TheLoveBelow92 Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 Do you guys feel guilty about things that happened in past relationships? I got dumped 3.5 months ago because we had lots of fights for the smallest reasons which I hated. but looking back on it months later, I find it hard to forgive myself for things i done since the break up. She asked for space a few days before my bday decided she didnt want to come out with mutual friends for a weekend away and had her friends that i never met over in out apartment the whole weekend while I was away. She didnt wish me happy bday that weekend, no gift or anything of the sort, when i got home that sunday there was traffic cones left in the sitting room and take away stains left on the couch and spills on the floor. we shared an apartment together. I got home midday on sunday just as she was leaving and she did not say anything other than her and her mate where bringing 2 Australian guys on a road trip to a castle which we went together some time before hand and hated to show them around as her friend was seeing one of them. long story short I slept with a girl that weekend who called me into the bathroom saying " I dont know if this is a bad time saying this with whats going on with Cathy but, I really like you since that time in Dublin (7 months previous) and I really want to kiss you" so we ended up sleeping together but had to stop because I was just so upset with everything. I just felt so crap my ex wouldn't come out, I was mopping all weekend. A few days later me and my ex talked, she said we are over then i told her out of anger and that we kissed out of spite (but it was just because i felt so crap for myself) and lost her **** called her and abused her, and she has blamed me for that ever since saying all this is all my fault for the break up, and i cant help but feel shes right.
Author TheLoveBelow92 Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 Do you guys feel guilty about things that happened in past relationships? I got dumped 3.5 months ago because we had lots of fights for the smallest reasons which I hated. but looking back on it months later, I find it hard to forgive myself for things i done since the break up. She asked for space a few days before my bday decided she didnt want to come out with mutual friends for a weekend away and had her friends that i never met over in out apartment the whole weekend while I was away. She didnt wish me happy bday that weekend, no gift or anything of the sort, when i got home that sunday there was traffic cones left in the sitting room and take away stains left on the couch and spills on the floor. we shared an apartment together. I got home midday on sunday just as she was leaving and she did not say anything other than her and her mate where bringing 2 Australian guys on a road trip to a castle which we went together some time before hand and hated to show them around as her friend was seeing one of them. long story short I slept with a girl that weekend who called me into the bathroom saying " I dont know if this is a bad time saying this with whats going on with Cathy but, I really like you since that time in Dublin (7 months previous) and I really want to kiss you" so we ended up sleeping together but had to stop because I was just so upset with everything. I just felt so crap my ex wouldn't come out, I was mopping all weekend. A few days later me and my ex talked, she said we are over then i told her out of anger and that we kissed out of spite (but it was just because i felt so crap for myself) and lost her **** called her and abused her, and she has blamed me for that ever since saying all this is all my fault for the break up, and i cant help but feel shes right. Two posts you need to read before hand to get a better Idea: Why me..... the break up of break Ups - Imgur Relationship Advise-doom or gloom - Imgur
mightycpa Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 **** it. What difference does it make? After a breakup, you do what you want to do. You don't owe anything to anybody. It doesn't make a difference whether you shook the girl's hand, kissed her or banged her. In truth, it doesn't matter if it was your fault or not. You didn't get along, so what can you do about it? Fight constantly? No. You break up and find someone you can get along with. Once you've broken up, who cares why? It's a little late for that. You don't have to feel guilty. If you feel like you did something wrong, then use that info to treat the next one a little better, that's all. 3
BelleSkye Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 You fought out of frustration and anger due to passion. If she truely cared, you would not have been put in that situation in the first place. Forgive yourself. You owe yourself to be happy. 1
adiamond Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 I mean I've done things that I feel like I shouldn't have done. Nothing that was a deal breaker though. Like, I could have been kinder or I shouldn't have said something. But in reality, we are all not perfect and sometimes you have to forgive yourself, and just learn from any mistakes you made and try to improve for your next relationship or if you guys get back together.
Author TheLoveBelow92 Posted October 23, 2015 Author Posted October 23, 2015 Ive learned the Hard Way, I was blindsided although friends said they seen it coming, I was just Blind. It made this ordeal so much harder but I know it should be just a case of forgive, forget and move on but I guess these things come in time and there is no point rushing things, take things at my own pace "If you guys get back together" I have more hope selling sand to the Arabs than that to be a likely case... but your right take the lessons learned and bring them into the next relationship.
louxor Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 "If you guys get back together" I have more hope selling sand to the Arabs than that to be a likely case... Nearly choked on my coffee when I read that :laugh::laugh:
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