Author MsHopeful0208201689 Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 I would've been asking my neighbours if they noticed anyone else visiting besides wally...probably a bit late for that now though. When was your last STI check? Hopefully he hasn't given any, but it'd be well worth checking. I believe 100% that he cheated on you in your own bed. His put downs are completely unacceptable. I can't understand what there is to like about this guy!! I'm going to call my doctor to get one soon. I'm about due for one.. Thanks for your input 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Tip: if you want to be successful in a relationship, stop having to see the "good" in someone. You are not there to save them, rescue or fix them. You date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. Make sure they are a good human being: loyal, respectful, compassionate, honest, hard working, driven/goal oriented, compatible, loving, unselfish, level headed, etc. Anything less than this you are wasting your time. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MsHopeful0208201689 Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 Tip: if you want to be successful in a relationship, stop having to see the "good" in someone. You are not there to save them, rescue or fix them. You date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. Make sure they are a good human being: loyal, respectful, compassionate, honest, hard working, driven/goal oriented, compatible, loving, unselfish, level headed, etc. Anything less than this you are wasting your time. Thanks Smackie. I totally agree, I probably jumped in head first because he looks good on paper as far as his job goes and he holds a degree. But I am learning a job title has nothing to do with a character of a person and it's best to be friends first to see how this person really is, before jumping in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Tip: if you want to be successful in a relationship, stop having to see the "good" in someone. You are not there to save them, rescue or fix them. You date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. Make sure they are a good human being: loyal, respectful, compassionate, honest, hard working, driven/goal oriented, compatible, loving, unselfish, level headed, etc. Anything less than this you are wasting your time. Post of the Day 100% agree I think many people have the potential to be good people. However what I've learned is that things have to be right 'in the moment' of your relationship with them. You can't bet on potential and hope it will turn out right. You can support them in becoming a better person but you don't have to date them to do that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MsHopeful0208201689 Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 Post of the Day 100% agree I think many people have the potential to be good people. However what I've learned is that things have to be right 'in the moment' of your relationship with them. You can't bet on potential and hope it will turn out right. You can support them in becoming a better person but you don't have to date them to do that. Love it! So true. You can always be there for someone but you don't have to date or be intimate. All of this advice is truly helping me, I want to thank you all! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MsHopeful0208201689 Posted May 31, 2016 Author Share Posted May 31, 2016 I know I am really late on replying! But the relationship is finally over... We ended it verbally over a week ago but I felt it had been over for months now...! He still reaches out to me and wants to remain friends but in all honesty I am not that interested. Trying to play Mr. Nice Guy now that he see's I'm happier without... ALSO, I graduated University over 2 weeks ago :D I'm enjoying being single =) 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MsHopeful0208201689 Posted May 31, 2016 Author Share Posted May 31, 2016 For what it's worth, I agree this jerk should pay for half your birth control since in the past, YOU paid for half the condoms. He was happy to take your money for THAT and yet everyone is calling YOU petty? What a joke. This guy is about as worthless as they come. I find it highly amusing that he's putting YOU down when he's freakin' 27 years old, still living at home, and has to use YOUR place for his hookups because he can't afford a hotel. He leeches off you and NEVER offers a damned cent towards anything. I mean this sincerely. Why would you need this assclown to do ONE more rotten thing before you're finally motivated to kick his worthless ass to the curb? You're intelligent, ambitious, you have your sh*t together and this little weasel still lives with mommy. Jesus, he can't even afford to pay the $5 at the laundromat to wash the sheets HE dirtied - he had to run them all the way home to mommy's house. This guy is SUCH a loser. He's shown you that SO many times. Why won't you believe him? I'm finally done with him! We ended it verbally over a week ago but I felt in my heart and mind that's it was over well before that just had to muster up the courage to finalize.... AND I graduated university over 2 weeks ago :D 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Oops, missed the last two posts. Congratulations! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Well, it wouldn't have to be cheating. It would be perfectly normal if he masturbated while you were gone and was messy about it. I wouldn't go by that alone. But if your antennae has been up before, then it's one other thing to factor in. Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Any guy that complains about paying for dates should be history in your book. And you would do yourself a huge favor by stopping this 50/50 thing. Expect a man to want to take care of you. This isn't about money, it's about his desire to care for you. Even if he can only afford McDonald's, at least he makes an effort. You're making matters worse by lowering your expectations. Ask your dad about this. I'll bet you he'll agree. Even though things are ok between the two of you right now, you can still end the relationship. It's actually the best time to do it because it's done rationally, instead of the heat of the moment. Just tell him that you've done some soul searching, that you don't like the way he acts, the way he disrespects you, and the way he causes you to doubt him. Or simply tell him that you believe the two of you aren't compatible. And then end it. End of story. This guy is a huge loser and he has no manners whatsoever. No loss on your part. And don't let him talk you into believing he'll change. What you see is what you get. He has shown you who he is. Believe him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 I missed your other posts, too. Congrats!!! On both counts. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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