CosmicGate7 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 This chip on your shoulder is why you are perma single. If it's so evident here on LS, it must be even more evident in real life. If you truly want to meet someone and pursue a meaningful relationship, look inward as to why women are getting turned off by you. I'm actually not mad or bitter or anything. I just speak from experience seeing how incredibly easy my sisters had it in dating
CosmicGate7 Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 If you are appealing to women, they will let you know it. So what's the deal with me? Why does everyone say I'm so incredibly handsome and awesome yet I don't ever get signs of interest from cute girls my age?
clia Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 So what's the deal with me? Why does everyone say I'm so incredibly handsome and awesome yet I don't ever get signs of interest from cute girls my age? So you don't do online dating. If I recall correctly you also refuse to use Tinder, Meetup, or to join any other social groups. What exactly are you doing to meet women? How many women have you asked out on a date in the past month? I get the impression that you are waiting for women to pursue you. To answer your original question - yes, you should do online dating. You should also use Tinder.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 So you don't do online dating. If I recall correctly you also refuse to use Tinder, Meetup, or to join any other social groups. What exactly are you doing to meet women? How many women have you asked out on a date in the past month? I get the impression that you are waiting for women to pursue you. To answer your original question - yes, you should do online dating. You should also use Tinder. I go out a lot, I meet new people quite often, I do all sorts of fun stuff. I very rarely ask women out because none of them ever seem interested in me I can't ask women out who are giving me no signs of interest. It feels so awkward.
BLND Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 This chip on your shoulder is why you are perma single. If it's so evident here on LS, it must be even more evident in real life. If you truly want to meet someone and pursue a meaningful relationship, look inward as to why women are getting turned off by you. Exactly what I said on the first page of this long thread.
StBreton Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I go out a lot, I meet new people quite often, I do all sorts of fun stuff. I very rarely ask women out because none of them ever seem interested in me I can't ask women out who are giving me no signs of interest. It feels so awkward. You "can" ask anyone out. How about warming a woman up? Maybe they think you're standoffish so they don't show interest. Maybe you're too sensitive and have preconceived ideas of what a woman is thinking. Just try a different approach when you go out this week ...ask a girl some questions ...act humble and interested ...and go for the close by asking her out! she can only say No ...dating is a numbers game ... just keep asking. Make a goal of asking out 5 woman this week.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Just try a different approach when you go out this week ...ask a girl some questions ...act humble and interested . This is how I talk to people already, the decent looking ones my age never seem interested at all. That's just common sense social skills. I'm not standoffish at all actually - I've been told I have a very warm demeanor. If I want to date, I either have to settle for 20 years older than me or 40 lbs overweight. All I've ever wanted is a girl who is about equally attractive as myself
StBreton Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 This is how I talk to people already, the decent looking ones my age never seem interested at all. That's just common sense social skills. I'm not standoffish at all actually - I've been told I have a very warm demeanor. If I want to date, I either have to settle for 20 years older than me or 40 lbs overweight. All I've ever wanted is a girl who is about equally attractive as myself Sure but what you want or feel entitled to does not equate to your DMV ...dating market value ... The meat market decides that value. I've seen your pic and think you're handsome but I'm not in your demographic ...ask some of your sisters' friends for their honest assessment. Do your sisters have friends to set you up with? Why not try that tinder dating site? Have you tried match?
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Sure but what you want or feel entitled to does not equate to your DMV ...dating market value ... The meat market decides that value. I've seen your pic and think you're handsome but I'm not in your demographic ...ask some of your sisters' friends for their honest assessment. Do your sisters have friends to set you up with? Why not try that tinder dating site? Have you tried match? My sisters friends think I'm very handsome. Everybody who knows my family says I'm extremely handsome - they've commented to my mom on a few occasions. Keep in mind I look much better in real life than pictures but whatever I'm very very hesitant to try online dating because, from what I've seen, that only works for men who are top 0.000001% handsome or men who are willing to date someone way way way below their own league. Women on online dating sites are the most shallow beings on the planet by a mile.
Guyouthere Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 So what's the deal with me? Why does everyone say I'm so incredibly handsome and awesome yet I don't ever get signs of interest from cute girls my age? I think you might be trying too hard, just my opinion. Guys going around thinking they are handsome, often only get some of their hand hehehe Having said that… I personally think a lot of women out there think a good looking guy is out of their league, that they might feel "inferior" to him somehow, even though this is not true. Also, I think a lot of women also erroneously believe that a good looking guy is a player, they might assume "he is too good looking, he must have had a lot of women, maybe still does". Overall there is nothing you can do about it… other than let them see who you actually are as a person. Some won't give you that chance, some will. I get flirted with on a regular basis where I work, it happened again today. If you are a good looking guy, expect that too.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 (edited) Guys going around thinking they are handsome, often only get some of their hand hehehe I don't think that It's everyone else who keeps telling me that over and over and over and over and over and over again If you are a good looking guy, expect that too. Never happens to me with anybody halfway decent looking And I couldn't be further from a player. I actually don't even care about just getting laid. I want an awesome relationship with a great girl Edited October 27, 2015 by CosmicGate7
Guyouthere Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 My sisters friends think I'm very handsome. Everybody who knows my family says I'm extremely handsome - they've commented to my mom on a few occasions. Keep in mind I look much better in real life than pictures but whatever I'm very very hesitant to try online dating because, from what I've seen, that only works for men who are top 0.000001% handsome or men who are willing to date someone way way way below their own league. Women on online dating sites are the most shallow beings on the planet by a mile. Women on online dating sites are the most shallow? I doubt that. There are a lot of women out there who choose online dating for the same reason a good guy will….. perhaps she doesn't have access or even a schedule to go out and meet guys in real life. You know the few serious relationships I had in life were actually half and half, and I wouldn't say meeting them online was any worse that real life. You get bad and good anywhere. True I met my ex wife online, was married for over 15 years though. I met my first long term girlfriend at a church, we are still friends over 25 years later, even though she is married, I respect that and her. I met my last girl online, but quite by accident, I wasn't looking. The one before her, not really a friend, I met while waiting for a date at the beach at night. She was too materialistic and after money. You get the point.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Women on online dating sites are the most shallow? I doubt that. Absolutely. There's been a few experiments done with pictures of male models using and saying the most horrible **** ever and getting dates with beautiful women who are very interested Ladies will never admit it, but they're much worse than men on dating sites
Guyouthere Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I don't think that It's everyone else who keeps telling me that over and over and over and over and over and over again Never happens to me with anybody halfway decent looking And I couldn't be further from a player. I actually don't even care about just getting laid. I want an awesome relationship with a great girl Yes, I can understand you want a good relationship with a nice girl. It is my goal too. I don't need it though, I can be and am OK with life as it is now. You need to be at that point too. Don't come across as desperate. It isn't good for your own feelings, and women don't like it either. I think you just need to get out there. If you are good looking and know how to talk to women, there will be at least that one who will snatch you up. When you see a nice lady, pick out something about her and compliment her on it. I did that today with a customer…. a younger lady who had a butterfly tattoo on her leg. I made conversation with her and made her smile. I wasn't interested in her, but I did it anyway. I'm also new to dating…. so know I will make mistakes at times. It is OK. If you are handsome, women will flirt with you. You just need to know how to take it to the next level.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 If you are handsome, women will flirt with you. Bro are you reading what I'm telling you? It just doesn't happen with anybody half way decent looking.
Guyouthere Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 (edited) Bro are you reading what I'm telling you? It just doesn't happen with anybody half way decent looking. Yes I am. Im trying to help you build self confidence. You need to start there. If you "got the look", you should already be getting attention. That is reality. I have been told I am handsome, for real, not bragging, just saying for the sake of this chat. I get many women flirting, really pretty ones and some not so pretty by a lot of standards. You should be getting all types too. Edited October 27, 2015 by Guyouthere
Guyouthere Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 also, just thinking,,, perhaps it is how you carry yourself (like stand, walk, etc.) that is keeping some women away. How tall are you? I m over 6 feet.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 also, just thinking,,, perhaps it is how you carry yourself (like stand, walk, etc.) that is keeping some women away. How tall are you? I m over 6 feet. I'm 5'10 but I'm very muscular and have excellent body language and posture. People have told me that they though I was taller than I am
kilgore Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I'm 5'10 but I'm very muscular and have excellent body language and posture. People have told me that they though I was taller than I am What is your body language?
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 You should be getting all types too. But I don't, at all, so what's next? People always say the answer to everything is self improvement, well I'm obsessively into self improvement. I'm obsessed with being the best version of myself, so what's next?
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 What is your body language? Straight posture, relaxed, shoulders not slouched, head upright in a confident position, walk with a bit of a natural swagger
kilgore Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 But I don't, at all, so what's next? People always say the answer to everything is self improvement, well I'm obsessively into self improvement. I'm obsessed with being the best version of myself, so what's next? Try to look at it from the outside. Say you were your good friend. What advice would you give yourself?
CosmicGate7 Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Try to look at it from the outside. Say you were your good friend. What advice would you give yourself? I don't approach women enough but I find it nearly impossible to ask women out with no indicators of interest
kilgore Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I don't approach women enough but I find it nearly impossible to ask women out with no indicators of interest Maybe try talking to a woman without a goal of asking her out and just see what happens. Without the pressure of that mission you might do better
StBreton Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 I don't approach women enough but I find it nearly impossible to ask women out with no indicators of interest I think you need to create the opportunity. All the guys I had long term relationships with ...I didn't even know they existed till they approached me. I really think you're missing the boat on this one. And of course less attractive girls may be be more assertive out there so do not gauge your attractiveness in their interest in you. However ...you must step up to the batter's box. But others in this thread have told you that and you seem resentful of having to do that. So I'll offer the challenge once again ...ask 5 girls out this weekend ...girls of your choosing not ones who give you some signal. 2
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