lukekarts Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 So I met a couple of ladies lately via a reasonably well-know social group local to me (on Meetup.com) and although the group is not specifically there for dating I'd like to ask them out for a drink (separately of course :-p) I messed up with both - because the nature of these groups there's a lot of new people so I missed the opportunity to ask for either's phone number after meeting them, and we haven't crossed paths since. I have become Facebook friends with one (through a mutual but distant friend) so that avenue is open for contact - but what do I even say? I feel like jumping right in there with 'hey would you like to go for a drink sometime' might come off as a little creepy, she did go travelling recently so I could strike up conversation based on that maybe? The latter may be easier, as we have exchanged some messages via the meetup app about things going on. Would 'we could pop for a drink after work one night if you fancy it?' Be clear enough? Sorry if this comes across as slightly awkward - I'm not an awkward person I just struggle in the days where online interaction seems to rule everything and where it seems to be impossible to get in touch with people without technology. Luke / age 31 (and not a technophobe either!).
Jejangles Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 I have had a couple of dates with guys I have met via meet up groups. I can't remember specifically what they said in their messages, but it was something like "hey, I had fun at the event the other night, would you like to grab a drink after work sometime next week?". One concern - are these two connected via the meetup group? Because one turn off for me would be if I was contacted by a guy and he also contacted someone else I knew. I don't care if people I'm dating are multi dating in the early days, but I don't like to hear about it... 1
Author lukekarts Posted October 23, 2015 Author Posted October 23, 2015 I have had a couple of dates with guys I have met via meet up groups. I can't remember specifically what they said in their messages, but it was something like "hey, I had fun at the event the other night, would you like to grab a drink after work sometime next week?". One concern - are these two connected via the meetup group? Because one turn off for me would be if I was contacted by a guy and he also contacted someone else I knew. I don't care if people I'm dating are multi dating in the early days, but I don't like to hear about it... Thanks, that sounds like a good way of phrasing it. Nope neither know each other so I should be ok on that front...
Jejangles Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Oh and I forgot to address your question about beginning with a softener... I think if you haven't seen the ladies in a while, it might be a good idea to start with some sort of opening before asking them out. But if you saw them recently, I would just ask them out... It's kind of a conversation follow-up.
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