Versacehottie Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Idk what age group of guys you are talking about but I would rather meet guys my age (30) in a bar than Online. At least there you can feel them out, watch their actions, see what their friends are like... Plus what are single guys supposed to do? Sit at home and hide behind a computer screen? I think that's the problem now a days. I don't think a guy is of low quality just because him and his buddies want to go and have a few drinks. My girlfriends and I do the same occasionally. There are lots of classier bars that attract a different type of crowd-those who don't mind paying a few more dollars to be in a nicer atmosphere. Or on Sundays at a Sports bar to watch games. I wouldn't necessarily think guys there were of low quality bc they want to watch some football with a few drinks. Also, I met a guy at a club. He was only there bc it was his brother's birthday but it wasn't his scene. In situations like that I think its ok. But I agree that if a guy can't wait to go out every Thursday, Friday and Saturday then he may have some growing up to do before he's ready to get serious. Thank you. Exactly. All different types of bars/lounges with all different kinds of people. Blanket judgements that close people off to a whole huge avenue of dating when the alternative is online is silly. 2
Guyouthere Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I'be told people that at my age, I should go to a bar and meet guys-possibly because there are more singles that hang out there. I don't see what the problem is-they look at me like I'm committing a crime! Geez, there's nothing wrong with the bar scene. Yeah, there are some shady guys there, but there are bad guys everywhere! And they have the nerve to suggest places where I can meet them, like the library, church. I'm like wth? There are as much predators at the library, OLD, church, so to say meeting men at the bars is a sin, yeah, I don't think so.. Your chances of meeting a partner at a bar who is an alcoholic also greatly increase. No, not everyone who goes to a bar is one. We meet good and bad all over. However, it is about spending your energy wisely. 1
thecrucible Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I enjoy going out with friends to bars and sometimes the odd nightclub. I drink nowhere near the amount I used as I can't handle the hangovers anymore. I have met a few boyfriends in bars before. They didn't work out for longer than year. One I met playing pool in the student union bar at university. Another I met through a friend. I have met and dated men I originally met on nights out through friends of friends or on band nights. Pretty much all of them weren't serious prospects. I live back in my small home town now and pubs and bars are the main way to meet men my age. I've also been put off the bar scene for other reasons. I've lost count of the times I've been randomly casually assaulted. I won't exaggerate but there's been occasions where men I don't know have put their hand down my pants while I've been queuing at a bar or tried to force me into something (like the guy who followed me to the toilets and tried to get me to kiss him by pinning me against a wall). I have also done crazy things whilst drinking which I'd rather not mention. I made a decision a couple of years ago to cut my drinking due to the bad situations I had got into. I'm much more content staying at my friend's place having hot chocolate and watching old episodes of 'Desperate Housewives' than going into bars now. So yeah I just find this bar stuff rather traumatic to think about...They represent a part of my life I want to move on from. I'm not criticising the venue. It just hasn't worked out for me. I do know of people who met their future husband or wife in a bar.
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