Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 First: You are not 20 years old anymore so you get your sexy self on there and give it a try. You have nothing to lose. If you want a woman with substance then look from 26 to 30 yo women. You can't compare your experience when you were 20 with today. It's a bit ridiculous. I wasn't much worse looking at 20 than I am now. My hairline is receding now - I had beautiful thick hair with a perfect hairline at 20. I'm a little more thick and muscular now but I was a big guy at 20 as well. I'm extremely successful now (where i was a poor college student at 20) but that doesn't seem to mean much. I see lots of very poor guys with attractive girlfriends. No we do not want impossible good looking men. We want a connection and that will happen with a man we find attractive. What I find attractive is not the same as what the next woman finds attractive. So you don't think any of the 80 women I messaged found me attractive? Even as I get 50,000 compliments every month for being handsome/cute/buff/stylish? At some point, I have to wonder if I'm destined to die alone, no?
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I wasn't much worse looking at 20 than I am now. My hairline is receding now - I had beautiful thick hair with a perfect hairline at 20. I'm a little more thick and muscular now but I was a big guy at 20 as well. I was not referring to how you looked at 20. I was talking in terms of the type of women you find at 20. Whether it's online or not, 20 yo want fun and are not ready for serious commitment. So you don't think any of the 80 women I messaged found me attractive? Even as I get 50,000 compliments every month for being handsome/cute/buff/stylish? And were you massaging classy ladies? Do you aim at the right type of women? Is your profile too long or talks to much about your success and young women are intimidated by it. At some point, I have to wonder if I'm destined to die alone, no? Don't make me laugh ok
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 I was not referring to how you looked at 20. I was talking in terms of the type of women you find at 20. Whether it's online or not, 20 yo want fun and are not ready for serious commitment. What made me seem like not a guy to have fun with? I'm obviously extremely responsible and serious in many ways but I can party until 6 AM as well. I work very hard and play equally hard and were you massaging classy ladies? Do you aim at the right type of women? I was messaging women as similar to me as possible Is your profile too long or talks to much about your success I wasn't successful at that point so the answer is no. I always keep everything very succinct.
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Are you making your search in Chicago or in your town? If I were you I would include in my search the city of Chicago. I live in the suburb of a big city and if I only searched in my area I'd be much more limited.
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Are you making your search in Chicago or in your town? If I were you I would include in my search the city of Chicago. I live in the suburb of a big city and if I only searched in my area I'd be much more limited. I'm willing to drive about 40 minutes so I would be open to women in Chicago. Who are we kidding though? Women in the city don't want to date a suburbs guy. They find us boring. Women in the city are getting hit on by 500 guys at the bar, 500 guys at the store and 500 guys online who live 5 minutes away. Why settle for a suburban dude? And I do wish I lived in the city but I have an awesome job 5 minutes from me and I like suburban living - I like my 3,000 square foot, 3 car garage, easy parking and no traffic. I can't sacrifice all that to live in a box in the city
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Are you making your search in Chicago or in your town? If I were you I would include in my search the city of Chicago. I live in the suburb of a big city and if I only searched in my area I'd be much more limited. I'm willing to drive about 40 minutes so I would be open to women in Chicago. Who are we kidding though? Women in the city don't want to date a suburbs guy. They find us boring. Women in the city are getting hit on by 500 guys at the bar, 500 guys at the store and 500 guys online who live 5 minutes away. Why settle for a suburban dude? And I do wish I lived in the city but I have an awesome job 5 minutes from me and I like suburban living - I like my 3,000 square foot, 3 car garage, easy parking and no traffic. I can't sacrifice all that to live in a box in the city.
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I don't want to offend you but your attitude sucks a little. You came on here with a question and were not open at all you only wanted to put down online dating. Every subject I brought up you found a way of criticizing in a negative way. You make broad negative generalization about women. Maybe you should check that. 4
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 You came on here with a question and were not open at all you only wanted to put down online dating. I'm not putting down online dating. I had an atrocious experience with online dating 6 years ago and all I can comment is my experience on it back then. Online dating was absolutely horrible to me but that's just me. I'm sure there are people who have met someone on these sites. You make broad negative generalization about women. What have I said that's bashing women? If I was a woman receiving 5 billion messages a day, I would be holding out for a professional athletes or a male model as well. That's nothing negative, that's just common sense. If I was a woman in the city and there's 5,000 dudes hitting on me 2 minutes away, why would I settle for a guy living in the boring suburbs? Again common sense. Decent looking women have an awesome set up in the dating game. You can certainly get frustrated at the system but I would never be mad at the benefactors of it. It's like being mad at someone for being born into a billionaire family.
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I don't think I'm bad looking. Lots and lots of people in real life swear to me that I'm absolutely gorgeous but I don't believe it anymore. If I was as good looking as people claim, dating wouldn't be so utterly impossible. There are threads about nerdy guys who are extremely shy dating so that's really a damning sign to me (I'm not nerdy at all) At this point I just say I'm an average guy who takes care of himself. And I live 45 minutes from Chicago Hey OP ...I saw your pic before the link got deleted. You're very handsome. I'm from chi town and lived downtown for many years. I met a lot of people and no OLD when I lived there ..80s/90s ...here is where I met people that I dated long term. Triathlon club/masters swim group ...a guy my mom worked with / coach of our company soft ball team / a guy I worked with / a guy on vacation / a neighbor. In your age demographic I suggest other avenues over OLD ... Keep your profile up and if you get some dates great ...but I think your focus should be interest groups ...and your friend's moms or your mom
losangelena Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I don't want to offend you but your attitude sucks a little. You came on here with a question and were not open at all you only wanted to put down online dating. Every subject I brought up you found a way of criticizing in a negative way. You make broad negative generalization about women. Maybe you should check that. Gaeta, he does this with every profile he makes. Just quit while you're ahead. It's Friday night, surely something more fun is going on. 1
BLND Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Just from what you've written so far, there's something off putting about you. No offense though, that's the "vibe" I got from reading your first post. And it was just confirmed with your answers afterwards. I think women might sense that, like I just did and therefore do not want nothing to do with you. 1
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Hey OP ...I saw your pic before the link got deleted. You're very handsome. I'm from chi town and lived downtown for many years. I met a lot of people and no OLD when I lived there ..80s/90s ...here is where I met people that I dated long term. Triathlon club/masters swim group ...a guy my mom worked with / coach of our company soft ball team / a guy I worked with / a guy on vacation / a neighbor. In your age demographic I suggest other avenues over OLD ... Keep your profile up and if you get some dates great ...but I think your focus should be interest groups ...and your friend's moms or your mom Other avenues have yielded zero success. I don't meet women through a natural means and the ones I meet want nothing to do with me. I have to cold approach at the gym/bar/club/store or do online dating. It's like choosing between getting stabbed to death or shot in the head
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Gaeta, he does this with every profile he makes. Just quit while you're ahead. It's Friday night, surely something more fun is going on. Aaarrgg!! he kind of felt familiar too. Thanks !
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 That sure seems like a myth to me. I grew up with 2 pretty sisters and both of them literally had to lock themselves in their house to avoid a horde of male attention. Some of the guys were douchebags of course but many were nice good looking guys. They had their first boyfriends 6 years before I had my first kiss. Maybe I'm wrong though Uh so if your sisters had boyfriends ...some guys are getting girlfriends. You do sound a little bitter ...it's not good mojo to have negative attitude when dating Gaeta is a really nice person and your being rough when she's trying to help you
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Just from what you've written so far, there's something off putting about you. No offense though, that's the "vibe" I got from reading your first post. And it was just confirmed with your answers afterwards. I think women might sense that, like I just did and therefore do not want nothing to do with you. What's off putting me about has been my severe negativity. Part of it is this is just me ranting. I don't act anything like this in real life. I'm very friendly, fun and easy going in real life. If I acted like this in real life, I wouldn't want anything to do with myself.
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Gaeta is a really nice person and your being rough when she's trying to help you Gaeta is a wonderful person and I'm very very happy for her positive feedback. But I prefer the truth, no matter how harsh and nasty, over a more optimistic yet not entirely realistic perspective
StBreton Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Gaeta, he does this with every profile he makes. Just quit while you're ahead. It's Friday night, surely something more fun is going on. I'm sitting in my car a mile down the street from a Halloween party my kids are attending ...middle of no where so no shopping ... Forums are my best outlet right now ... Unless I ck out my dating profile ... Hmmm
Guyouthere Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I'm sitting in my car a mile down the street from a Halloween party my kids are attending ...middle of no where so no shopping ... Forums are my best outlet right now ... Unless I ck out my dating profile ... Hmmm Be careful, Freddy Kruger is on the loose. You should also be aware that Sasquatch is out there as well. Please leave milk and cookies (Oreos work best)
La Trese Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Go test it for yourself. Six years ago you were only 20. At 26 you might find people with more substance. It's still full of game players though but at least you know about it. I agree with this. I have friends who online dated in college and the dating pool was god awful. When they graduated it actually started working for them in terms of finding more people who were actually serious.
Guyouthere Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Aaarrgg!! he kind of felt familiar too. Thanks ! Aaarrg? You should take something for the gas. Eiher that, or give up pizza. It's the extra cheese that does it
La Trese Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Hey OP ...I saw your pic before the link got deleted. You're very handsome. I'm from chi town and lived downtown for many years. I met a lot of people and no OLD when I lived there ..80s/90s ...here is where I met people that I dated long term. Triathlon club/masters swim group ...a guy my mom worked with / coach of our company soft ball team / a guy I worked with / a guy on vacation / a neighbor. In your age demographic I suggest other avenues over OLD ... Keep your profile up and if you get some dates great ...but I think your focus should be interest groups ...and your friend's moms or your mom To add on to this OP just because you are handsome and pretty does not mean you will get dates. My best friend is in dental school, loyal, sweet, a good person, drop dead gorgeous, and has never had a boyfriend or has had someone meaningful chase after her and has not had success at online dating. She asks me why, and I tell her its because 1)you half ass putting yourself out there. Just creating a profile and talking to people isn't enough, you gotta be willing to wade through the bs and message hundreds of people before you find a few that you can date no matter how you look like and 2) don't have this checklist. For example she only wanted a guy who was in grad school, but most guys are not college grads let alone grad school grads and that has nothing to do with drive and success. Looking for someone with drive is important if you are driven but being picky about how they are driven has nothing to do with your connection. The problem with the checklist when it comes to online dating is its too easy online to write people off who you wouldn't even write off in real life if you gave them a chance. 1
Inaa Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I'm 25, well educated and good looking, but i don't have time to go out and meet new people. i tried online dating twice but the guys i met online were just looking for hook up and didn't contact me again when they realized that i wasn't looking for the same. But you seem perfect to me and I'd love to go out on a date with you, there's just a little problem, I live in Europe :D
joseb Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Aaarrgg!! he kind of felt familiar too. Thanks ! Yeah the constant mentions of how successful he is is a bit of a give-away.
losangelena Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Yeah the constant mentions of how successful he is is a bit of a give-away. He's 26, has 2 sisters, he tends to exaggerate numbers and His Thread Titles are Capitalized. Dead giveaways, all. Also, he never actually listens to anyone's advice. Oh, and it's the same guy in all his photos. I don't understand OP, why not just keep the same user name so that we can build some rapport with you? Actually, even as I wrote that, I realize you don't want that, probably. You want to get new (same) feedback every time you bring up the same old issue. 1
NVO Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 What the hell did I just read. This place keeps amazing me haha.
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