What makes someone a good catch to you?

[seekingluck]

The other thread inspired me to start this one. How do you define a "good catch?"

 

For me:

1. they have life goals and they are working towards them

2. they have close relationships with family and friends and they value them

3. they are intellectually curious

4. they are in a good place in their life at the moment

5. they radiate positivity and a zest for life

6. they are looking to connect with someone special in the near term

[bluefeather]

I've never looked at it that way. I've never had anything like a check-off list for women. With the ladies I've been ending up with, maybe I should make one.. :/

[seekingluck]

I've never looked at it that way. I've never had anything like a check-off list for women. With the ladies I've been ending up with, maybe I should make one.. :/

 

I think you should. It doesn't have to be based on physical stuff or really long. It is really to help you refine what / who you connect with. And what you value most.

 

Like the whole family/friend relationship thing is on my list because every time I met someone who didn't meet that requirement, they turned out to be a bad fit. They were either too needy and wanted me to create and instant life for them (and friends) or they really had strange reasons for writing people off that bordered on controlling.

[ManyDissapoint]

A good catch is someone who realizes that a lot of what we do is driven by our lizard brain. And if we want to be more than turing machines, we must struggle with that lizard.

[cocorico]

For me:

 

They have good basic values, and live authentically in accordance with those.

They treat animals with compassion.

They are engaged with life.

They are positive, and energetic.

They are intelligent, socially adept, physically robust and attractive.

They are passionate in all areas of their life.

They connect.