seeingthisguy Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 I was dating this guy for 6 months. After 6 months, he told me he didn't fall in love with me, and the "spark didn't happen" for him. I was devastated, but played things cool and said we could go back to being friends. A month later, he had a girlfriend. NOW, girlfriend and all, he sends me a text saying he misses me, and he wants me back. Of course I miss him, but I'm still hurt over what happened. My head is saying "no go", but my heart misses everything about him. Thoughts?
TaraMaiden2 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 He HAS a GF? Go with 'the head'. End of. 3
Sunberry Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 He has a girlfriend now. The fact that he has a girlfriend and he's texting you that he misses you should be a BIG red flag to you of what type of person he is. I wouldn't date someone like that, but hey that's me... Go with your head. No go. 9
Gaeta Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Chances are he was seeing her before he broke up with you. Now he's with her and he's doing the same thing to her. Doesn't sound serious or boyfriend material. 5
Toodaloo Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Urgh - get rid of this guy already. My thoughts are that he is what the kool kats these days call a "playa"... Don't get involved because its actually way not cool. 2
kendahke Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 I was dating this guy for 6 months. After 6 months, he told me he didn't fall in love with me, and the "spark didn't happen" for him. I was devastated, but played things cool and said we could go back to being friends. A month later, he had a girlfriend. NOW, girlfriend and all, he sends me a text saying he misses me, and he wants me back. Of course I miss him, but I'm still hurt over what happened. My head is saying "no go", but my heart misses everything about him. Thoughts? Let your heart miss him til times get better. Use your head. It's telling you right. It took him a month to replace you after he demoted you. Think about that. 2
kendahke Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Just think--he was probably doing this behind your back to get with her... so now, that GIGS has worn off, he's trying to do with you what he did to you when he had you: going behind his girlfriend's back to engage another woman. Dude is messy, messy, messy. Nothing but drama will ensue. 1
Redhead14 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 I was dating this guy for 6 months. After 6 months, he told me he didn't fall in love with me, and the "spark didn't happen" for him. I was devastated, but played things cool and said we could go back to being friends. A month later, he had a girlfriend. NOW, girlfriend and all, he sends me a text saying he misses me, and he wants me back. Of course I miss him, but I'm still hurt over what happened. My head is saying "no go", but my heart misses everything about him. Thoughts? He's struggling with the break up, just like you. Now he's with someone new and jumped into that too quickly and is uncomfortable. He wants to go back to what was at least comfortable for him. He was at least used to you. Don't take him back. He's not over being with you and if you did take him back, he'll still be needing to get over the new girl regardless of how long he's been seeing her (it still takes a little time to move on). Anyway, he'll be dealing with a ton of confusion and uncertainty and so will you. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Complete douche canoe. He 'tried you out' for 6 months and then turned his attention to something shinier. Now he's test driving the girl he probably romanced behind your back while he was dating you and - surprise surprise - the grass ain't always greener on the other side. Too bad, so sad. For him. I wouldn't spit on him if he were fire on the sidewalk. 3
walkingonair Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 I was dating this guy for 6 months. After 6 months, he told me he didn't fall in love with me, and the "spark didn't happen" for him. I was devastated, but played things cool and said we could go back to being friends. A month later, he had a girlfriend. NOW, girlfriend and all, he sends me a text saying he misses me, and he wants me back. Of course I miss him, but I'm still hurt over what happened. My head is saying "no go", but my heart misses everything about him. Thoughts? Don't go back!!! The exact thing happened to me recently and he used the exact same words! He will dump you again in a few months! Don't go back!!!!
Author seeingthisguy Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Complete douche canoe. He 'tried you out' for 6 months and then turned his attention to something shinier. Now he's test driving the girl he probably romanced behind your back while he was dating you and - surprise surprise - the grass ain't always greener on the other side. Too bad, so sad. For him. I wouldn't spit on him if he were fire on the sidewalk. That last sentence made me laugh so damn hard!!!!
Amalyn Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Ugh. You deserve so much better than this guy. He's got a girlfriend but is texting you that he misses you. Think about this for a minute.... How would you feel if this guy was your boyfriend and he was texting another girl saying he missed her? Move on. 2
Author seeingthisguy Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Ugh. You deserve so much better than this guy. He's got a girlfriend but is texting you that he misses you. Think about this for a minute.... How would you feel if this guy was your boyfriend and he was texting another girl saying he missed her? Move on. I know I deserve better; but why do I still feel something for him then? I feel so sad that we're even in this place
Author seeingthisguy Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Urgh - get rid of this guy already. My thoughts are that he is what the kool kats these days call a "playa"... Don't get involved because its actually way not cool. I know. I can't seem to shake the "something is wrong with me" feeling
Amalyn Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I know. I can't seem to shake the "something is wrong with me" feeling Nothing is wrong with you. First you have to realize this and actually believe it. This guy is a total jerk. He's not being fair to you or his girlfriend. There's nothing I can say to help you move on from this guy. But the first thing you should do is no contact. Block his number if you have to. He's only going to continue to make you feel the way you do. Don't initiate contact and don't reply to his text messages. Trust me. After awhile you will feel so much better and so grateful for not contacting him.
Author seeingthisguy Posted October 24, 2015 Author Posted October 24, 2015 Nothing is wrong with you. First you have to realize this and actually believe it. This guy is a total jerk. He's not being fair to you or his girlfriend. There's nothing I can say to help you move on from this guy. But the first thing you should do is no contact. Block his number if you have to. He's only going to continue to make you feel the way you do. Don't initiate contact and don't reply to his text messages. Trust me. After awhile you will feel so much better and so grateful for not contacting him. I know you're right. God just seeing the gf post 100000 photos of them together on Facebook so soon makes me sick to my stomach. Like it looks like a year old relationship. Why can't I hate him?!
kendahke Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Why can't I hate him?! Hate isn't the emotion you want. Hate is angry love/obsession. Indifference is what you want. You want to not give a isht what he and she do. It takes time to get there--you have to go through the process to get there. What helps the most is to cut all exposure to him and her--which means stop creeping on facebook. Block them so anything they post will not appear on your wall. That is the first thing to do that will help pave the road towards indifference.
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