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There is more to this that you may not be aware of on a conscious level . . .

 

And, your friends are correct.

 

The "relationship" with this guy is going to end as well. This attitude is very unfair to and toying with men. Regardless of the fact that this is "just the way you are", men will not appreciate being left hanging. You may find yourself in a precarious position in the future when you're seeing a man, having sex with him and not reciprocating.

 

You say you like the guy but are detached even on that level. If you like someone, enjoy spending time with them and are having sex, you should actually want them to be happy and enjoy the time with you as well.

 

I'm kinda questioning the guy too now . . . why would a man want to spend time with a woman who has sex with him but doesn't care if he's satisfied . . . he did raise the question, so I'm betting he's getting ready to move on if things don't change.

 

If that's what he wants to do then so be it. His loss!

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If that's what he wants to do then so be it. His loss!

No, your loss, because you won't be "getting yours" any more. And the chances of finding another suckser as stupid as him for you to take advantage of, are pretty slim.

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Michelle ma Belle Established Member

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To answer you last question, YES! I don't see the need to continue. I've gotten mine. A lot of the time I'll tell him not to cum so I can get mine but then when I'm done so are we. I don't need him anymore. If he doesn't get his, that's his fault.

 

WOW...just WOW!!!

 

For the record, I don't believe any of this.

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smackie9 Established Member

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For heaven sakes girl! just buy yourself a good quality dildo.

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To answer you last question, YES! I don't see the need to continue. I've gotten mine. A lot of the time I'll tell him not to cum so I can get mine but then when I'm done so are we. I don't need him anymore. If he doesn't get his, that's his fault.

I smell a troll but whatever.

 

Spoken like the typical princess whose daddy has over-indulged her since the day she was born because everything is ALL ABOUT HER.

 

This is your world, OP. We mere mortals only live in it.

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If that's what he wants to do then so be it. His loss!

 

Why are you posting?

 

You wanted to get confirmation about whether or not you are selfish. You got that confirmation.

 

Normally, when a person starts a thread like this one, it's because they are concerned that their behavior is a negative thing and they want to know if they should or need to correct that. You don't appear to want to change anyway.

 

And, it's a not a loss for someone if they move on because their needs aren't being met.

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This is a lonely and narcissistic poster whose only purpose is to fill a social hole that can't be filled by wanting and having a real life as a whole person who is connected to the world.

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I smell a troll but whatever.

 

Spoken like the typical princess whose daddy has over-indulged her since the day she was born because everything is ALL ABOUT HER.

 

This is your world, OP. We mere mortals only live in it.

 

I'd almost believe the princess theory except selfish people like this sometimes get that way by themselves being denied ...then they go on to deny others ...in retribution.

 

And if daddy gave her everything ...her would have given her a car ...and lunch money lol

 

I've got other thoughts but going to keep them to myself ...because I'm feeling selfish this morning

SwordofFlame Established Member

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Do you treat your friends the same way? How do you even have friends?

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StBreton Established Member

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Do you treat your friends the same way? How do you even have friends?

 

She goes through them like Kleenex

losangelena Established Member

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Hope your enjoy a long life with your loving dildo.

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Honestly, I dated a guy like this and I know a girl like this. Funny, they ended up getting together for a while after we broke up. Of course it lasted a month and they were done using each other and it blew up into a big fight. But...I went to therapy after I broke up with that guy, because he screwed with my self esteem and it ended with him hitting me. Anyways, the therapist said he was a narcissistic sociopath. And I hate to say it, that is exactly how you are acting. Selfish with no regard to his feelings, unable to feel empathy. I think maybe you need to get some help.

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For heaven sakes girl! just buy yourself a good quality dildo.

 

I've looked, but haven't yet found one that will drive me to court AND buy my lunch!

 

If you know where I can find one, PM me.

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This is more like a hooker situation than a fwb if you are demanding lunches and rides.

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This is more like a hooker situation than a fwb if you are demanding lunches and rides.

 

Yes, but usually the hook let's the man cum, jesus.

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I don't see the need to continue. I've gotten mine.

 

And you don't know if you're selfish?

 

Sounds to me like you aren't very self-aware.

 

Also sounds like you don't know what a FWB is. Emphasis on the F. Do you know what it is to be friends? Because your posts reveal a lot of taking on your part, with little to no giving.

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I've looked, but haven't yet found one that will drive me to court AND buy my lunch!

 

If you know where I can find one, PM me.

 

I want one that will go camping with me ...take me to fancy dinners ...and buy me flowers

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MidwestUSA Established Member

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I want one that will go camping with me ...take me to fancy dinners ...and buy me flowers

 

You need to buy three separate ones. They don't multitask. :)

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StBreton Established Member

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Oh my Midwest ... Laughed so hard I cried on that one.

 

I think they made a rabbit one that multi tasked right? :bunny:

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CalvinM Established Member

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In all fairness, he sounds pretty spineless too. What kind of guy would put up with this more than once?

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StBreton Established Member

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In all fairness, he sounds pretty spineless too. What kind of guy would put up with this more than once?

 

One who's messaged 1000 girls on OLD and gotten zero response and 2 unsolicited messages ... 1 from the Philippines ...the other Russia

 

I blame it all on OLD :laugh:

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The guy OP's sleeping with sounds like a freakin LOSER! Regardless, OP, you're selfish in and outside of the bedroom. And come on, really? Ask him to buy u lunch? Whatever happens to dignity...I don't want to be harsh but it does seem like you're trading sex for rides and food. And he doesn't even get the quality sex he deserves for what he does/pays for you.

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empresario Established Member

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I've never seen the men and women of LS come together this well before. Thank you for that OP.

 

 

10/10 LS'ers agree, you are selfish.

 

 

I'm not sure why he puts up with you. You are not just selfish sexually, but in your life. With that sense of entitlement, not only will you end up alone...but probably in ruins in other parts of your life. Financially. Romantically. Friendships.

 

 

You need self-awareness. You really do. You have to realize how you come off to people and that you need to change. Until then you are wasting our time asking for advice you have no intentions on following.

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StBreton Established Member

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So true ^^^^ made for some good comic relief too:laugh:

 

Now you should go over to the "hubby went to strip club" thread ... They're drawing blood over there!

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