Are there any guys that like clingy women?

October 23, 2015

I see it said often on here that being clingy is an absolute turn off for guys. I tend to disagree. I actually like women that are a little clingy. Of course, if taken to the extreme than it probably would be a turn off. As a guy who's always had trouble getting a girlfriend, I actually like the women I've dated that are a little more clingy vs the ones who were not as much. Maybe it's just me.

October 23, 2015

Usually a man that is generally more insecure and clingy himself would pair well with a more clingy woman. To each his own.

October 23, 2015

I see it said often on here that being clingy is an absolute turn off for guys. I tend to disagree. I actually like women that are a little clingy. Of course, if taken to the extreme than it probably would be a turn off. As a guy who's always had trouble getting a girlfriend, I actually like the women I've dated that are a little more clingy vs the ones who were not as much. Maybe it's just me.

Well, I guess there are varying degrees of clinginess and it's a matter of what works for you. However, I'd say that the ones you've dated who were clingy weren't at the "smothering" level. If a woman is really clingy and needy, even you would be put off by it. It becomes, as I said, smothering and annoying really. You've been lucky enough to find women who were simply just into you enough to want to be more "attached" but in a good way

It's about balance like everything else.

October 23, 2015

I enjoy the attention, but not excessive.

I still have a life and enjoy my activities, and want to keep it that way. Its also about continuing to do things you like on your own at times too, even if you are with someone.

For them to be on top of me all of the time is not appropriate and I detest it.

I still like my space.

October 23, 2015

@Guyyouthere - read your other post just now about your confidence. Congrats on getting that back. I'm still in depression mode - not because I miss my ex - far from it! Just kind of stuck at work and still trying to figure out what I need to keep myself happy

To the OP,

I think "clinginess" is a spectrum as one person kind of hinted. Just as people have different levels of what constitutes sex, sex appeal, etc each of us has a different level.

1. I think it's important that we recognize one person's clingy is another person's perfect level of communication.

2. It's overly critical that we are honest with ourselves about who we are and what we want. I've learned that I value and want someone who wants me, someone who is affectionate, someone who is outgoing without being a social butterfly, and someone who communicates. Literally, it's someone who talks to me. Who talks to me first before anyone else. Someone who kisses me good night and is home more than out. They can and should have their own hobbies & friends - I'm all about meeting new people & trying new things. But, they also can't just see me as a plug on their social calendar to fill holes or as proof that they're capable of a relationship. I want someone with a career but someone who doesn't travel more than a week a month or who isn't staying up till midnight every night to earn that next promotion.

3. It's important early on to gauge a person's level of communication, affection, intimacy, life style. A lot of long term frustration and break ups come from us ignoring our guts and early warning signs that in retrospect, hint at that incompatibility.

4. I agree there's definitely lines or boundaries - there's "smothering" there's the opposite end - which I'll call the daily "check-in" and somewhere in between is most people's sweet spot.

October 23, 2015

I see it said often on here that being clingy is an absolute turn off for guys. I tend to disagree. I actually like women that are a little clingy. Of course, if taken to the extreme than it probably would be a turn off. As a guy who's always had trouble getting a girlfriend, I actually like the women I've dated that are a little more clingy vs the ones who were not as much. Maybe it's just me.

Lets not deviate too much away from the original question.

Are there any guys that like clingy women?

As suggested in previous posts. It depends on the level of clingyness. On a scale to 1 to 10. I d hate to go over 5!

I do like it hen a woman wants to be with me but I find it really unattractive if she is constantly wanting validation from me I still like her. Its draining.

Anything over a 6 then thats too clingy for me.

October 23, 2015

I think it's a matter of how you define clingy and how much you want her to need/want/depend on you. IMO, when someone is drawn to clingy, needy ppl, they have a hero complex that's fed by those relationships. That said, there is a difference between a clingy, needy person and someone who enjoys your company and wants quality time and intimacy.

October 23, 2015

Actively interested is when a woman will initiate communication and plan dates from time to time. That's great. But when she's clingy and blows up your phone all day long with texting just to talk and check in, it's really annoying.

My GF does the majority of the initiating w/communication. But she does so because she knows I'll make plans w/her when she reaches out. Also, her calls and text usually have a point. Whether it's double checking/reconfirming plans, or bringing up an idea she has for a future date, etc.. Aside from the occasional girly "miss you" type text, there's very little pointless small talk which I love. We can have great phone calls in 5-10 minutes whereas some people want to talk for HOURS on the phone. LOL

October 24, 2015

I see it said often on here that being clingy is an absolute turn off for guys. I tend to disagree. I actually like women that are a little clingy. Of course, if taken to the extreme than it probably would be a turn off. As a guy who's always had trouble getting a girlfriend, I actually like the women I've dated that are a little more clingy vs the ones who were not as much. Maybe it's just me.

In my experience guys prefer girls who are a little clingy too. But not like bad clingy, like a little clingy where they want their lives a little intertwined. I'm not sure whats up with all the guys talked about on here who run at slightly clingy. Most of my terminally single friends are so independant and nonchalant it turns guys off who want that deeper connection. I guess maybe its either extreme that turns guys off? Not sure.

October 24, 2015

@Guyyouthere - read your other post just now about your confidence. Congrats on getting that back. I'm still in depression mode - not because I miss my ex - far from it! Just kind of stuck at work and still trying to figure out what I need to keep myself happy

To the OP,

I think "clinginess" is a spectrum as one person kind of hinted. Just as people have different levels of what constitutes sex, sex appeal, etc each of us has a different level.

1. I think it's important that we recognize one person's clingy is another person's perfect level of communication.

2. It's overly critical that we are honest with ourselves about who we are and what we want. I've learned that I value and want someone who wants me, someone who is affectionate, someone who is outgoing without being a social butterfly, and someone who communicates. Literally, it's someone who talks to me. Who talks to me first before anyone else. Someone who kisses me good night and is home more than out. They can and should have their own hobbies & friends - I'm all about meeting new people & trying new things. But, they also can't just see me as a plug on their social calendar to fill holes or as proof that they're capable of a relationship. I want someone with a career but someone who doesn't travel more than a week a month or who isn't staying up till midnight every night to earn that next promotion.

3. It's important early on to gauge a person's level of communication, affection, intimacy, life style. A lot of long term frustration and break ups come from us ignoring our guts and early warning signs that in retrospect, hint at that incompatibility.

4. I agree there's definitely lines or boundaries - there's "smothering" there's the opposite end - which I'll call the daily "check-in" and somewhere in between is most people's sweet spot.

Think of who you were before you went through what you did and feel now. Tat helped me a lot. You enjoyed things before her, that is still YOU.

I always had confidence, just that this last girl "tried" to widdle it down. I didn't see it at the time, but I do now. No doubt you can see things more clearly now as well once you got "out of it".

Go back to your hobbies, that helps.

I'm just going into the best part of my treasure hunting season here in Florida. It is exciting because the winter months produce the best finds (when the reefs get wiped clean of sand and the gold can even be found by eyesight).

If you don't have any passionate hobbies, you can find some for sure

October 24, 2015

When i was younger i was very into clingy women, still like it a bit, but it does sap ones energy, guys don't want to be sending text messages all day etc etc

October 24, 2015

No i don`t. My ex (Who brought me here)

Insecure to the point of total and utter insanity. Persecution complex. (You name it...)

Have been happy for almost 2 years with a wonderful girl who needs zero validation.

Marvelous!

October 24, 2015

I see it said often on here that being clingy is an absolute turn off for guys. I tend to disagree. I actually like women that are a little clingy. Of course, if taken to the extreme than it probably would be a turn off. As a guy who's always had trouble getting a girlfriend, I actually like the women I've dated that are a little more clingy vs the ones who were not as much. Maybe it's just me.

I agree op

October 24, 2015

In my experience guys prefer girls who are a little clingy too. But not like bad clingy, like a little clingy where they want their lives a little intertwined. I'm not sure whats up with all the guys talked about on here who run at slightly clingy. Most of my terminally single friends are so independant and nonchalant it turns guys off who want that deeper connection. I guess maybe its either extreme that turns guys off? Not sure.

To me that doesn't sound clingy, that sounds like normal relationship behavior and showing interest. Of course a guy will prefer that over indifference.

Clingy is blowing up your phone every 5 mins if you don't answer, requiring you spend every day together, not letting you have me-time.

I think the OP just wants to know his girl likes/loves him...that doesn't mean clingy.

October 24, 2015

The guys I've been with have never had a problem with it. And thank God for that.

October 24, 2015

I see it said often on here that being clingy is an absolute turn off for guys. I tend to disagree. I actually like women that are a little clingy. Of course, if taken to the extreme than it probably would be a turn off. As a guy who's always had trouble getting a girlfriend, I actually like the women I've dated that are a little more clingy vs the ones who were not as much. Maybe it's just me.

I like clingy women too. For example I'm really bad at texting, or socializing in general, and tend to fall off the face of the planet often. A clingy woman will keep texting me even if I'm sending short or no text messages to her.

I also get the impression from clingy women that she only has eyes for me which makes me feel like a man.

Edited October 24, 2015 by Stage5Clinger

October 24, 2015

I also get the impression from clingy women that she only has eyes for me which makes me feel like a man.

I was about to say that this is a reason why some guys dig 'clingy' women.

I think it's a matter of individual opinion to some extent. If you're not into someone, you will probably find normal signs of affection to be clingy. In general it's more the attitude than the action though. I have never inundated a man with texts or acted stalkerish but when I was younger, I just had a more 'clingy' attitude in the fact that I would worry myself sick worrying what the guy thought of me, needing him as a crux for my self-esteem and just sucking up to him too much.

Now I'm pretty much the opposite of that. And hey that's not exactly helping me. Men probably think I'm stuck up because I don't seem like I'm trying to impress them. It's not an act either. I just try and be myself and hope it works out. But I feel like I'm a whole person and overall don't need the validation - although I have my ups and downs. But I need to start making more effort myself to get across that I do actually like the guy.

October 24, 2015

I see it said often on here that being clingy is an absolute turn off for guys. I tend to disagree. I actually like women that are a little clingy. Of course, if taken to the extreme than it probably would be a turn off. As a guy who's always had trouble getting a girlfriend, I actually like the women I've dated that are a little more clingy vs the ones who were not as much. Maybe it's just me.

in general (but not always) the clingy girls are more homely and the good looking ones are more independent

October 24, 2015

[/b]As suggested in previous posts. It depends on the level of clingyness. On a scale to 1 to 10. I d hate to go over 5

Totally agree, obviously it'll be different for different guys, you'll always get a few that like what others don't but I'd hedge a bet most are turned off by a number too high up that scale.

Personally I'm probably a little of an exception because I'd need that number to be really really low! Like a tiny step up from does she love him or tolerate him? That's a personal thing!

October 24, 2015

Do you think attraction plays a big part?

For instance, if a woman is acting clingy but she is extremely hot, the guy will like her in spite of being clingy. However the threshold for tolerance could be lower if she isn't as attractive to the guy?

I don't think men want clingy women. But we are in a modern age now where some men get lazy and like women to do all of the work (I say some). Then many men also feel they want more balance in the chase and some more give and take. Sometimes, especially when the woman is highly attractive, it can be a massive ego boost for the woman to be all over the guy.

October 24, 2015

Different levels of clinginess are appropriate for different stages of the relationship, and for different situations.

October 24, 2015

I believe men that like clingy women are men that need constant attention, they tend to be beta.

October 24, 2015

Clingy is a very subjective term. For some people it's clingy to want to communicate in some manner every day. For others they're happiest seeing their partner every day or want to move in within six months. It really is a meaningless term.

But I feel that guys who prefer 'clingy' women (I'm taking that to mean excessive... so, texts multiple times if you don't reply back within five minutes, complains if she can't see you for one night, expects to spend all of her free time with you, just a really unhealthy attachment level) are usually quite insecure. They are the ones who need constant validation, they want constant proof that the girl is still into them, they don't want to have to guess at any point or wonder whether she's lost interest. They tend to have such low self confidence they're not sure how to handle an independent partner and want to zoom straight into being together 24/7, or at least knowing that they could be with her if they wanted to.

October 24, 2015

Clingy is a very subjective term. For some people it's clingy to want to communicate in some manner every day. For others they're happiest seeing their partner every day or want to move in within six months. It really is a meaningless term.

But I feel that guys who prefer 'clingy' women (I'm taking that to mean excessive... so, texts multiple times if you don't reply back within five minutes, complains if she can't see you for one night, expects to spend all of her free time with you, just a really unhealthy attachment level) are usually quite insecure. They are the ones who need constant validation, they want constant proof that the girl is still into them, they don't want to have to guess at any point or wonder whether she's lost interest. They tend to have such low self confidence they're not sure how to handle an independent partner and want to zoom straight into being together 24/7, or at least knowing that they could be with her if they wanted to.

Its time to introduce another aspect to this idea of "clinginess"

There is a very fine line too with a relationship and a mans need to feel he is still "hers".

My last girl was very clingy, I attributed it to her situation in life (I won't repeat what I told about her already, it is here in the forum).

I did question her loyally to me, not so at first, but as I began to sense things.

It wasn't that I needed confirmation of her "wanting me". It was more of "I feel you aren't telling me all".

It was my way of "pulling teeth" at times.

She said it was "putting pressure on her".

Well, turns out that she had the other guy on the side around the same time I began to get those vibes.

Sometimes ya just get that feeling you can't put your finger on, and sometimes ya just react in a subconscious manner to get those answers out.

I experienced it twice in m life, with my ex wife and now this girl, and BOTH times I was completely correct.

So, plain English,,,, a guy can feel whether or not his lady is actually committed or not.

Edited October 24, 2015 by Guyouthere

October 24, 2015

I believe men that like clingy women are men that need constant attention, they tend to be beta.

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