I've been out of it for 5 months, holiday's get me extremely sad. I was, and very much still am like you in the sense that i'm waiting for something to happen. And thats the problem. We should be DOING things to make us happier. I would go out more...be more social...but also make sure to be working on self identity as well. I know I developed a large part of who I am ( or rather was) based on being in a relationship. Therefore, when it ended I had no clue who the hell I really was. Make plans with your friends and celebrate. Its okay for it to be different than spending it with your ex. The hard part is coming to the realization that different is not always bad. I know different isn't bad, thank you for your advice. I was with my ex for 3 years but he left. There's nothingmuch to talk about except that we treated each pther really badly but in the end because he found another girl, he ended up treating me worse. I am doing alot of things for myself. Im taking care of my needs first. I am learning to love myself mpre becausei dont ever want to be mistreated again.
Gaby Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Hey i know what you are going tru, its my first Bday without my ex havent talked to her since august 1st. And i was expecting a happy bday text, but you know what. F that, went to for diner with 18 people and laughed so hard the waiter asked us to keep it down:D Anyway, what im trying to say is, you dont need 1 people to make you feel special, just ask some friends, or do something you like to do. Live life, focus all the energy on you and amazing things will happen take care
Glass Hut Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 So it a Happy Birthday text a bad idea? I'm guessing everyone here will say yes lol.
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