Ilike2guys Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 Ok so I have been with my bf now for about 8 months. We have had some really hard times because he lives far away. We have a long distance relationship. Now about 2 years ago before I met my bf I had a friends with benefits.Lets call him 'D'. We used to have the best time together and ended up having sex but nothing came of it because he had a girlfriend and I was catching feelings so I had to let him go. I never ever picked up his phone calls again and I moved on and dated until I met my bf. Well fast forward to now...I went out two Fridays ago and Its 5:00am and I am coming out of the bathroom at some bar and guess who's standing at the bar? D! So I went up to him and he freaked out. He was mad at me at first for just disappearing out of his life, but then we talked and I explained that I left him because I was catching feeling and he had a girlfriend and i couldn't continue what we were doing. He told me he was catching feelings as well and that he thought I was too so he couldn't figure out why I just up and left with no explanation at all! Well we talked the rest of the night and he is still with the same gf. He's been with her for 4 years. So he asked for my number and I gave it to him ( just to keep in touch as friends ). So he calls me and asks if he can come over. I had some friends over and I thought why not...we would be in a group. So he comes over and I mean the sexual tension between us is something serious! So we hang out watch TV.. dance to the radio..had a couple drinks..we really had a good time. So he left and came over the next day. We did the same thing and this time before he left he asked me to walk him to his car. On the way to his car he asks me if I could ever see him as my man? I was shocked and said no. He asked why and I said because of the past and the now present. Its not pure. I don't think I could have a relationship with you. And then he kissed me. It was an awesome kiss. And he left. I went back inside and called my bf. I felt so guilty but then again I didn't. So the next day he asks if he can come over I say ok and we hang out all night and go to Taco bell and park in the parking lot and we end up kissing again. It was good but then his GF called and started b*tching him out. I felt like Sh*t sitting in his passenger seat while his gf was calling him complaining that he never makes any time to hang out with her. It sounded like me when I would call my bf and cry to him about the same things. I felt horrible. So I made him take me home. I gave him a kiss goodbye and we talked and he told me how beautiful I was and that it really sucks the situation that we are in. I said I know. So I went inside and he called and left me a voice message saying ' I want you to stop and sit and think about everything that is going through your head right now after that kiss and seeing me drive away. Think about it and call me back. ' So I sat there and I thought about it and do you know what my thought was? "WTF am I doing I love my bf and I would never ever be with this guy in a relationship..but he does make me laugh?" Anyways so my bf is coming to visit and I don't want to deal with 'd' anymore but I am stuck and don't want to hurt his feelings. He already told me he wants to leave his gf and that he is starting to feel something serious for me. How can I let him down after everything that has happened and tell him not to call or see me anymore? I can't disappear again????? Help!
observer Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 You need to stop talking to David. Then you need to talk with your Bf and tell him everything that happened and then you need to re-evaluate your relationship with him.
westernxer Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 Originally posted by Ilike2guys So he asked for my number and I gave it to him ( just to keep in touch as friends ). As if...
Illusion24 Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 How can I let him down after everything that has happened and tell him not to call or see me anymore? I can't disappear again????? Help! Says who?? The rules and regulations If you didn't want him in your life and you have a boyfriend how hard is it to tell someone you don't want to be with them, say the truth. If you don't want to dissapear again then it's obvious you still want him around. The question you should be asking yourself...Is why did I give him my number in the first place?? What is it that I'm missing in my relationship that causes me to want to give other guys my number?? If you love your boyfriend and you simply realize you made a mistake and learned from it...It shouldn't be hard, on the contrary it should be a piece of cakes to tell him "see ya hommie I'm in love"!!!
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