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MsHopeful0208201689 Established Member

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Seems like it's so easier for people to seek out EA's, PA's, wander,etc. since the birth of social media/technology/internet..

 

Relationships/marriages seems to be more disposable or devalued.. Not saying there hasn't always been these issues but seems to be running rampant now.. What do you all think?

Popsicle Established Member

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Stay offline. Just form all your relationships offline, not online. You will see what you need to see then. That's what I do. I tend to think that the online arena is a breeding ground for cheaters because it facilitates privacy and anonymity moreso than doing it in the meat world. It's the best and most natural place to be if you're a cheater.

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ladydesigner Established Member

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I tend to think that the online arena is a breeding ground for cheaters because it facilitates privacy and anonymity moreso than doing it in the meat world. It's the best and most natural place to be if you're a cheater.

 

Oh absolutely! Cheaters eat the sh*t up. A real ego boost for them :lmao:

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Popsicle Established Member

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Oh absolutely! Cheaters eat the sh*t up. A real ego boost for them :lmao:

 

Yep.

 

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Raena Established Member

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I'd have to agree with you. People tend to say and do things on the internet that they wouldn't do or say face to face. It's the anonymity of it all. Here we are chatting on here and I don't know who you are, you don't know who I am but yet we are sharing ideas and thoughts. Heck, you could be my next door neighbor and I'd never know.

 

So it certainly does open the door for people who are lonely or unhappy to seek friendship elsewhere. It's so easy.

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Popsicle Established Member

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They get a little "extra" that they couldn't in real life.

fellini Established Member

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Social media and digital technologies have changed the access we have to people but also has opened up our entire lives to surveillance and lack of privacy.

 

So although you might think that social media makes it easier to cheat, it makes it much easier to get caught at it. The footprints got bigger and much much easier to follow.

Nikki Sahagin Established Member

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I block exes and crushes online because I used to stalk them and it devalues my relationship.

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I think its killing friendships in a way too.

 

These days when you hear one of your friends parents have died you send them a message over facebook.

 

Time was that you would go round to their house put the kettle on make them a cup of tea and hug them...

 

I prefer option 2...

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fitnessfan365 Established Member

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I think that texting and social media have definitely had a negative impact on dating. People are always over-analyzing response times, trying to interpret what certain texts mean, getting insecure over the length of texts w/how many words, freaking out over likes on certain pics, etc..

 

If people would just get back to the basics of short phone calls and planning dates everything would be a whole lot simpler IMO.

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autumnnight Established Member

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Social media is an inanimate tool. Inanimate "tools" do not "cause" affairs or anything else. Facebook, Twitter, email, blah blah....none of these things are inherently good or evil.

 

Blaming Facebook for affairs is like blaming beer for drunk driving.

 

It's a mentally lazy copout.

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thefooloftheyear Established Member

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It just exposes the human condition.....

 

TFY

preraph Established Member

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It is easier to cheat and flirt with cheating and then you get caught and end up divorced or breaking up. The latest stats say Facebook alone causes one-third of divorces. If you're not ready to be monogamous, don't get married or have kids! Nothing wrong with staying single and carefree, but don't do it at someone else's expense.

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Stay offline. Just form all your relationships offline, not online. You will see what you need to see then. That's what I do. I tend to think that the online arena is a breeding ground for cheaters because it facilitates privacy and anonymity moreso than doing it in the meat world. It's the best and most natural place to be if you're a cheater.

 

Doesnt matter if "I'm" offline...90% of the women I would interact with are online. And the problem is that many women nowadays are having their ego's inflated under mostly false pretenses. Almost any half decent looking woman or better can join a dating site, or social media, and be swarmed with guys proposition her, or complimenting her just because they want in her pants. In other words, a lot of women are thinking they are getting all that attention because guys think they are hot. Wrong. We all know most guys will spew compliments just to get what they want from a woman. So even if I'm not online, chances are the woman I'm trying to date is. And she's got either at least a few guys "following or "liking" her pics and posts, or has a hundred or more men on a dating site all vying for her attention.

 

The internet is the worst thing that has ever happened to dating in my opinion. Negatives far outweigh the positives.

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Social media is an inanimate tool. Inanimate "tools" do not "cause" affairs or anything else. Facebook, Twitter, email, blah blah....none of these things are inherently good or evil.

 

Blaming Facebook for affairs is like blaming beer for drunk driving.

 

It's a mentally lazy copout.

 

Agreed. People were cheating long before technology. I'm on Facebook almost every day, at least for a little bit (it gets boring sitting on the toilet). I've never once used it, or any other digital means, to cheat on anyone.

 

As a BH, I get the desire to want to find an external source that we can point to and say, "That's what made them cheat!" But it's intellectually dishonest. They cheated because they wanted to; their desire for another person was stronger than their love for us. It's a bitter pill to swallow, to be sure. But to deny that truth would do a disservice to ourselves, for the truth shall set you free, my friend.

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Doesnt matter if "I'm" offline...90% of the women I would interact with are online. And the problem is that many women nowadays are having their ego's inflated under mostly false pretenses. Almost any half decent looking woman or better can join a dating site, or social media, and be swarmed with guys proposition her, or complimenting her just because they want in her pants. In other words, a lot of women are thinking they are getting all that attention because guys think they are hot. Wrong. We all know most guys will spew compliments just to get what they want from a woman. So even if I'm not online, chances are the woman I'm trying to date is. And she's got either at least a few guys "following or "liking" her pics and posts, or has a hundred or more men on a dating site all vying for her attention.

 

The internet is the worst thing that has ever happened to dating in my opinion. Negatives far outweigh the positives.

 

If the negatives far outweigh the positives, then why are 90% of the women you interact with online? Why not try switching to interacting with women offline?

 

I've dabbled in OLD, but it's not my thing. I'd prefer to be single and meet someone in real life than go back to OLD.

 

So even if I'm not online, chances are the woman I'm trying to date is.

 

This is pure supposition.

 

And she's got either at least a few guys "following or "liking" her pics and posts, or has a hundred or more men on a dating site all vying for her attention.

 

Even more supposition.

 

If you believe that women's egos are being inflated from OLD, then don't participate in it anymore. You have a choice, Male. You can choose to not participate if you feel the odds are stacked against you.

 

I personally agree with you that OLD is rather pointless for men. I tried working hard at it once with absolutely no payoff. So I shrugged and quit. I made a choice to no longer play a game that was not in my favor, and it was a good decision.

 

or complimenting her just because they want in her pants.

 

This sentence irritated me. It's as if you've lumped all men on OLD into a negative subclass of men that you feel are beneath you. I didn't go into OLD just to try to hump random women; I did it to see if I was actually compatible with that person. And to be blunt, you have no idea if you're actually better than all the other men on OLD. You're just wanting to find an external source upon which you can place all the blame for your failures.

 

Look, I get it. Dating today sucks, especially as a 35 year old single father. But playing the victim card is not going to win you sympathy from anyone, especially women. And frankly, I don't want a woman to pity **** me. I want her to **** me because I turn her on. And there is nothing sexy about being a victim.

 

Try playing the game on your terms.

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If the negatives far outweigh the positives, then why are 90% of the women you interact with online? Why not try switching to interacting with women offline?

 

I've dabbled in OLD, but it's not my thing. I'd prefer to be single and meet someone in real life than go back to OLD.

 

 

 

This is pure supposition.

 

 

 

Even more supposition.

 

If you believe that women's egos are being inflated from OLD, then don't participate in it anymore. You have a choice, Male. You can choose to not participate if you feel the odds are stacked against you.

 

I personally agree with you that OLD is rather pointless for men. I tried working hard at it once with absolutely no payoff. So I shrugged and quit. I made a choice to no longer play a game that was not in my favor, and it was a good decision.

 

 

 

This sentence irritated me. It's as if you've lumped all men on OLD into a negative subclass of men that you feel are beneath you. I didn't go into OLD just to try to hump random women; I did it to see if I was actually compatible with that person. And to be blunt, you have no idea if you're actually better than all the other men on OLD. You're just wanting to find an external source upon which you can place all the blame for your failures.

 

Look, I get it. Dating today sucks, especially as a 35 year old single father. But playing the victim card is not going to win you sympathy from anyone, especially women. And frankly, I don't want a woman to pity **** me. I want her to **** me because I turn her on. And there is nothing sexy about being a victim.

 

Try playing the game on your terms.

 

 

Dont dabble in something and then try to give an educated, experienced opinion about it.

 

Not trying to play the victim. I'm simply stating FACTS from my experience.

 

-MAJORITY of men on dating sites are trash and only out for hookups and games. If you dont realize this then thats not my problem. Its blatantly obvious. MAJORITY = anything over 50% Ask any women that has used OLD. Its a guaranteed fact that theres well over 50% of them men on dating sites that are utilizing the site for other means, rather than actually looking for a proper date and relationship.

 

-OLD is fast becoming the most popular way that new people meet. If you do not use any social media, or dating sites, and you meet a woman the old fashion way, in person, chances are almost guaranteed that she has in the past or is currently engaging with men either on dating sites or other forms of social media. Another blatantly obvious fact. Especially if the women are under 40....the younger they are the more true these statements are.

 

OLD and online interaction unfortunately is not going away anytime soon, its not going to die down, and its not going to lose popularity. The only thing its going to do is grow, and grow as each year goes by.

 

If you meet a woman the old fashion way, in person, chances are almost guaranteed that she has in the past or is currently engaging with men either on dating sites or other forms of social media. Repeated 2X because its important.

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