Nocontact101 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Hey guys! So about a month ago, I posted here regarding my breakup. I was with my ex for almost 3 years and we broke up after an argument (we argued a lot by the end!). Anyway, I've been strong and haven't contacted him since. I've been focusing on work, studies and going to the gym to get my old body back! So, a week ago, I received a notification on Linkedin saying he viewed my profile. He used to be useless with technology and social media so I'm not sure if he knows that I can see. Yesterday someone prank called me and I hung up- it was definitely a man's voice trying to be a girl. Then today, I was scrolling through my whatsapp list and my ex had unblocked me on whatsapp! I don't know what to think of it all. Is he trying to send me signals or am I reading too much into this? Please note that he is extra stubborn so him doing all of this is really confusing me lol. Help please!
nathan101 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I think he's just testing the waters as many would say. not even testing it really just seeing how you would react. its nothing to be worked up for and you shouldnt make much of it cause its not. keep moving on, when he hits you with a solid message youd know where his heads at. right now hes just messing with you and checking up. stay with no contact.
dumbass2 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Like nathan says, he's just messing with you and trying to get a reaction. My ex did this to me as well. That's truly all it is. Do not react to him. Once the break up occurs, it is truly best to take at least 30 days away from the situation and any contact. It allows you to start thinking a little more clearly and your emotions aren't so raw. We make mistakes when we are thinking with heart right after a break up. Just stay completely away for a while and see how you feel down the road. You two aren't getting back right away anyhow because that would be a huge mistake this soon to even discuss it. Best to make sure he is blocked everywhere if you can't deal with him messing with you.
Author Nocontact101 Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Thank you both! Yes, I feel like he wants to see if he gets a reaction because before it was mostly me who would break NC. When we broke up I blocked him on whatsapp and his number. I don't have instagram or facebook but I had him on Linkedin which I had forgotten until I received the notification that he was stalking me. I just want to pick his brains and see why he's doing this! Is he missing me or just being curious? I'm definitely keeping up with NC, I've come too far to break it.
dumbass2 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Thank you both! Yes, I feel like he wants to see if he gets a reaction because before it was mostly me who would break NC. When we broke up I blocked him on whatsapp and his number. I don't have instagram or facebook but I had him on Linkedin which I had forgotten until I received the notification that he was stalking me. I just want to pick his brains and see why he's doing this! Is he missing me or just being curious? I'm definitely keeping up with NC, I've come too far to break it. Probably a little of both. It is only natural that you both may miss each other, but it means nothing more than you miss some things about each other. After all, you were a big part of each others life for a while. Feelings just don't go away like that. The problem is when we are on the other side and trying to interpret things and we shouldn't do that. We don't know what the other person is truly thinking and emotions are raw right now so you both may not be in total control of everything. Just remember that it is natural and happens in probably just about every break up. There is one thing that you do know for sure, he broke up with you and did not want to be in a relationship with you. That is the bottom line. Actions speak louder than words. Do not try to analyze anything he does. It's hard. I still do it with my ex.
Author Nocontact101 Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 Thank you Dumbass2 lol (nice name!) Yes, I definitely miss him although I think about him less than at the beginning. I feel like him testing the waters worked because now I keep thinking about him and whether he's going to contact me. His mum and best friend live down the road from me so on the weekends I always feel like he's close by. I just don't understand the whole unblocking situation on whatsapp. He can see that I still haven't unblocked him so I would have thought his ego would have been bruised and he would have blocked me again but no, he hasn't. Is this his way of opening the door to communicate? Is he trying to show me he wants to talk? As you can see I have a lot of questions lol but I know I'm not going to break NC because I deserve more that silly little signals from him. What about you? Did your ex ever contact you after he tested your waters?
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