kilgore Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Damn. I did. I asked him why he said what he said. He told me it just felt right. Jesus! So I had to tell him how I felt, and that it wasn't the same feelings he had for me. I told him I didn't think it would be a good idea to continue because I don't want to hurt him. He said he didn't see it coming, thought we got along great and all. Well, I guess it's done and over with. It sucks to be in his position but it also sucks to be the one on the other side. I feel extremely bad That was the right thing to do 2
losangelena Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 I agree. It was the right thing to do. And the right thing doesn't always feel good, but feeling bad for a while is better than skirting the issue, 'cause everyone will eventually feel worse. Good on ya. You'll feel alright about it soon. 2
PaperCrane Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Good on you, you seemed to both handle that pretty well. Feelings are scary things, whether they're yours or not.
J21 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Damn. I did. I asked him why he said what he said. He told me it just felt right. Jesus! So I had to tell him how I felt, and that it wasn't the same feelings he had for me. I told him I didn't think it would be a good idea to continue because I don't want to hurt him. He said he didn't see it coming, thought we got along great and all. Well, I guess it's done and over with. It sucks to be in his position but it also sucks to be the one on the other side. I feel extremely bad I think you're missing the other side of the coin. On one hand you feel bad because you had to end things--but on the other hand, you should feel good because it's a relief off your shoulder and cleared the air with him! It was burdensome carrying that around even for a few days. Sure, it may suck not having his company anymore, but you did the right thing and you're a good person for it. 1
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 23, 2015 Author Posted October 23, 2015 He texted me: "I know you said you don't feel the same. But can I ask you why? We make each other laugh, you seem yourself around me and I like you for that. The sex is obviously amazing, at least to me it is and I always try to please you as well. I still can't shake it off my head as to why you don't feel the same. The chemistry is definitely there unless I'm delusional." How do I answer this?!?!
kilgore Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 He texted me: "I know you said you don't feel the same. But can I ask you why? We make each other laugh, you seem yourself around me and I like you for that. The sex is obviously amazing, at least to me it is and I always try to please you as well. I still can't shake it off my head as to why you don't feel the same. The chemistry is definitely there unless I'm delusional." How do I answer this?!?! Call him and tell him you wish you felt differently but you don't
J21 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Call him and tell him you wish you felt differently but you don't I'd just send exactly what kilgore wrote via text. You already met with him and broke the news in person. If you call, he will push for reasons and ask you why, why, why. You don't need to justify or explain yourself to him (which is basically what he is asking). It's not like any answer will make him feel better anyway. You feel the way you feel and that's unfortunate for him, but how it goes sometimes.
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