CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 My point is: Nowadays its so easy to flirt or meet someone. A lot of people go on a date, and because there are so many ooportunities, they wonder if there are any better ou there, so they dont stick around to learn, grow or have a good. Everyone is looking for the perfect one. There are no perfect people. Yep, I've known a few women like that. They jump from guy to guy to guy, turning everybody away because of a tiny imperfection here and tiny imperfection there. If you don't give something a real chance, it has no chance to succeed. You gotta be committed
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 The thing off putting about "CosmicGate" is that he comes on here every few weeks with a different username, says exactly the shame shyte and ignores the answers. Dont feed it. Duly noted. There's another person on here who, while he doesn't change his name, presents a similar scenario. Woe is me...advice given ...but doesn't listen to a thing then more woe is me
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 My point is: Nowadays its so easy to flirt or meet someone. A lot of people go on a date, and because there are so many ooportunities, they wonder if there are any better ou there, so they dont stick around to learn, grow or have a good. Everyone is looking for the perfect one. There are no perfect people. Totally agree^^^^^ I was like that in my 20s ...admittedly I was shallow ...now I only leave if big red flags
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Totally agree^^^^^ I was like that in my 20s ...admittedly I was shallow ...now I only leave if big red flags Women in their 30s and 40s can be pretty awesome actually. I just can't date them for obvious reasons (I wanna get married and have kids soon) So I'm stuck trying for the mid to late 20s crowd, which the entire world is pursuing so their standards are just astronomical. They want a guy who looks like Channing Tatum, earns like Bill Gates, is both a badass yet has a heart of gold (only around them of course ) etc... etc... etc... etc...
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 (edited) Women in their 30s and 40s can be pretty awesome actually. I just can't date them for obvious reasons (I wanna get married and have kids soon) So I'm stuck trying for the mid to late 20s crowd, which the entire world is pursuing so their standards are just astronomical. They want a guy who looks like Channing Tatum, earns like Bill Gates, is both a badass yet has a heart of gold (only around them of course ) etc... etc... etc... etc... Ya pretty much my standards when I was in my 20s but... I married a Channing Tatum ...who wasn't a bill gates but successful and very very driven ...he was a manly man but a gentleman ...except ...was in his 20s and I my 30s ...we had no issues having children ...first marriage for both of us ...so don't discount someone in early 30s ...just noticed this part in your post ...if you want to get married and have kids pretty soon ...find someone early 30s! The pick of me I'll put up is me at 32 Edited October 24, 2015 by StBreton
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Ya pretty much my standards when I was in my 20s but... I married a Channing Tatum ...who wasn't a bill gates but successful and very very driven ...he was a manly man but a gentleman ...except ...was in his 20s and I my 30s ...we had no issues having children ...first marriage for both of us ...so don't discount someone in early 30s ...just noticed this part in your post ...if you want to get married and have kids pretty soon ...find someone early 30s! The pick of me I'll put up is me at 32 I would be willing to date an attractive woman without kids who is 30-32 but they would likely have extremely high standards as well...probably looking for a guy who makes a hell of a lot more money than I do (they're not looking for 180K, they're looking or a guy who is making 500K a year )
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 (edited) What's interesting to me is how so many guys who treat women so horribly find it so easy to have a girlfriend Why would so many women rather be with some prick who has zero respect for them than a guy like me who is ferociously loyal, affectionate, caring, generous and supportive? It's not like I'm a feminine nice guy pushover. Most of these supposed bad buy types I see are 1/5th my size and would get crushed by me if they ever challenged me, so it's not a question of masculinity. I believe I would be the perfect boyfriend. Edited October 25, 2015 by CosmicGate7
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 (they're not looking for 180K, they're looking or a guy who is making 500K a year ) How many people do you know make 500K a year? How many women you know around you, sisters, cousins, colleagues, neighbors, are dating men earning 500K a year?
Guyouthere Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 What's interesting to me is how so many guys who treat women so horribly find it so easy to have a girlfriend Why would so many women rather be with some prick who has zero respect for them than a guy like me who is ferociously loyal, affectionate, caring, generous and supportive? It's not like I'm a feminine nice guy pushover. Most of these supposed bad buy types I see are 1/5th my size and would get crushed by me if they ever challenged me, so it's not a question of masculinity. I believe I would be the perfect boyfriend. You are not the firs tot ask this. My conclusion is that there is a God and He saves up the best FOR the best, and lets the rest have the REST.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 How many people do you know make 500K a year? How many women you know around you, sisters, cousins, colleagues, neighbors, are dating men earning 500K a year? 5 or 6 My sister married a guy making 400-500K a year but he's a moron when it comes to money management. I am awesome with money management so I will be much much better off when we're both 50 years old (hopefully I'll be making 250 to 300K by then) Still women don't care about that, they would rather be dating the guy with the bling. My lexus and my 3000 sqrt foot house isn't very exciting when they can date a guy driving an A8 or a Porsche.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 You are not the firs tot ask this. My conclusion is that there is a God and He saves up the best FOR the best, and lets the rest have the REST. Yea the way I treat people is absolutely impeccable My 6 best friends would tell you that they don't know a better person than me. They know I would go to the gates of hell for them and their families. I take a lot of pride in that.
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 5 or 6 My sister married a guy making 400-500K a year but he's a moron when it comes to money management. I am awesome with money management so I will be much much better off when we're both 50 years old (hopefully I'll be making 250 to 300K by then) Still women don't care about that, they would rather be dating the guy with the bling. My lexus and my 3000 sqrt foot house isn't very exciting when they can date a guy driving an A8 or a Porsche. My last advice to you would be to humble yourself a little. I don't think your looks, or money is the problem. I think your attitude is the problem. I am sitting thousands of miles away from you and I find you arrogant, abrasive and unpleasant, imagine if I were sitting next to you. You need a lesson in humility. I suggest you to try volunteer work for homeless or elders. 2
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 My last advice to you would be to humble yourself a little. I don't think your looks, or money is the problem. I think your attitude is the problem. I am sitting thousands of miles away from you and I find you arrogant, abrasive and unpleasant, imagine if I were sitting next to you. You need a lesson in humility. I suggest you to try volunteer work for homeless or elders. I apologize if I come across that way. I don't think I'm arrogant at all in real life. I come from a very poor immigrant family so I know that we all have struggles. My father has never made all that much money but he was the best father I could ever ask for.
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I apologize if I come across that way. I don't think I'm arrogant at all in real life. I come from a very poor immigrant family so I know that we all have struggles. My father has never made all that much money but he was the best father I could ever ask for. How was your mom?
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 How was your mom? Absolutely amazing. My whole family is wonderful, couldn't ask for a better family It actually kills my mom that I'm perma-single the way I am. She wants me to have a wife and family so much.
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Absolutely amazing. My whole family is wonderful, couldn't ask for a better family It actually kills my mom that I'm perma-single the way I am. She wants me to have a wife and family so much. Feeling pressured to getting married and start a family? You're only 26. 2
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Feeling pressured to getting married and start a family? You're only 26. I'm from a fairly conservative culture, my mom had my sister at 22. My dad got married at 25, I'm almost 27 and I've never even had sex with a woman I was attracted to. It's just pathetic I think my mom would be fine with me getting married at 35 if I had a dating life but she knows how perma-single I am. I can't hide it when I never brought a girl home to meet her for the 24 years I lived with her. I never even went to prom.
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I'm from a fairly conservative culture, my mom had my sister at 22. My dad got married at 25, I'm almost 27 and I've never even had sex with a woman I was attracted to. It's just pathetic You cannot compare yourself to your parents they're from a different generation even in your culture. I was married at 20 and a mother at 21 and I certainly did not expect my daughter to repeat it!! She is 28 no children and I find nothing wrong with it. I think my mom would be fine with me getting married at 35 if I had a dating life but she knows how perma-single I am. I can't hide it when I never brought a girl home to meet her for the 24 years I lived with her. I never even went to prom. About dating within your culture?
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 You cannot compare yourself to your parents they're from a different generation even in your culture. I was married at 20 and a mother at 21 and I certainly did not expect my daughter to repeat it!! She is 28 no children and I find nothing wrong with it. My sister got married at 25 and had kids at 26 so I can't say it's all that different But again, dating for women is so much easier, it's just unbelievable. My sister put in a tiny fraction of my effort to meet someone for 100 times the result. about dating within your culture? It's very tough for me to relate to women from my culture. I am very very Americanized - I play football and listen to country music. My best friend is a big GI Joe looking Marine.
kilgore Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 My sister got married at 25 and had kids at 26 so I can't say it's all that different But again, dating for women is so much easier, it's just unbelievable. My sister put in a tiny fraction of my effort to meet someone for 100 times the result. It's very tough for me to relate to women from my culture. I am very very Americanized - I play football and listen to country music. My best friend is a big GI Joe looking Marine. Plus all the porn...
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I should add part of the problem for me is living in the suburbs. It's a very big suburb and the night scene features lots of single people my age but my daily routine features mainly older people and families The problem is that I can't move. I have wonderful friends that live 15 minutes away, an extremely high paying job and a house with wonderful parents that live 5 minutes away How do I sacrifice all that to move to the city where it may make zero difference and I might be permanently single anyways?
Guyouthere Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I should add part of the problem for me is living in the suburbs. It's a very big suburb and the night scene features lots of single people my age but my daily routine features mainly older people and families The problem is that I can't move. I have wonderful friends that live 15 minutes away, an extremely high paying job and a house with wonderful parents that live 5 minutes away How do I sacrifice all that to move to the city where it may make zero difference and I might be permanently single anyways? You just answered your own question,,,, just have hope that someone will come your way. After all, everyone plays that game, No need to move then (based on what you said here).
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 You just answered your own question,,,, just have hope that someone will come your way. After all, everyone plays that game, No need to move then (based on what you said here). LOL you mean the male gender plays that game? The female gender plays the game of "walk outside my house and be hit on 500,000,000 times" wherever she goes
Guyouthere Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 LOL you mean the male gender plays that game? The female gender plays the game of "walk outside my house and be hit on 500,000,000 times" wherever she goes If you are appealing to women, they will let you know it. I have been flirted with many times, even grabbed. I didn't show interest because I was committed to someone. And even in those times I haven't been committed, I wasn't interested either because I didn't want a woman then or she wasn't my type anyway. I have been rejected in the past in my life too, but what guy hasn't? If you know how to talk to a lady, make her smile, you can get "results" with the right one. Its all rather new to me still. I am learning to use what I know I already have. You can and should do the same. If a guy isn't a creep, there will be a lady who does come along. (even so, some women still like creeps as well).
Jejangles Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 LOL you mean the male gender plays that game? The female gender plays the game of "walk outside my house and be hit on 500,000,000 times" wherever she goes This chip on your shoulder is why you are perma single. If it's so evident here on LS, it must be even more evident in real life. If you truly want to meet someone and pursue a meaningful relationship, look inward as to why women are getting turned off by you.
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