Bobbi7 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Like if they are in seeing a girl in the early stages of dating and wants her to know his best friends-his best friend has a say in the relationship right? Like whatever his best friends opinion is on the girl that's the deciding factor? The guy is introducing her to his best friend for a reason right?
PegNosePete Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 And if he didn't introduce you to his mates, you'd be on here asking why he doesn't want you to meet his mates. Damned if he does and damned if he doesn't...? Maybe he wants you to be a bigger part of his life. It's pretty difficult to have a girlfriend who has never met your mates. The mates would take the mick, saying the girlfriend is imaginary. The GF would say "why do you never introduce me to your mates". 2
losangelena Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 His friends have a say?? Ha, that's never how it's been in my world. I've had friends date people I couldn't stand. If I had a say they'd be far, far away, but if you like someone enough, you don't give a hoot what anyone says. I agree with Pete. Maybe they just want to start integrating you into their life? Why do you suspect otherwise? 1
GunslingerRoland Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Like if they are in seeing a girl in the early stages of dating and wants her to know his best friends-his best friend has a say in the relationship right? Like whatever his best friends opinion is on the girl that's the deciding factor? The guy is introducing her to his best friend for a reason right? 1) If it's more than just sex, then you are probably going to want to go out and do things with other people which includes friends. So year of course they need to meet. 2) I don't know if I'd go so far as to say, they give their best friends, power of veto over their lovers, but it's nice to get approval from those whose opinions you value. So, I think you're sort of on the right track, but overthinking it a bit.
d0nnivain Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Convenience. It's impossible to keep the friends & the SO apart forever. Once they meet, they can do things together & he doesn't have to chose. Women let their friends influence who they date. Men, not so much. Unless a buddy has a real visceral reaction to the new GF, most men don't discuss such things beyond a passing comment about the woman's appearance.
PaperCrane Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 If my very closest and best friends told me a girl was bad news after she met them, well, I'd definitely reevaluate the situation. I'd want to know why they felt that way and I'd see if what they said held water. These people have been in my life for over a decade so they know me pretty well. Same goes for if they tell me she's a catch for me, I hold that opinion in high regard.
central Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 More likely he's proud of you and wants you to be part of his world, which includes his friends. The friends aren't needed to approve the relationship - but sometimes they'll see a red flag he may have missed, which is about as far as their input goes - it's up to him to decide what to do about that, if anything. If he avoids having you meet his friends, then he may be ashamed of you or doesn't see you as more than temporary fun.
Guyouthere Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Like if they are in seeing a girl in the early stages of dating and wants her to know his best friends-his best friend has a say in the relationship right? Like whatever his best friends opinion is on the girl that's the deciding factor? The guy is introducing her to his best friend for a reason right? He is displaying his trophy. lol
MoreAmore Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 When my guy did, it was clearly because he was proud. It was touching. It helped win me over, too, as his friends said how much he'd talked about me and gave me the protective ribbing to treat him well. 1
SwordofFlame Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 As a guy, if I introduce you, it's because I want a serious relationship. Whether or not my friends like you won't really change my opinion much...unless they saw something that I completely missed. 2
Maggie4 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 If his best friend is a girl then she might have a strong opinion. But if the best friend is a guy, then usually it's all easy going.
PaperCrane Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 If his best friend is a girl then she might have a strong opinion. But if the best friend is a guy, then usually it's all easy going. Very true. That's why if my male friends have a strong reaction and tell me so, it usually means something. Female friends rarely 'approve' of girls I introduce them to though.
fitnessfan365 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Could be for any number of different reasons. But personally, I'd introduce a woman to my best friend if I'm serious about her. My best friend who's like a brother to me moved back east six years ago. We still talk all the time, but I only see him twice a year. Every time he comes out, I've always either been single or seeing a woman I wasn't serious about. But I'm introducing my GF to him next month which she knows is a big deal. 1
lukekarts Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 A couple of reasons really. Firstly, it means I am serious about our relationship. It's part of integrating a girl into your life. Secondly, I think a guy does it because he probably thinks his friends are a good reflection on him. I have a great group of friends, and I think it can help a girl get more comfortable if she sees you in a familiar setting with close friends who are all great people. On the flip side, if I knew my friends were abrasive personalities I'd shy away from that introduction for longer. 1
Miss Peach Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Very true. That's why if my male friends have a strong reaction and tell me so, it usually means something. Female friends rarely 'approve' of girls I introduce them to though. True. My long-term male friends have spotted red flags much quicker than I have.
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