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Just out of curiousty, if a guy you met OLD makes sexual hints l, say saying something like "I hope you aren't as assertive outside the soccer field as you are on it" type thing does that turn you off. I dunno. I feel like a guy should get to know you before making all these sexual remarks, or am I just being a prude

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You are being a prude....the comment you mentioned could have been interpreted multiple ways.

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It might be a bit prudish, however, given the nature of online dating, and all the mindless randy creepy guys out there, i cannot blame a woman for being cautious!

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If that was a sexual comment, it was the worst one I've ever heard.

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Is that a sexual comment?

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Ummm - yes, you're a prude - no one else even thinks it's a sexual comment. I suppose the opposite could also be true, in that you see sexual innuendo in everything, but I suppose never acting in it does kind of send you back to prude zone.

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Disagree. That sounds like what he was getting at

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Disagree. That sounds like what he was getting at

 

I'm a woman, and I didn't think so. But I will admit it leaves itself open to that interpretation....

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This statement doesn't sound sexual at all to me.

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Ummm - yes, you're a prude - no one else even thinks it's a sexual comment. I suppose the opposite could also be true, in that you see sexual innuendo in everything, but I suppose never acting in it does kind of send you back to prude zone.

 

To be exact he asked to what my soccer game ans I said u might get scared I'm pretty aggressive and he said " I hope you are more the submissive type off the field"

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To be exact he asked to what my soccer game ans I said u might get scared I'm pretty aggressive and he said " I hope you are more the submissive type off the field"

 

To which you replied....? What?

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This statement doesn't sound sexual at all to me.

 

Gees sorry for my bad spelling. He asked to watch my sooner game and as a joke I said "you might get scared I am very aggresive" and he said "I hope you are more the submissive type off the field"

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To which you replied....? What?

 

I said why are you asking that I haven't even met you and he said "because I am a guy"

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No, he's an idiot.

Just because he's a 'guy' doesn't entitle him to be so forward.

Yeah. It's about the sex.

 

In your shoes, I'd drop him and move on.

 

(My response would have been "No, in fact, off the field I'm more so. Very assertive. I hope that scares you. It should.")

 

;)

 

:D

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No, he's an idiot.

Just because he's a 'guy' doesn't entitle him to be so forward.

Yeah. It's about the sex.

 

In your shoes, I'd drop him and move on.

 

(My response would have been "No, in fact, off the field I'm more so. Very assertive. I hope that scares you. It should.")

 

;)

 

:D

 

Defs not replying to his number anymore ?

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I wouldn't care if I was a prude or not, who gives a sh*t about what random men think about me? I never ask permission to behave and act any way I think it's in my OWN advantage. Women care too much about what men think about them and if they're being "nice" enough to them and all that jazz. Be nice when he proved he's worth being nice to.

 

When I was dating, ANY guy who was making ANY sexual innuendo before meeting, I would stop responding and moved to the next. Period. Wouldn't care less. I didn't do that from the beginning, but with experience I learned that those guys are not what I was looking for.

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I wouldn't care if I was a prude or not, who gives a sh*t about what random men think about me? I never ask permission to behave and act any way I think it's in my OWN advantage. Women care too much about what men think about them and if they're being "nice" enough to them and all that jazz. Be nice when he proved he's worth being nice to.

 

+1

 

x1,000,000

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Just out of curiousty, if a guy you met OLD makes sexual hints l, say saying something like "I hope you aren't as assertive outside the soccer field as you are on it" type thing does that turn you off. I dunno. I feel like a guy should get to know you before making all these sexual remarks, or am I just being a prude

 

That doesn't sound like a sexual remark?

 

And I guess it depends on how long you've been talking. If it's your first time talking to the person and they are already making sexual remarks you can probably guess they are only their for one thing.

 

But if you've talked a few times, and there is mutual interest there, isn't that just part of flirting. In fact if there isn't any of that, a lot of women will friend zone a guy, because they don't see the interest there.

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The bottom line is if YOU'RE not comfortable with it then move on. Like BluEyeL said, who cares what he or anyone thinks? All that matters is how you feel and how you'd like to be treated. Never compromise yourself for anyone.

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I would actually have liked that.

 

Its flirty, shows interest and is silly fun.

 

Personally I think you are being bit of a prude but that said when all is said and done you felt uncomfortable with it so its probably best you don't respond.

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I agree with Michelle. If you don't like it, you don't like it. Who cares if it's prudish?

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To be exact he asked to what my soccer game ans I said u might get scared I'm pretty aggressive and he said " I hope you are more the submissive type off the field"

 

that was a creepy comment on his part. I'd be put off by that too

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