Winterina Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 (edited) ...waitress comes over tells them to sit by the table for four. Two of the seats were set up with plates. A woman takes one of those seats. The seat right across her was the other seat set up with plate, napkin, etc. A man, however, sits diagonally from the woman, on the other side of the table. Starts looking at the menu... His behaviour is... Normal? Shows lack of manners? Have you ever seen a scene where a guy sits diagonally of a woman he is with? What would that show you? Edited October 22, 2015 by Winterina
d0nnivain Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 I'm not sure what you mean for diagonal but I'm going to assume it's closer to the woman than the seat across the 4 top from her. If that's true, that the seat he took was closer, I would assume he wanted to be closer.
Maggie4 Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 By diagonally, you mean next to? I see no problem with that. I'd even sit on the same side of a booth. To be closer, so nobody has to shout across the table.
Author Winterina Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 I'm not sure what you mean for diagonal but I'm going to assume it's closer to the woman than the seat across the 4 top from her. If that's true, that the seat he took was closer, I would assume he wanted to be closer. Oh no... I did not explain it properly. He sat on the furthest seat available from her. So not next to her. Not right on the opposite side of her. On the third free seat. Here is the awesome chart of it. Woman ----------Empty Seat Empty Seat ------------Man
ASG Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 I think by diagonal the OP means that instead of sitting opposite or beside the women, the man sat in the furthest seat. I would find that really weird. Are they expecting other people? Or is it just a "date" between the two (whether as friends or a romantic date)? If it is, I'd certainly enquire as to why the other person felt the need to sit as far away as possible and would not be particularly amused.
Author Winterina Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 The furthest seat is opposite, no? He he... my English suxxx. See the chart above. It will explain.
d0nnivain Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 Ok, I'm still not sure of the positions but the farthest seat away is not a good sign on a date.
ASG Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 The furthest seat is opposite, no? No... the furthest seat is diagonal.
Author Winterina Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 I think by diagonal the OP means that instead of sitting opposite or beside the women, the man sat in the furthest seat. I would find that really weird. Are they expecting other people? Or is it just a "date" between the two (whether as friends or a romantic date)? If it is, I'd certainly enquire as to why the other person felt the need to sit as far away as possible and would not be particularly amused. Not expecting anyone else. They are together, not friends.
introverted1 Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 When did "diagonal" become difficult? Anyway, I interpret this to mean that the man sat on the other side of the table, but in the seat facing the empty seat next to the woman, rather than the one directly across from her or next to her. And it seems a little odd. Either he has a fetish about where he sits or he is letting her know he wants to distance himself from her. 2
Maggie4 Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 Oh I get it! It's a table with two chairs on two sides of the table. And no chairs on the other two sides, like in a casual diner. I was thinking one chair on each side of a square, in which case, opposite is furthest. Probably the chair opposite the woman was dirty.
losangelena Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Was this a first date? Did he move the plate to where he was sitting? I get the seating arrangement—this is not a square table, it's a rectangle. He sat in the opposite corner from you. If you're in the SW corner, he took the NE corner. I would be curious to know how he conducted himself on said date. Where he sat doesn't necessarily say anything in and of itself. Could you provide us with some more details about the evening as a whole, and also some context for your relationship? 1
kismetkismet Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 that is very strange haha. I don't know how i would interpret that. I would think it was strange even if it was a 'just friends' thing. like why would you sit all off kilter? Not enough to go on here though to pass any judgements except that that is an odd thing to do
Author Winterina Posted October 23, 2015 Author Posted October 23, 2015 Oh I get it! It's a table with two chairs on two sides of the table. And no chairs on the other two sides, like in a casual diner. I was thinking one chair on each side of a square, in which case, opposite is furthest. Probably the chair opposite the woman was dirty. All chairs were clean.
Author Winterina Posted October 23, 2015 Author Posted October 23, 2015 If there was a reason he sat on the diagonal side, would it be normal for him to apologize and communicate his reason or is the norm that he should be asked about it?
katiegrl Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 If there was a reason he sat on the diagonal side, would it be normal for him to apologize and communicate his reason or is the norm that he should be asked about it? If it were me, I would have just said "Why you sitting way over there"? With a smile and a chuckle... "Come sit next to me or here" (directly across from you). I presume you are in a RL with this man?
losangelena Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 If it were me, I would have just said "Why you sitting way over there"? With a smile and a chuckle... "Come sit next to me or here" (directly across from you). I presume you are in a RL with this man? Yes, more info plz! Also, I did that once with my ex on an early date. We were sat at a really large booth and at first he sat across from me, but I said, "oh, you're so far away ..." and maybe fluttered my eyelashes a bit. Without another word, he got up and sat next to me. He knew what I meant!
Author Winterina Posted October 23, 2015 Author Posted October 23, 2015 If it were me, I would have just said "Why you sitting way over there"? With a smile and a chuckle... "Come sit next to me or here" (directly across from you). I presume you are in a RL with this man? That would be the reaction if things were great and if this was out of the character.
losangelena Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 OK, well it doesn't sound great. If would be helpful to have a few more details, otherwise it's hard to get a real good read on it.
Author Winterina Posted October 23, 2015 Author Posted October 23, 2015 OK, well it doesn't sound great. If would be helpful to have a few more details, otherwise it's hard to get a real good read on it. Thanks to all who answered. I did not mean to get deep in the issue but just to see if I was the only one who found that odd
Ami1uwant Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 I did this with my gf at the time. I didn't like being right up against wall being right handed or it was too tight of space with so done sitting at the table behind him. Why is this so hard.......
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