Specimen B39 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 This is my first time posting here. Hello. I became single last year for the first time in 20 years (I'm 39) and I'm finding dating totally baffling after my extended break from it. This looks like a good site with people much more in the know than me! Sorry in advance if this is a bit long. For 9 months I've had a crush on a guy who runs a cafe near my home. It seemed to me he liked me. He stares at me intently when he thinks I'm not looking, says things seemingly to impress me, opens up to me about his hopes and fears, shyly asks me personal questions, and once when we were talking about both wanting a career change he said "Maybe we should do something together." He seemed to be gradually tipping his toe in the water to asking me out The thing that most made me think he liked me, though, was the other staff in the cafe. I believe they are his family. When I go in there, knowing glances flash about between the staff, and they either fall back and let him serve me, or even get him out from the kitchen to serve me. It seemed to me they were encouraging whatever it was that growing between us. Either that or they were having a laugh at it?! Then I did the unthinkable and asked him if he wanted to go out for a drink after work. He said he couldn't because he had to do his finances. It was pretty embarrassing. I didn't go in there for two months after that. But I haven't been able to stop thinking about him. I keep thinking that maybe I should date other guys before I dry up completely but nobody seems to interest me like he does. I finally went in there again last week. Me, him and the delivery guy had a conversation about his recent holiday and he mentioned to the delivery guy that he'd paid for "the two of them". I'd gotten the impression that he'd gone on the holiday with the woman who worked in there, who I'd also assumed (from their behaviour to one another) was a sister or cousin. She was one of the ones who seemed to be egging me and him on. But it doesn't seem very likely that a guy would buy an expensive holiday for a relative, does it? That's more like the kind of thing you do for a girlfriend? He then went on to display a bunch of behaviour that made me think he liked me. I'm kind of baffled by it all. Sorry, I'm just a bit of an idiot with all this romance stuff. The last time I was attempting it I was 19 and you could just drink a can of cider with someone then go down the alleyway for a snog.
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