TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 (edited) I messages about 60 women and got 1 reply that quickly went nowhere. Should I try it again? I am - 26 years old - college educated and extremely successful - normal height and fairly fit - no kids I'm looking for a girl that is as similar as possible. Should I even try? I want somebody decent looking because I don't think I'm horrible looking myself Edited October 24, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
KatZee Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 It's only degraded in the last 6 years buddy. Don't do it. Not worth it. 1
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Go test it for yourself. Six years ago you were only 20. At 26 you might find people with more substance. It's still full of game players though but at least you know about it.
Single2007 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 (edited) I messages about 60 women and got 1 reply that quickly went nowhere. Should I try it again? I am - 26 years old - college educated and extremely successful - normal height and fairly fit - no kids I'm looking for a girl that is as similar as possible. Should I even try? I want somebody decent looking because I don't think I'm horrible looking myself The lines on my left cheek are just a reflection of light No. Turn it off, walk away and never look back. You're young. Just try to get out there. Now I am older so I'm sure it is tougher on people around 40 but the scene is absolutely messed up. Edited October 24, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 It's only degraded in the last 6 years buddy. Don't do it. Not worth it. You think it could be any worse than my last experience?
losangelena Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 OP (hi, again), I don't know why you keep saying you're bad-looking, because you're really quite handsome. May I ask what part of the country you live in?
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 No. Turn it off, walk away and never look back. You're young. Just try to get out there. Now I am older so I'm sure it is tougher on people around 40 but the scene is absolutely messed up. I don't meet women in my day to day life unless I cold approach
KatZee Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 You think it could be any worse than my last experience? You don't even want to know what it's like. It's a literal sh.!t show. Don't waste your time. If it was bad then, trust me, it's hell on earth now.
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 You think it could be any worse than my last experience? Go make your own opinion of it. Listen, I have been doing it for 3 years and it's not working BUT my daughter's best friend who's your age found her husband on it. They're now married and had their second child this year. It works for some and not for others. 1
Single2007 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I don't meet women in my day to day life unless I cold approach So cold approach. I'm telling you my man, the risk / reward factors are much better that way.
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 OP (hi, again), I don't know why you keep saying you're bad-looking, because you're really quite handsome. May I ask what part of the country you live in? I don't think I'm bad looking. Lots and lots of people in real life swear to me that I'm absolutely gorgeous but I don't believe it anymore. If I was as good looking as people claim, dating wouldn't be so utterly impossible. There are threads about nerdy guys who are extremely shy dating so that's really a damning sign to me (I'm not nerdy at all) At this point I just say I'm an average guy who takes care of himself. And I live 45 minutes from Chicago 1
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 So cold approach. I'm telling you my man, the risk / reward factors are much better that way. Cold approaching is incredibly hard, maybe harder than online dating.
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I don't think I'm bad looking. Lots and lots of people in real life swear to me that I'm absolutely gorgeous but I don't believe it anymore. If I was as good looking as people claim, dating wouldn't be so utterly impossible. There are threads about nerdy guys who are extremely shy dating so that's really a damning sign to me (I'm not nerdy at all) At this point I just say I'm an average guy who takes care of himself. And I live 45 minutes from Chicago I second Losangelena, you're very good looking, above average.
Single2007 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I don't think I'm bad looking. Lots and lots of people in real life swear to me that I'm absolutely gorgeous but I don't believe it anymore. If I was as good looking as people claim, dating wouldn't be so utterly impossible. There are threads about nerdy guys who are extremely shy dating so that's really a damning sign to me (I'm not nerdy at all) At this point I just say I'm an average guy who takes care of himself. And I live 45 minutes from Chicago I'm as shy as they get and at 25 I bumped into someone in college who ended up being married to me for over 10 years and is my best friend even after the divorce. That didn't happen online. I decided after so many failures through online that sure, it might work for some but those percentages are not in your favor, especially as the guy. And you seem like a nice guy from the way you are talking. Why put yourself through it?
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 I second Losangelena, you're very good looking, above average. Thank you very much, I really appreciate it If you want me to be honest, I don't believe comments like yours anymore. After I read threads about guys having a dating life who are shy/nerdy/live at home with their parents/extremely broke and dead end jobs. I'm top 1% successful nationally at the age of 26, already have my own house, very stylish, etc... with all that and supposedly being very good looking, the fact that I encounter zero natural dating opportunities makes it very hard for me to believe it.
Single2007 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Cold approaching is incredibly hard, maybe harder than online dating. But online dating leaves you guessing about all of the wrong things. Does she look like that in real life? Is that long profile really her?
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 I decided after so many failures through online that sure, it might work for some but those percentages are not in your favor, especially as the guy. And you seem like a nice guy from the way you are talking. Why put yourself through it? Because real life dating is just as difficult and frustrating, maybe worse
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 But online dating leaves you guessing about all of the wrong things. Does she look like that in real life? Is that long profile really her? Well it goes both ways I look much much better in real life than pics for example. That picture makes me look chubby, I'm pretty buff in real life
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Thank you very much, I really appreciate it If you want me to be honest, I don't believe comments like yours anymore. After I read threads about guys having a dating life who are shy/nerdy/live at home with their parents/extremely broke and dead end jobs. I'm top 1% successful nationally at the age of 26, already have my own house, very stylish, etc... with all that and supposedly being very good looking, the fact that I encounter zero natural dating opportunities makes it very hard for me to believe it. I totally get you. I am a pretty lady, I have a nice career, I am stable, I'm a owner, I'm positive, outgoing.............and very single. The only thing I know is if you don't put yourself out there to meet someone nothing is gonna come to you. Online is a good way of putting yourself out there considering 75% of singles have a profile. 1
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 I totally get you. I am a pretty lady, I have a nice career, I am stable, I'm a owner, I'm positive, outgoing.............and very single. The only thing I know is if you don't put yourself out there to meet someone nothing is gonna come to you. Online is a good way of putting yourself out there considering 75% of singles have a profile. What's wrong with the 500,000,000 guys messaging you every day?
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 What's wrong with the 500,000,000 guys messaging you every day? I get tons of messages from *douchebags * married men * men 20 years younger * men looking for sex * men looking for a 3rd party When I am done filtering all of those messages I may have 1 maybe 2 if I am lucky good message I can reply 2
losangelena Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 What's wrong with the 500,000,000 guys messaging you every day? HAHAHA!!! As if online dating actually worked that way for most women. Let me set this record straight: First off, most women DO NOT get messaged that often (I know you're exaggerating) and second of all, if she is, 90% are unwanted and/or sexually forward. As you have experienced yourself, it's not always a walk in the park for attractive people to get dates. It is no different for women. High numbers have nothing to do with QUALITY. 3
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 I get tons of messages from *douchebags * married men * men 20 years younger * men looking for sex * men looking for a 3rd party When I am done filtering all of those messages I may have 1 maybe 2 if I am lucky good message I can reply I sent out specific, tailored and respectful messages - making sure i had excellent grammar and syntax - when I tried years back and could not get a single interested reply. I'm 100% single and 100% looking for a relationship. I don't message women who are not my age. What category did they put me in you think? I always figured women online want impossibly good looking men - they're getting a trillion messages a day so they're looking for Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum.
Author TheCosmicGate Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 As you have experienced yourself, it's not always a walk in the park for attractive people to get dates. It is no different for women. High numbers have nothing to do with QUALITY. That sure seems like a myth to me. I grew up with 2 pretty sisters and both of them literally had to lock themselves in their house to avoid a horde of male attention. Some of the guys were douchebags of course but many were nice good looking guys. They had their first boyfriends 6 years before I had my first kiss. Maybe I'm wrong though
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I sent out specific, tailored and respectful messages - making sure i had excellent grammar and syntax - when I tried years back and could not get a single interested reply. I'm 100% single and 100% looking for a relationship. I don't message women who are not my age. What category did they put me in you think? I always figured women online want impossibly good looking men - they're getting a trillion messages a day so they're looking for Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum. First: You are not 20 years old anymore so you get your sexy self on there and give it a try. You have nothing to lose. If you want a woman with substance then look from 26 to 30 yo women. You can't compare your experience when you were 20 with today. It's a bit ridiculous. No we do not want impossible good looking men. We want a connection and that will happen with a man we find attractive. What I find attractive is not the same as what the next woman finds attractive. 1
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