sirbeardly85 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 My girlfriend of 7months, broke up with via text 7 days ago she says she really cares about me and she feels awful about this, said she wasn't happy though, felt the relationship was getting too serious and she isnt ready for that yet, I told her I didn't want to lose her, she said she needs time, I said ok. While we were together I lost my grandpa in July, had a rough time with that but didn't let it show. I lost my brother Oct. 5 buried him on the 9th and a week later is when she broke it off. I know shes been stressed with work and a few other things. She has depression and anxiety. I'm having a really rough time right now and I dont want to lose her. Immediately after she broke up with me I deleted her from facebook and the next day took down all our photos and un-tagged myself from everything. We haven't talked to each other since.
d0nnivain Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 You have had a lot of losses recently. Please accept my condolences. However, you can't keep her. For whatever reason, she wants out. Instead of expending energy chasing her, work on healing your wounds.
hopelessromantic24 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 My girlfriend of 7months, broke up with via text 7 days ago she says she really cares about me and she feels awful about this, said she wasn't happy though, felt the relationship was getting too serious and she isnt ready for that yet, I told her I didn't want to lose her, she said she needs time, I said ok. While we were together I lost my grandpa in July, had a rough time with that but didn't let it show. I lost my brother Oct. 5 buried him on the 9th and a week later is when she broke it off. I know shes been stressed with work and a few other things. She has depression and anxiety. I'm having a really rough time right now and I dont want to lose her. Immediately after she broke up with me I deleted her from facebook and the next day took down all our photos and un-tagged myself from everything. We haven't talked to each other since. I assure you man, don't chase, beg, or even contact her. She'll be wondering WTF and try to get in contact with you back. Do this from here on out.
Luke22 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 I'm impressed. Even with your losses, you did EXACTLY the right thing! You ARE a strong person. Keep NC. NC is for you to begin to heal. Reach out to friends and family, you need support with everything you are going through. It's going to be tough at first. Instead of contacting her, sign on and write here. She is not the "one" as evidenced by leaving you at this time in your life.
Author sirbeardly85 Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 Ok, so I broke NC today, I messaged her telling her I wanted to talk so she called me a few mins later, she said it isnt anything that I did or didn't do, but that shes having a hard time getting over an ex and her thoughts aren't where they should be. She said she needs time to get over it. Any advice?
Survivor12 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Let it go. You were together for 7 months, but despite the affection, fondness & good times I'm sure you shared, it wasn't enough for her to get over her ex. So ask yourself, what could you possibly say that would magically change the way she feels now? Sorry to be so blunt but it's what she tried to tell you & you're not hearing. I know it hurts, but once you've accepted that it's over, it will be easier to heal. Take care.
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