xxCourt96xx Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 So...Sunday I'm going on a date with somebody new that I met. He's a few years older than me, respectful, funny, and overall from what I can tell a great guy and it's safe to say that I do like him a little bit more than I intended to. We've just clicked...and that's where things are beginning to go awry. I got out of a year and a half relationship a little over a month ago- he was the dumper, did it in the most disrespectful way (I've made posts on it before) and hasn't attempted to contact me once or apologize for his actions. To be honest, as much as I already like this guy, I can't get past the actions of how my ex treated me at the end of our relationship and I'm petrified of starting a new one. I know I'm young and I shouldn't be afraid...but I am very afraid and nervous. How can I not be nervous and make an idiot of myself and scare him off? :(
louxor Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I always find it easier to get over the nerves of dates by simply not labelling it as a date. I approach it in the sense that I am just going to hang out with someone and focus on having the most fun possible, and whatever happens happens. It also helps if you can go into it with the mindset that you are a catch, and they have to prove themselves to you, not vise-versa - This relieves some nerves as you don't feel the pressure of having to 'prove' yourself to them. I can't get past the actions of how my ex treated me at the end of our relationship and I'm petrified of starting a new one. This is your first date with this guy, you don't really know much about him, so you shouldn't be thinking of it as a potential relationship right now. Just go and have fun, don't worry about this whole relationship stuff yet, focus on having a good time and getting to know him better.
d0nnivain Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I don't think you are ready. It's only been a month. Your EX & the break up haven't been fully processed. But to the extent I'm wrong, try to relax. Keep things casual Wear something that makes you feel good about yourself. Ask questions. Be pithy. Flirt. The ego boost will do you good. Most importantly remember this new guy is NOT your EX Just because your EX did something doesn't mean the whole world does that
Author xxCourt96xx Posted October 26, 2015 Author Posted October 26, 2015 Just a little update...the date went absolutely fantastic. We both agree that we're both really into each other...things have just clicked between us. I want to take things slow though, just enjoy getting to know him before getting too serious...I can already tell he's a huge upgrade from my ex. I'm happy things went so well :love: I didn't really have much of a reason to be nervous I guess. 1
makemineamac Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Good for you, that is great news! So happy for you!
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