How to ask an older lady out?

[tomtheman1234]

I am not very good at asking ladies out on dates. I have had a crush on this older lady for some time now. I just wonder if anyone has any advise in how to ask her out so it dose not look like I am asking her out on a date.? Also how am I going to calm myself down so I have the nervous to ask her out.

Edited October 24, 2015 by tomtheman1234

[cif]

What are you asking her for if it's not a date? Older-ish woman like straightforwardness.

[d0nnivain]

I. I just wonder if anyone has any advise in how to ask her out so it dose not look like I am asking her out on a date.?

 

 

Scrap that plan. Ask her out on a proper date or say nothing. "older" women do not want to "hang out". If you can't point blank say would you like to get a drink with me at The Bar on [day of the week] or something else equally specific don't bother.

 

 

Whatever you do, do not mention that she's "older"

[Popsicle]

Just say, hey Would you like to join me at xyz sometime?

[carhill]

I have had a crush on this older lady for some time now.

 

Your 'asking out' process will become much easier and less stressful if you let go of this style and ask a lady out when the first pangs of infatuation strike you, before thoughts regarding a 'crush' invade your mind and form emotional memories and attachments to the crush. In the beginning there's nothing to lose, emotionally, so asking her on a date is easier.

 

How? Go with the flow. When a lively and enjoyable interaction is occurring, flow it right into a solo social get-together like lunch or dinner or whatever. See the 'date' as continuing what is presently going on, just with an agreed upon time and place.

 

If not acted upon and disconnected from, these crushes usually pass. Rather than bind yourself up with this one, something already apparently in process, disconnect it and try again. Billions of women on the planet. You're sure to meet another. It's pretty normal.