should i dump him?

[starzstorm]

ok weve been dating for 2 months. I went out of town to ny for a wedding and his ex had a fight with her current boyfriend and came over to my boyfriends apartment and slept in bed with him. he assures me that they are best friends and nothing happened but it just seems fishy to me. when I came back from ny he begged and pleaded for me to stay with him and I did. I also found out from another source that one of the times when his ex and her current boyfriend split up my boyfriend paid her for sex. also: a few weeks later I got into an argument with my boyfriend. he naturally has a foul mouth and curses a lot but this was the first time he cursed at me. what happened was I didn't want to sleep over his house (he lives with his mom bc we are college students) and he assured me she wouldn't care. I wanted to make a good impression on her at first so I said no but he kept telling me that I was being annoying so eventually I gave in. the next morning I was like does your mom know I am here? and he was like no and he kept egging me on to go downstairs with him, after much hesitation I was like ok, we went into the kitchen and sure enough she was in there cooking breakfast and his brother was sitting at the table. she immediately starts yelling at me im a Christian and I don't want sex going on in my house and he hurt my feelings when he responded for all I care we could have sex in my car or on the couch when youre not here! after much yelling and screaming and me standing there not saying a word I walked out. on the way home in the car I told him that I wanted to breakup and that I was embarrassed and hurt and I was crying. he started in with don't break up with me crap. then a day later I came over and I confronted him about the day before when he protested against me going home before his mom got off of work, he started cursing me out and saying things like youre such a ****ing bitch, youre so ****ing stupid, youre just like your mother! and then I brought up the fact that I now regretted staying with him after that ordeal with his ex and he continued yelling and screaming and cursing at me. eventually he took me home and started begging and pleading me not to break up with him. I said ill think about it and later that day he called me and texted me like 100x not kidding. he also said that when he curses that's just how he talks because hes a metal head or whatever. I just don't know what to do at this point, he doesn't see this as abuse and everytime I try to leave he begs and pleads. I am also not sure if he cheated on me, he did get very defensive when I brought up that stuff about his ex.

[WhatYouWantToHear]

So is cheating the only grounds for breaking up with someone in your book?

[kismetkismet]

YES you should break up with him.... that is manipulative and verbally abusive for one thing... Him pressuring you to do something that you don't feel comfortable doing, lying to you saying that his mother would be ok with it which was clearly a lie.. he put you in an uncomfortable position intentionally and against your wishes!

 

Plus, his ex sleeping in his bed is 100% unacceptable. there is absolutely no reason for that to happen ever. no matter how close they are as friends.. the fact that he paid her for sex at any time is also a very strange red flag.

 

walk away. for sure.

[joseb]

" I also found out from another source that one of the times when his ex and her current boyfriend split up my boyfriend paid her for sex"

 

I find this Extremely hard to believe.

[xcupid]

Dump him. And don't look back.

[kendahke]

I'd be interested in what it would take for you to actually break up with him. Seems to me what you described above is more than enough reason to dump him.

 

Let him whine--put your phone on block so you don't receive the calls and texts. Dump him and keep going.

[Redhead14]

ok weve been dating for 2 months. I went out of town to ny for a wedding and his ex had a fight with her current boyfriend and came over to my boyfriends apartment and slept in bed with him. he assures me that they are best friends and nothing happened but it just seems fishy to me. when I came back from ny he begged and pleaded for me to stay with him and I did. I also found out from another source that one of the times when his ex and her current boyfriend split up my boyfriend paid her for sex. also: a few weeks later I got into an argument with my boyfriend. he naturally has a foul mouth and curses a lot but this was the first time he cursed at me. what happened was I didn't want to sleep over his house (he lives with his mom bc we are college students) and he assured me she wouldn't care. I wanted to make a good impression on her at first so I said no but he kept telling me that I was being annoying so eventually I gave in. the next morning I was like does your mom know I am here? and he was like no and he kept egging me on to go downstairs with him, after much hesitation I was like ok, we went into the kitchen and sure enough she was in there cooking breakfast and his brother was sitting at the table. she immediately starts yelling at me im a Christian and I don't want sex going on in my house and he hurt my feelings when he responded for all I care we could have sex in my car or on the couch when youre not here! after much yelling and screaming and me standing there not saying a word I walked out. on the way home in the car I told him that I wanted to breakup and that I was embarrassed and hurt and I was crying. he started in with don't break up with me crap. then a day later I came over and I confronted him about the day before when he protested against me going home before his mom got off of work, he started cursing me out and saying things like youre such a ****ing bitch, youre so ****ing stupid, youre just like your mother! and then I brought up the fact that I now regretted staying with him after that ordeal with his ex and he continued yelling and screaming and cursing at me. eventually he took me home and started begging and pleading me not to break up with him. I said ill think about it and later that day he called me and texted me like 100x not kidding. he also said that when he curses that's just how he talks because hes a metal head or whatever. I just don't know what to do at this point, he doesn't see this as abuse and everytime I try to leave he begs and pleads. I am also not sure if he cheated on me, he did get very defensive when I brought up that stuff about his ex.

 

Too much drama . . . and yelling for 2 months. Too much of both for any period of time. Dump him.

[Versacehottie]

yes yes yes dump him

[walkingonair]

ok weve been dating for 2 months. I went out of town to ny for a wedding and his ex had a fight with her current boyfriend and came over to my boyfriends apartment and slept in bed with him. he assures me that they are best friends and nothing happened but it just seems fishy to me. when I came back from ny he begged and pleaded for me to stay with him and I did. I also found out from another source that one of the times when his ex and her current boyfriend split up my boyfriend paid her for sex. also: a few weeks later I got into an argument with my boyfriend. he naturally has a foul mouth and curses a lot but this was the first time he cursed at me. what happened was I didn't want to sleep over his house (he lives with his mom bc we are college students) and he assured me she wouldn't care. I wanted to make a good impression on her at first so I said no but he kept telling me that I was being annoying so eventually I gave in. the next morning I was like does your mom know I am here? and he was like no and he kept egging me on to go downstairs with him, after much hesitation I was like ok, we went into the kitchen and sure enough she was in there cooking breakfast and his brother was sitting at the table. she immediately starts yelling at me im a Christian and I don't want sex going on in my house and he hurt my feelings when he responded for all I care we could have sex in my car or on the couch when youre not here! after much yelling and screaming and me standing there not saying a word I walked out. on the way home in the car I told him that I wanted to breakup and that I was embarrassed and hurt and I was crying. he started in with don't break up with me crap. then a day later I came over and I confronted him about the day before when he protested against me going home before his mom got off of work, he started cursing me out and saying things like youre such a ****ing bitch, youre so ****ing stupid, youre just like your mother! and then I brought up the fact that I now regretted staying with him after that ordeal with his ex and he continued yelling and screaming and cursing at me. eventually he took me home and started begging and pleading me not to break up with him. I said ill think about it and later that day he called me and texted me like 100x not kidding. he also said that when he curses that's just how he talks because hes a metal head or whatever. I just don't know what to do at this point, he doesn't see this as abuse and everytime I try to leave he begs and pleads. I am also not sure if he cheated on me, he did get very defensive when I brought up that stuff about his ex.

 

Start ignoring him.... NOW. When an ex is in the picture its never good. Save yourself!!;