WomenWubber Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Saw your picture yesterday. Have in mind I'm not a woman but you seem slightly average looking to me. What stands out about you is your size, which is good on a man. But fact of the matter is you are not that good looking so it's very unlikely you will succeed on OLD unless you do a significant amount of work on your profile. For now I'd suggest you stop dating altogether and concentrate solely on you. You do sound bitter in you posts, so do things that make you happy instead of draining your positive energy away. 1
barbossa Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 How? You can't be an MD and people couldn't care less about IT guys making 100k in my city at 26 so what's the deal? If you are as good looking as others say you are ,and you dress great and are fit ,it should be easy for you to get girls online . Online looks matter . a lot. Unless you are earning $150k plus, which at 26 is highly unlikely , you compete like other guys, join a high end gym. Buy a sexy car , 100% if you drive a new corvette it will help you more than a Toyota .
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 How? You can't be an MD and people couldn't care less about IT guys making 100k in my city at 26 so what's the deal? If you are as good looking as others say you are ,and you dress great and are fit ,it should be easy for you to get girls online . Online looks matter . a lot. Unless you are earning $150k plus, which at 26 is highly unlikely , you compete like other guys, join a high end gym. Buy a sexy car , 100% if you drive a new corvette it will help you more than a Toyota . I am probably gonna hit close to 180K this year, not too shabby for my age. Best of all, I live in a reasonable area and I'm not in some bogus profession like doctor where I have 800 K student loans. I paid off my student loans last year As far as my car goes, I have a pearl White Lexus GS. Very beautiful car. I couldn't get a corvette because I'm a big guy and it does not fit me
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 To add on to this OP just because you are handsome and pretty does not mean you will get dates. My best friend is in dental school, loyal, sweet, a good person, drop dead gorgeous, and has never had a boyfriend or has had someone meaningful chase after her and has not had success at online dating. She asks me why, and I tell her its because 1)you half ass putting yourself out there. Just creating a profile and talking to people isn't enough, you gotta be willing to wade through the bs and message hundreds of people before you find a few that you can date no matter how you look like and 2) don't have this checklist. For example she only wanted a guy who was in grad school, but most guys are not college grads let alone grad school grads and that has nothing to do with drive and success. Looking for someone with drive is important if you are driven but being picky about how they are driven has nothing to do with your connection. The problem with the checklist when it comes to online dating is its too easy online to write people off who you wouldn't even write off in real life if you gave them a chance. To be fair, this isn't a very good comparison Your friend is only looking for guys who are a very high level of education and also good looking/fit/charming. If I was that picky, I couldn't blame myself for being permanently single. I don't even care if the girl has a college education
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 (edited) Saw your picture yesterday. Have in mind I'm not a woman but you seem slightly average looking to me.. 3 of the ladies here said I was very good looking so that's awesome If I get a professional to do some pics of me, I think you guys would be amazed at how much better I look. I've always looked 100x better in real life than pics. I really don't mean to sound conceited, but when I go out to the town dressed in a form fitting button down shirt and nice jeans, I look pretty awesome in real life. If I was a gay dude or a woman, I would be getting hit on 500,000,000 times. Edited October 24, 2015 by CosmicGate7
Single2007 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 3 of the ladies here said I was very good looking so that's awesome If I get a professional to do some pics of me, I think you guys would be amazed at how much better I look. I've always looked 100x better in real life than pics. I really don't mean to sound conceited, but when I go out to the town dressed in a form fitting button down shirt and nice jeans, I look pretty awesome in real life. If I was a gay dude or a woman, I would be getting hit on 500,000,000 times. If you put as much energy to approaching someone as you do typing on a damn forum you would be fine. Stop your crying and man up. 2
Guyouthere Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 3 of the ladies here said I was very good looking so that's awesome If I get a professional to do some pics of me, I think you guys would be amazed at how much better I look. I've always looked 100x better in real life than pics. I really don't mean to sound conceited, but when I go out to the town dressed in a form fitting button down shirt and nice jeans, I look pretty awesome in real life. If I was a gay dude or a woman, I would be getting hit on 500,000,000 times. It is true that pictures can distort us some. Actually, pictures we see are all 2 dimensional. And it is impossible for any photo to show all details because of that fact. (depth is lost, which enhances and distorts features). So yes, this is why we ALL look different in pics (wether you know it or not)
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 (edited) If you put as much energy to approaching someone as you do typing on a damn forum you would be fine. Stop your crying and man up. I'm not crying My biggest thing is that I hate awkwardness. Anytime I wanna approach a woman I like, all I sense is extreme awkwardness - I feel like I'm just annoying her and there's 5,000 obstacles in the way. Overall, I really hate the dating process. In my mind, no girl ever wants to be approached or asked out. Edited October 24, 2015 by CosmicGate7
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 It is true that pictures can distort us some. Actually, pictures we see are all 2 dimensional. And it is impossible for any photo to show all details because of that fact. (depth is lost, which enhances and distorts features). So yes, this is why we ALL look different in pics (wether you know it or not) Yes Everybody's always said I look much much better in real life than pics
WomenWubber Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 (edited) 3 of the ladies here said I was very good looking so that's awesome If I get a professional to do some pics of me, I think you guys would be amazed at how much better I look. I've always looked 100x better in real life than pics. I really don't mean to sound conceited, but when I go out to the town dressed in a form fitting button down shirt and nice jeans, I look pretty awesome in real life. If I was a gay dude or a woman, I would be getting hit on 500,000,000 times. Then get your pics done. You have the looks and the money. Use them and you may get much better results. Edit: Also I meant to say "slightly above average" in my other post. Edited October 24, 2015 by WomenWubber
chapter44 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I'm not crying My biggest thing is that I hate awkwardness. Anytime I wanna approach a woman I like, all I sense is extreme awkwardness - I feel like I'm just annoying her and there's 5,000 obstacles in the way. Overall, I really hate the dating process. In my mind, no girl ever wants to be approached or asked out. Sure they do! If done correctly and not in a creepy way most women don't mind being approached. I've met women at the gas station, the Dr. Office, Starbucks, and Target. I won't do online dating because I prefer to meet someone organically, but that is just me. Maybe you just need to practice the art of conversation and get more comfortable with approaching someone you don't know. Why not give OLD a shot for a bit and sharpen your dating skills - If nothing else at least it will get you out.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Maybe you just need to practice the art of conversation and get more comfortable with approaching someone you don't know. Why not give OLD a shot for a bit and sharpen your dating skills - If nothing else at least it will get you out. Get me out assuming I would get some dates? That would be awesome but I'm very very skeptical. I don't look like Channing Tatum and that's what it seemingly takes to get a date online with halfway decent looking women. As far as art of conversation goes, I've always made plenty of friends but I'm always trying to improve there too.
40 Fonzarelli Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 A lot of guys date down online because those are the only ones that respond. Stay away from online if its gonna bruise your confidence.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 A lot of guys date down online because those are the only ones that respond. Stay away from online if its gonna bruise your confidence. Yea women online seem to be absolutely brutal with their dating standards. Overweight mom of 9 expects to date a fit and good looking college educated dude That's why it's so hard for me to take women's dating complaints seriously. I'm not trying to be insensitive or be a prick, just seems like everything in dating is set up in their favor. Dating used to be equal - now ladies can wait back and be approached by a million dudes like it's 1515 or go out there and easily approach dudes like it's 2015.
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I'm not crying My biggest thing is that I hate awkwardness. Anytime I wanna approach a woman I like, all I sense is extreme awkwardness - I feel like I'm just annoying her and there's 5,000 obstacles in the way. Overall, I really hate the dating process. In my mind, no girl ever wants to be approached or asked out. OP ...those 5000 things are all baggage from another time and place in your history ... Build up your self esteem like you built your body. Many of us on this forum have been in our 20s ...we're so over the awkwardness stage ... Go make it happen for yourself. If you need help with your girl approach ...ask a friend who's a girl to practice with you ...or ask one of your sisters How about meeting girls through things you like to do and make a friend ...break the ice then ask out on a date to alleviate the awkwardness of which you speak
BLND Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Yea women online seem to be absolutely brutal with their dating standards. Overweight mom of 9 expects to date a fit and good looking college educated dude That's why it's so hard for me to take women's dating complaints seriously. I'm not trying to be insensitive or be a prick, just seems like everything in dating is set up in their favor. Dating used to be equal - now ladies can wait back and be approached by a million dudes like it's 1515 or go out there and easily approach dudes like it's 2015. And this is exactly why I mentioned 2 pages earlier, that there is something off putting about you. You sound exactly like a passive aggressive prick, who's full of himself and thinks no woman can be good enough for him.
Maxtor Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I compare the online dating to STEAM, the videogame platform. 20 years ago, without STEAM and without Internet as we know, I bought 1 game, and even if it was bad, I played, and tried to find good things, enjoying, being patient and becoming good playing it. Now, I have over 100 games on STEAM, some games I bought and I didnt even play them, cause there are too many games, too many choices. Online dating is the same.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 OP ...those 5000 things are all baggage from another time and place in your history ... Build up your self esteem like you built your body. Many of us on this forum have been in our 20s ...we're so over the awkwardness stage ... Go make it happen for yourself. If you need help with your girl approach ...ask a friend who's a girl to practice with you ...or ask one of your sisters How about meeting girls through things you like to do and make a friend ...break the ice then ask out on a date to alleviate the awkwardness of which you speak Thinks I like to do Play in a football league Bodybuilding Grilling Playing video games Cars Etc... How many of these hobbies can I really expect to meet women at? The only things that I really enjoy where women also enjoy it quite a bit is trance and country music, but the ladies there are just there to have fun with their friends. They don't want to be hit on by thirsty douchebags like me.
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I compare the online dating to STEAM, the videogame platform. 20 years ago, without STEAM and without Internet as we know, I bought 1 game, and even if it was bad, I played, and tried to find good things, enjoying, being patient and becoming good playing it. Now, I have over 100 games on STEAM, some games I bought and I didnt even play them, cause there are too many games, too many choices. Online dating is the same. Do you think men and woman who utilize OLD have this mentality and the ones that don't stay in a relationship longer even if it's not perfect Or when you're dating and don't use OLD you're not as much of a perfectionist and accepting of minor flaws?
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 (edited) Thinks I like to do Play in a football league Bodybuilding Grilling Playing video games Cars Etc... How many of these hobbies can I really expect to meet women at? The only things that I really enjoy where women also enjoy it quite a bit is trance and country music, but the ladies there are just there to have fun with their friends. They don't want to be hit on by thirsty douchebags like me. When I lived downtown chicago I played on a coed football team. It was a blast ...maybe try that. Going out for beers afterward ...lots of socializing Maybe take a cooking class at a local community center. I took asian cooking classes years ago. Expand your hobbies Country bars are great places to meet someone ...ask a girl to dance You can come up with your 5000 reasons ...not gonna get you the girl Edited October 24, 2015 by StBreton
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Yea women online seem to be absolutely brutal with their dating standards. Overweight mom of 9 expects to date a fit and good looking college educated dude That's why it's so hard for me to take women's dating complaints seriously. I'm not trying to be insensitive or be a prick, just seems like everything in dating is set up in their favor. Dating used to be equal - now ladies can wait back and be approached by a million dudes like it's 1515 or go out there and easily approach dudes like it's 2015. If you keep up this whining OP ...I swear I'm going to run out to walgreens and get you a pacifier Man up ... Ask the girl ...you sound bitter and angry that you have to do the hunting. It's in your genetic code
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 When I lived downtown chicago I played on a coed football team. It was a blast ...maybe try that. Going out for beers afterward ...lots of socializing I play in a very serious league with big muscular dudes, lol its not a coed league. Maybe take a cooking class at a local community center. I took asian cooking classes years ago. Expand your hobbies Country bars are great places to meet someone ...ask a girl to dance You can come up with your 5000 reasons ...not gonna get you the girl Cooking class? I don't really have the time, I work 55 hours a week Country bars are awesome but the women there want to be picked up by someone who looks like Dustin Lynch or Luke bryan, not my dark ass
joseb Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 And this is exactly why I mentioned 2 pages earlier, that there is something off putting about you. You sound exactly like a passive aggressive prick, who's full of himself and thinks no woman can be good enough for him. The thing off putting about "CosmicGate" is that he comes on here every few weeks with a different username, says exactly the shame shyte and ignores the answers. Dont feed it.
Maxtor Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Do you think men and woman who utilize OLD have this mentality and the ones that don't stay in a relationship longer even if it's not perfect Or when you're dating and don't use OLD you're not as much of a perfectionist and accepting of minor flaws? My point is: Nowadays its so easy to flirt or meet someone. A lot of people go on a date, and because there are so many ooportunities, they wonder if there are any better ou there, so they dont stick around to learn, grow or have a good. Everyone is looking for the perfect one. There are no perfect people.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 If you keep up this whining OP ...I swear I'm going to run out to walgreens and get you a pacifier Man up ... Ask the girl ...you sound bitter and angry that you have to do the hunting. It's in your genetic code Not bitter or angry, just realistic I don't have a problem that women have it much much easier in dating, i just get annoyed that they deny it. I have it much easier in other areas - my first time bench pressing, I did 225 lbs for a max, just naturally strong like an ox. The difference is that I don't deny how much easier it is for me there.
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